The parents of a senior one student in Fuyang received a teacher's notice that her daughter was expelled from school because of her puppy love at school, and the boys who fell in love with her were also expelled. Parents said they didn't understand and were fired for falling in love. Is this punishment too heavy? The reporter learned from the school that the school has changed the punishment measures at present, and the two children can go back to school to continue their studies after writing a letter of guarantee and in-depth review.
Parents say their daughter was expelled for puppy love at school.
Mr. Chen is from Fuyang and works with his wife in Ningbo, Zhejiang. Previously, Mr. Chen took his daughter Nana (a pseudonym) to study in Ningbo. After finishing junior high school, Nana was admitted to Fuyang No.5 Middle School and chose to live on campus.
On the morning of February 2, 65438, Grandpa Nana received a phone call from the school and asked him to go to school. "After my grandfather went to school, the school told him that my daughter was in love at school and cuddled with that boy many times at school." Mr. Chen said, "The school made a punishment and expelled my daughter and that boy." Mr. Chen told reporters that after learning the result, he couldn't accept it. His daughter cried at home and refused to go out. "Children fall in love early, which is beyond the control of parents and schools." Mr. Chen said, "Children will be dismissed for puppy love. I think this punishment is too heavy. "
The school said it had changed the punishment measures.
Yesterday afternoon, Anhui Business Daily reporter contacted Nana's class teacher Man. After learning the identity of the reporter and the intention of the interview, Mr. Man said that the school had explained the matter and made relevant decisions to let the reporter contact the school directly.
The reporter learned the ins and outs of the matter from the school politics classroom. It is understood that Nana and the boy met after school started in September this year, and they fell in love for two months. In the meantime, the behavior of the two people hugging their loved ones in public for three times was discovered by the teacher, and one of them was photographed by the canteen surveillance, which had a bad influence. The relevant person in charge said that the punishment for expulsion is to give the child a warning. At present, after the two children made a profound review and wrote a letter of guarantee, the school has decided to return to school to continue studying. The reporter then contacted Fuyang Education Bureau. The person in charge of the Propaganda Department of the Education Bureau told the reporter that the nine-year compulsory education school has no right to expel students, but the high school is outside this scope, and the school has the right to punish students according to the actual situation. "Under normal circumstances, the school finds that students are puppy love and will take a more moderate approach to solve it." The person in charge said, "The fifth middle school made such a punishment, which may be that the child did make some outrageous moves at school."
Psychological counselor: Children's puppy love should be "sparse" and not "blocked"
Child puppy love may be a problem that many parents will face. How to treat puppy love correctly may be related to a child's life-long view of love. In this regard, Anhui Business Daily reporter consulted Lin Lin, founder of China's family emotional intelligence and doctor of psychology of Chinese Academy of Sciences. "Puppy love is not the' scourge' that everyone imagined. Puppy love actually means that the child's physiology and psychology are gradually maturing. " Lin Lin said, "I think it's better to treat children's puppy love than to block it." According to Lin Lin, children should put learning first when they are teenagers.
However, if there is puppy love, the excessive attention of parents and schools may arouse children's rebellious psychology and make them deliberately maintain this love, but it may have more serious consequences. "According to my previous research, many children are not as eager for love as adults, but need warmth and care. It is the child's' love tank' that is empty and eager to be filled. At this time, parents or schools should take a positive attitude to care for them, and kindly remind children to draw a clear line and master the sense of proportion, rather than just solving it through punishment. " Lin Lin said.
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