1. parrot repetition method
This method is very simple and can be used at any time, especially when the other party is dumbfounded and doesn't know how to reply to the other party.
You just need to repeat each other's words like parrots, and then embellish them with some of your own emotions.
For example: "Too busy recently" and "Yes, too busy recently"; "The weather is really good today." "Yes, for a long time." Answering like a parrot can not only make the other person feel that you are listening carefully, but also recognize the other person emotionally.
2. Understanding emotional methods
Why do we have nothing to say when chatting with someone? Because we have never been recognized by each other in communication.
For example, if someone says to you, "Oh, the end of the year is so busy and annoying." "Who is not busy at the end of the year?" If you want the other person to feel comfortable chatting with you, you must learn to recognize their emotions.
You can put yourself in his shoes and feel the same way. "Yes, when you are finished, let's go to have a big meal together." Does that sound much more comfortable?
3. Keyword chat method
When you express something to the opposite direction, don't simply answer the "yes" topic, interrupt directly, but grab one of the keywords to expand.
For example, "it's really cold recently", if you simply reply "yes", it's like talking to death.
At this time, I grabbed the key word "weather" and began to expand: "Yes, it's too cold. I am going to buy a down jacket. The one you had last year was very good. Where did you buy it? "
4. Transfer method
If you want to win each other's favor, you must shift the topic to each other.
If we hear compliments from others, most people will say a few polite words at a loss. I am very happy in my heart, but I don't know how to answer it properly. At this time, we will use the method of transfer. Follow each other's praise and praise each other in turn.
For example, "Your skirt is really beautiful today" and "Thank you, I think your manicure is very beautiful, and I call it your skin". The other party is also happy, and the degree of affection for you has improved.
5.5W topic method
5W means: when, where, who, what and why, that is, when, where, who and why?
For example, a colleague invites you to play at home. When you see his cat, you can say, "He's so cute. What's his name? What kind is this? When did you raise it? Is it bought or adopted? I also want to keep a pet. " The topic suddenly opened.
The key of 5W is to find the starting point of the topic. As long as the topic is opened, it will be easy to talk later.