1. Where is the workplace?
It is a place that occupies a large proportion of time and energy in our life, and it is a "everyone" outside a small home.
And this is a "successful" place, so when we look at a certain kind of people, we must first consider this situation.
2. Is it important to like it?
In the workplace, the author believes that the feedback of speech, opinions and phenomena can not be determined only by the first reaction of preferences, but should consider the essence of their expression more.
On the one hand, objective evaluation helps to maintain the harmony of team relations, while ensuring the timely and effective completion of the overall tasks and work. On the other hand, it also helps individuals to increase their experience and improve their ability to deal with problems and coordinate their work.
3. Is it good or bad to have a knife mouth and a tofu heart?
Duplicity usually means that you are outspoken and dare to tell the truth. Such people are usually enthusiastic about their work and have relatively constructive opinions. This is a good thing and needs encouragement and support.
There is such a person among friends who can keep a clear head and keep the right direction. But we should also pay attention to the occasion, and we can accept it more euphemistically in public.
Because a good emotional atmosphere can increase the efficiency and enthusiasm of work, which is proved by the emotional abc theory in psychology:
The final result of the event comes not only from the event itself, but also from the individual's attitude, which will trigger a series of changes and even play a decisive role.
Good interpersonal relationships are lubricants. While maintaining the original intention, we should also pay attention to methods in workplace work.
It is better to have a knife mouth and a bean curd heart than a honey mouth and a black heart. But I still don't like sharp-tongued people, because her unintentional words will make a good mood go up in smoke.
A good word warms the spring, and a bad word hurts the cold in June. No matter where you are, at work, at home and at the party, mind your own mouth and don't talk about other people's business.
People who are sarcastic are usually grumpy, and it is very easy to hurt others if they don't speak with their heart. Besides, he is a straight shooter and said things he shouldn't have said. Remember, don't hurt others. This is the standard of being a man.
The knife edge is related to your own quality. Take care of yourself and be merciful.
To tell the truth, I don't like people who are "knife mouth and tofu heart". In my opinion, knife mouth and tofu heart are tantamount to slapping a sweet jujube. Everyone goes out to work to earn money to support their families. Why are you aggressive and unreasonable? I have no obligation to bear the verbal harm caused by your "knife mouth". I have no obligation to know whether you are "tofu heart". That's none of my business. This should be your family's concern, not your job.
I used to work in the finance department, and I was a typical "knife mouth and tofu heart". Usually used to shouting, the whole office can hear the aggressive voice of "training people", and sometimes even make people cry. What I want to say is that if you are friends and colleagues, and their companies are similar in age to yours, they are close and familiar, and have worked together for many years, you can fully understand your working methods, but if you are just colleagues, this attitude is open to question.
There is no denying that such people suffer a lot. Sometimes it's not good to do one thing, so if you are such a person, you should be especially careful. First, outspoken people are easy to be used as guns by others; Second, you have offended the people who should offend others and the people who shouldn't. At work, you will artificially set up many obstacles.
As for whether you like it or not, it depends on the mind of the leader. Even if the leader's self-cultivation is good, people who are "spiteful and heartless" sometimes inevitably make the leader angry, because such people often do bad things with good intentions. -Yan Ming (click on the attention, more exciting)
I don't like people who are mean with their mouths and hearts. What Saboko said was very hurtful, and the feeling of being contacted and heard was very uncomfortable, which directly affected my feelings and emotions now and the result of our communication. Although she is a heartless woman, it will take a lot of time and energy to communicate again because of Sabokov's lip service. Now everyone is very busy, there is no need to spend too much time on it, spend so much cost, and simply don't be together.
In the workplace, people with harsh words can easily hurt people, but they are not bad themselves and will not stab them in the back. If you meet such people, you are lucky.
He who has a knife in his mouth and tofu in his heart is outspoken, outspoken, unobtrusive and scheming, and is better than a secretive person.
Some people, on the surface, talk like honey, which makes people feel like spring breeze and very comfortable. However, it is a scheming bitch, full of calculations, and can do whatever it takes for her own interests. On the surface, he is gentle and polite, just to show his hypocrisy, but actually to buy people's hearts.
There is something wrong with the character of the sweet-talking sword! However, people with sharp mouth and deep heart lack the art of speaking and expressing.
How should a man with a knife in his mouth and a heart express himself appropriately and skillfully?
First, be calm and don't be impatient! People with sharp mouths are hot-tempered, and they are very emotional when something happens. In the face of problems or things that are not suitable for you, you will write your emotions on your face and say them. If you are such a person, you must say four words to yourself when something happens: keep calm.
Second, speak in a different way. People with sharp mouths are straightforward, don't beat around the bush, and it's easy to hurt people. It would be better if we could put it another way or put it mildly. For example, I don't agree with you. Your idea is wrong. On the contrary, my view on this issue is that … can supplement your point of view just now.
If you meet people who are full of malice, please remember that they are well-intentioned, but they are not good at expressing, so be more tolerant. And if you are a sharp-tongued and cruel person, please hone your language and improve the art of expression. Since it is out of kindness, why do you want to hurt others with words?
Hello, I'm glad to answer your question.
I like such people. When my job is working with my mouth, I like such people very much. When they speak clearly, every sentence can basically hit the nail on the head, directly leaving the other party speechless. No matter where you are, you can basically overwhelm each other, and you are very kind and open when you do things in private. I will listen to everything I say. I really like such people from the bottom of my heart.
I don't like such people. I don't like them very much when my work is based on the number of people. People's hearts are all flesh. Basically, everyone likes to hear good things. Basically everyone likes to listen to flattery. If you are killed by such a guy for three transgressions and two times, you will not talk about the occasion at all and leave no face for others. Basically, many people will walk away from ta in private and basically listen to my advice. Don't do this unless there is an accident, so it is impossible for me to win people over, so I am really speechless and really can't like such people.
As the saying goes, a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June. I often hear a saying in my life: she is a human being, with a knife mouth and a tofu heart. You must leave her alone.
I've had this situation since I was a child. I can't say that I am a good person, but I will help my friends whenever they are in trouble. However, his popularity is not so good. Many friends didn't come to the wedding notice last month. I wonder if I know this is the result of my usual outspoken. Compared with those people who are intrigued and intrigued, there can't be two episodes on TV, so I am still willing to get along with them.
First of all, thank Wukong for inviting me.
Personally, I like such people.
Of course, this may also be because I am still the bud of a semi-career, and there is still a long way to go before I succeed, and my face is worthless. Comparatively speaking, growth and promotion are what I value most.
In fact, the most feared thing in the workplace is the person who stabbed you in the back. So this sharp-tongued and cruel person speaks ill of you on the surface, but in his heart he is thinking of you, thinking of you. Such people can accelerate your growth, throw away your baggage and tell you that face is not worth mentioning compared with real skills.
What's wrong with such a heartless person? Once you really change and improve, he will also affirm your success and efforts. With a few more such people, you will find that you are making progress every day, because someone is pushing you, unless you have no self-esteem. So I may not be such a person myself, and I don't want to be such a person, but I definitely don't reject such people. On the contrary, I respect and appreciate such people.
Li Zhuokun of Hanfeng Business School
To tell the truth, I don't dislike the "malicious and heartless" people in the workplace, because some people have this kind of personality, and after you get to know them, there will be no bad feelings. At least, he is constantly encouraging you to make progress with criticism. What I am most afraid of is meeting people with malicious intentions and heartlessness in the workplace. On the surface, it's for your own good, but behind your back or in front of the leader is another matter.
In fact, as long as you are yourself, there is nothing you like or dislike. She is there, as long as you don't let others catch your shortcomings and enlarge them, everything else is acceptable. After all, when the forest is big, there will be birds. Being strong is the real backer!