In this process, two kinds of people will gradually form, one is because of hard work and the other is because of laziness and failure.
Parents, what kind of person do you want your children to be?
If you want your child to become a successful person through hard work, don't let the child go, but force the child!
The biggest scam in education
It's called "Son, you just want to be happy."
I don't know when China's parents began to respect their children more and more, and advocated happy education more and more.
In life, we can often see such a scene:
They often think, is it because my child has no talent that he should learn what he is good at?
As everyone knows, the seemingly respect for children is actually laissez-faire, which is a very irresponsible performance of parents.
You know, any learning process is bound to go through a boring stage. At this time, parents respect their children's instincts, so children's learning can only stay at a shallow stage forever.
If you learn from the East and the West, you will never experience the pleasure of deep learning and form a vicious circle.
Over time, children can only learn nothing and do nothing.
Such children can only become the weak in life.
What is the purpose of education?
Fundamentally speaking, education is to achieve people's career.
To put it bluntly, it is to make children become excellent people.
And excellent people all have one thing in common, they all know how to stick to it and know how to be hard on themselves.
Because they know that the competition in society is very fierce. If you don't work hard and insist on learning, you can only be eliminated by society.
The biggest problem of happy education is that it can only be applied to families, but not to this society.
Parents can respect their children and let them have a happy childhood, but society will not accommodate adults with poor abilities.
Education is never a happy thing. It can even be said to be pain.
Because education is a challenge that requires a lot of effort!
Respect children's choices and let them study happily and freely. This kind of education looks really ideal.
But in fact, "happy education" is just a bowl of poisoned chicken soup. This is like a mine planted in advance, which will end in tragedy one day.
The biggest irresponsibility of parents to their children is to let go of their children's freedom in study.
Singer Liu Huan once talked about his daughter's education in an interview, and he frankly admitted the mistakes he made that year.
Referring to my daughter's musical talent, I mentioned the word "regret" twice.
Because my wife and I have been adhering to the so-called "happy education" principle, we feel that we should not force our children to do things they don't like.
His daughter is the kind of person who likes playing the piano but doesn't want to practice, so they compromised with her.
Now, he laments, "I regret that I didn't force her to learn music since I was a child."
In addition, Liu Huan used the experience of "an experienced person" to advise parents who are interested in cultivating their children: "In fact, if you force your child to practice, he may be fine. Children with this talent can still push. "
There is no regret medicine in the world. If you miss the best age for children to learn, you will never come back.
Cai Kangyong once said a passage, very good, he said:
How can he know how good he is if you don't push him?
If you don't push him, how do you know if he will regret not trying his best in the future?
I was chatting with a friend a while ago. His job is takeout. He comes and goes in the rain every day and his salary is low.
He said he regretted it and often complained about his parents.
Because, since childhood, his parents didn't ask him anything, just wanted him to grow up healthily and happily, so they never forced him to learn anything.
Poor academic performance does not matter; It doesn't matter whether you can draw or play the piano.
I can't go to college, so I have to work; Without good technology, I can only make takeout.
Learning itself is the long-term accumulation of knowledge, and knowledge accumulation itself is a boring process, and there are few happy times.
At this time, many children want to retreat and give up because they don't have enough ability to grasp the direction of life.
As parents, we should give our children some advice, guidance and encouragement, and let them understand the significance of learning and persistence.
It is better to let go than to wait for flowers to bloom.
If you don't want your child to regret when he grows up, parents should take responsibility, go forward bravely and become the guide for their children.
Tell children that if they don't study hard early in life, they will regret it when they grow up.
Behind any success is constant efforts and dedication.
There is a good saying: the world is fair, and every step of your life is paving the way for the future.
In life, there is never a road in vain, and every step counts.
The harder you work, the luckier you will be.
A senior of Zhejiang University became popular because of his full schedule.
The arrangement of watches starts from 6: 00 every morning until 12: 30 in the afternoon.
The learning content of each time period in a week is accurate to a few minutes, and the learning state can be said to be every second counts.
Although he was admitted to the university that many people dreamed of, he never slacked off.
If we don't see this timetable, we may envy him and think he is really lucky. We think he must be a child of a rich family, and he can get everything he wants without studying hard.
But these are just excuses that most of us use to anesthetize ourselves.
Because this timetable reveals real efforts everywhere.
Success is reserved for those who keep working hard!
Who is so lucky to appear out of thin air?
As long as you work hard enough, you will be lucky to get the life you want.
As piano player Lang Lang said, "Some abilities are born, but talent doesn't mean that you will get more through less effort.". Life comes step by step, and the next step is to take this step. "
There is no instant success in the world, only persistence over time.
In this process, we have to go through many difficulties and pay a lot of sweat to harvest sweet fruits.
The edge of the sword comes from sharpening, and the fragrance of plum blossoms comes from bitter cold.
So, dear parents, please stop advocating happy education.
Behind any success, there are extraordinary efforts, and there is nothing in the world for nothing.
Please also tell your children that there is no free pain in this world. What you have suffered will light up your way forward.
Good parents are a little cruel.
Some people say that good parents are more or less cruel.
This sentence is quite right. Children are at the age of play and can't control their own hearts, so they can only be controlled by their parents.
If everything "respects" children, children may really be just ordinary.
I saw an advertisement:
Parents don't necessarily want their children to succeed, but everyone wants their children to become mature and independent adults one day and live a life they like.
But true freedom is very expensive!
Far-sighted parents, all understand a truth:
Raising children is never as simple as feeding them to keep warm. Children have a long way to go. What they need most is the strength to make progress, grow sturdily in the smooth road and not give up easily in adversity.
The above lyrics are written at the beginning of Jay Chou's Listen to Mom, which also tells his childhood experience.
Jay Chou's grades are not very good, and his education is not high, but it is because of his mother's "stick education" that he learned the piano, and at the same time he laid his later musical talent.
In Speak, Jay Chou said, "I wouldn't be here today if my mother hadn't forced me to learn the piano with a cane."
He is very grateful to his mother for her "persecution" in those days, so that he can live proudly now!
Children's non-persistence mostly stems from parents' connivance.
Remember, as long as you push the child again, he will be better than you think.
Therefore, for the good of children, parents should be firm, and appropriate persecution is better than laissez-faire.
Even if children will blame themselves now, at least in the future, children will understand their parents' good intentions.
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