Taking part in family education practice, I realize that parents are the first teachers of children, and good family education is of vital significance to children's growth. Here are some experiences told by a parent.
From my parents' initial enlightenment education to educating my daughter now, my life experience tells me that family education is as important to children as school education, and even determines their development direction and affects their life. Now I will talk about my experience on the issue of family education.
Adults are the target. Learning to be a man is the foundation of children, and children will benefit for life. Educate children to have a healthy psychology and a sound personality, and never let them become knowledgeable, eccentric, indifferent to their parents and indifferent to others and society. We should treat children as independent people, fully respect and understand them, and reason with them no matter how big their mistakes are. I have always adhered to this educational principle for children, so that they can get all-round development in morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor under the education of school, society and family, and at least become qualified citizens who are beneficial to society and adapt to modern society.
Parents are mirrors. "Genius" can't be created, but as long as parents seize the opportunity to discover, cultivate and develop their children's talents and use their own efforts to follow their own path of life, their children may succeed. Parents are not only natural teachers, but also guardians, partners, friends and role models. Children's words and deeds reflect their parents' ideology. It is not easy to be a parent, and it is even harder to be a good parent. That's true. How to be a good parent, I think, first of all, we should strive to "learn to care". Parents should set an example, care about the society, the country, others, friends and colleagues. Make them respect the old and love the young, be humble and help each other, be tolerant and generous, and be kind to others. Secondly, we should strengthen our self-cultivation. Parents should adhere to moral education, abide by the law, and consciously demonstrate to their children practical activities to improve moral quality in line with socialist moral principles and norms. Thirdly, we should create a harmonious environment. The educational environment is a thermometer for children's growth. To build a harmonious family and society, the subtle influence of family life atmosphere can not be ignored, and the moral spirit of family elders can not be underestimated. If children live with proper praise and encouragement, they will learn self-esteem and self-confidence. Living in humiliation, he will learn to feel inferior; Living in equality, he will learn justice; Living with quarrels, complaints, preferences and lack of warmth, he will learn sophistry, blame, jealousy and indifference ... This reality is "teaching without words". Not alarmist.
Children are teachers. Parents should be good at learning their children's strengths. Children have many "lovely shortcomings" that adults should learn from. Such as exuberant vitality and good learning attitude; Not conservative, good at accepting new things; Less sophisticated, sincere and straightforward to people and things; Parents should learn from new technologies, new toys and other unknown knowledge and master the ability to play with them as soon as possible. This advantage of children should be fully affirmed, encouraged and praised by parents, and should not be ignored, accused, suppressed or even stifled.
Respect for teachers is the key. Teachers are the main body of the trinity system education of school, society and family, the engineers of human soul, the founders of children's happiness, the comforters and healers of the soul. For me, I have a deep understanding. My child is a single-parent family, and the feelings of respecting teachers and respecting morality are relatively weak, and the academic foundation is not stable enough. However, his teacher has injected a lot of sincere love and tried his best to strengthen school education with a strong sense of responsibility and dedication, so that my children can develop in a more all-round way in morality, intelligence and physical education, and make up for the shortage of our family education. Such a teacher is highly respected by me, my children and society.
In the future, I am determined to actively cooperate with the school to educate my children so that they can become useful talents who can adapt to modern society. The above experience is just my opinion.
Taking part in family education practice, I realize that morality is the first thing in everything, and education itself is a norm of moral behavior. The education problem of students is not only the school's, but also the family's. Family is the first teacher of children and also the teacher of family education. It is through family education that parents impart good moral character, rich knowledge and experience to their children. For the future of the children. Lay a good foundation for the road of life. In my opinion, the key to doing a good job in family education should be to "prescribe the right medicine" according to the characteristics of children.
Children are like flowers in spring, innocent, lively and lovely, and have poor ability to distinguish right from wrong. At the same time, they are curious, receptive and imitative. Therefore, parents should never use simple and rude methods when educating their children. We should be good at guiding, try our best to stimulate their interest and change passive learning into active learning. They should mainly do the following work:
First, cultivate children's good study habits.
Ye Shengtao said: "Education is the formation of habits." "All good attitudes and good methods should become habits. Only when proficiency becomes a habit can we express a good attitude at any time and place, and apply good methods at any time and place, as if by instinct, we can never use them all our lives. " Children's concentration time is short, so they must improve their learning efficiency in peacetime. For example, when writing homework, you should finish the homework assigned by the teacher within the specified time, and you can't play while doing it; Check your homework and be responsible for yourself. Parents must not be teachers. Parents must pay attention to the analysis of the reasons for the wrong questions, not just staring at the scores. This makes children feel that learning is their own business, and good study habits can get twice the result with half the effort.
Second, pay attention to the ways and means of communicating with children.
As parents, we should put down our airs, make friends with children, regard children as independent subjects, communicate with children as low as possible, use less imperative tone and use more negotiating language. Use "we" more than "you should", even if it is criticism, let your child feel your love for him. Because children's hearts are very fragile, if parents often give their children classes, they will inevitably have a sense of fear and disgust. If they dare not approach you, they will often have rebellious psychology. Not only do they not like what you say, but they are afraid to go to school.
Third, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds.
As parents, we should pay special attention to our image. Parents should behave in a civilized way in front of our children. Because parents are role models for children, parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on children and have a far-reaching impact on their growth. Of course, we must have great endurance and be patient with children. Don't use your child as a vent bucket when you encounter troubles at work. As parents, you can't lose your temper. You can only take pains to persuade education. At most, you can only euphemistically say "I'm really angry if you do this again", and then patiently guide and persuade.
Fourth, stimulate children's interest in learning.
As parents, we should try our best to guide and stimulate children's interest in learning. As we all know, children are active and playful by nature, but as long as they are interested in something, they will really study hard, do it seriously and do it consciously. They don't want to do things they are not interested in, and it is impossible to drive ducks to the shelves for their children. Only by being good at guiding children and stimulating their interest in learning can children be happy and actively involved in learning. Usually, you can make use of your knowledge and imagination to make up some interesting stories or games, so that children can learn while playing, and truly "enjoy learning".
In short, for children's family education, we should learn to communicate with them attentively, help them develop good study habits, stimulate their interest in learning, and let them study happily and grow up healthily.
Taking part in family education practice, I learned that my third son is reading more and more in the third grade, but I also found some problems: swallowing a little while reading, only seeking quantity, not quality; I have a superficial understanding of the emotions and artistic conception conveyed by the words. Of course, it may also be because the content expressed by the work itself is profound, which he really can't understand at a young age. In fact, I am ashamed to say that as a Chinese teacher, I have been asking my children to develop the habit of reading, read more books and read good books over the years, but I seldom read books myself. So many good children's literature works, I only know the title and author, and I don't know the rest.
Considering my son and myself, I joined my son's reading class half a month ago. We will each choose a book, choose a time period, and sit together and read quietly. If you see something interesting, you can also stop and discuss it first. Read them separately and then communicate. After reading both books, use the ride to and from school together or spare time to talk about the stories and characters in the books and talk about your own experiences and gains. The child's understanding may be superficial and the language may be immature, but in the process of communication, I will use my relatively rich experience and sentiment to help him understand and enrich his language. At the same time, it is also a good process of checking feedback, which can let me know clearly whether my child is engaged in reading. More importantly, in the evening, under the warm light, mother and son put their heads together and read a good book, which brought them closer to each other's feelings and hearts.
I hope I can spare some time to read with my children every day.
First of all, I am very grateful to the school for recommending a thought-provoking good reading-"Don't lose in family education" to parents.
I'm ashamed to say that I never seem to have systematically read the authoritative professional family teaching before, so after I got this book, I couldn't wait to browse the book catalogue and found that it is an excellent book combining family education theory with practice. The catalogue alone is enough to shock me!
The book contains not only the analysis and guidance of educational experts, but also real cases and many successful tutoring experiences. In the process of learning, I have seen many misunderstandings in educating children. What impressed me deeply was that the preface of the book wrote: "Children call for our change."
First of all, after reading this book, I understand that when a mother sees her child's shortcomings, she can't always emphasize and speak with emotion, because too much emphasis will weaken her child's self-confidence. As parents, we make a common mistake in the process of communicating with our children, that is, we criticize our children without talking about ways and occasions. Parents should ask their children with a gentle attitude and a peaceful tone, understand the reasons, and don't criticize them indiscriminately. It is best to be one-on-one, which is often more acceptable to children, so as not to hurt their self-esteem. A mother who screams at her children all day will gradually lose her prestige in front of them. We should get rid of bad temper and impatience.
Secondly, I learned to let go. Since the child stepped into the school gate, I, like all parents, ask about the child's learning situation every day, understand the child's learning progress, accompany the child to do homework, and teach her to correct any mistakes. Over time, children do their homework to deal with things, and throw them directly to me for inspection after they finish writing. As a result, the imagination of not carefully examining and losing questions often appears in exams. Although it is inevitable that the child will be left behind, it is also the result of my arrangement for replacement. I decided to let go in the future, stop staring at her and checking her homework, which will help improve my self-care ability and cultivate my sense of independence.
Thirdly, I think it is very important to give children a happy environment for growing up. The relationship between parents and children should be friends and playmates, so that children can experience the exchange of feelings, the happiness of life and the truth of being a man in play.
Finally, I think that in the education of children, they should be allowed to learn based on interest. The motivation of learning is interest. As long as they are interested, children will have the motivation to learn for a long time. Of course, we won't satisfy the interests of all children. Selectively satisfy children's interest in learning when their financial capacity permits. This is what parents should do.
Parents are children's first teachers, and their influence on children is immeasurable. How to educate children by scientific methods? As parents, we have been looking for it. After reading this book, I found a good way to solve the problem.
Thanks again for the help and inspiration provided by Family Education Don't Lose.