At all stages of children's education, the door to intelligence needs to be opened by keys. Children's growth determines their future. The development of children's personality has a lot to do with their parents. Education is a long process. Let me share the educational methods of children at all stages.

Children's education at all stages 1

First, preschool education.

Never ignore the pre-school stage, although the children are still young at this time, it is precisely this stage, which is the most important stage to cultivate children to develop various good habits. I don't want to say more here. I just want to let everyone discover the mystery through a short story. 1978, 75 Nobel Prize winners met in Paris. People have great respect for Nobel Prize winners. A reporter asked one of them, "Which university and laboratory have you learned the most important thing in your life?"

The white-haired Nobel Prize winner calmly replied, "It was in kindergarten." The reporter was surprised and asked, "Why in kindergarten? What do you think you learned in kindergarten? "

The Nobel Prize winner smiled and replied, "I learned a lot in kindergarten. For example, give half of your things to your friends; Don't take things that are not your own; Things should be placed neatly; Wash your hands before meals; Have a rest after lunch; Apologize for doing something wrong; Learn to think more and observe nature carefully. I think this is all I have learned. " All the people present warmly applauded the Nobel Prize winner's answer. In fact, most scientists believe that the most important thing they have learned in their life is the good habits taught by kindergarten teachers.

Second, the primary school stage

The child has just entered the primary school stage and has a wonderful idea about learning. As parents, they should have noticed that the homework assigned by the school is always finished on time by themselves without parents' reminding, and they are always very active when they go to school every day, because the school is still a novel place in their eyes, but with the growth of grade, children dislike it more and more. Is it because the school has changed? No, it's because parents' requirements have changed.

Primary school was originally a key stage to cultivate children's imagination, creativity and thinking ability, but many parents began to think about enrolling in various extracurricular remedial classes when their children just learned 1, 2, 3. There are also various reasons, some of which are because both parents go to work and have no time to take care of their children, so they sign up for a class, so that someone will take care of them; But more is the belief that "don't let children lose at the starting line" and "other children have it, my children must have it". Parents' psychology of keeping up with the joneses leads their children to suffer in the end.

In fact, it is indeed beneficial to choose some extracurricular tutoring courses appropriately to expand children's knowledge, but we must grasp a degree and do everything "too much". Have you ever thought about how painful and helpless children are in the face of endless extracurricular tutoring? In the long run, children will be tired of learning and lose interest in learning. I don't think this is the ending my parents want to see. I think if you must apply for a primary school remedial class, you should focus on intellectual development and ability training, because a person's intelligence in primary school has completed 80% of his life.

Third, the junior high school stage

Generally speaking, junior high school and senior high school belong to the middle school stage. I'm here to separate them because the children in junior high school and senior high school are actually very different in age and psychology. Junior high school is a critical period for children's growth. Why do you say that? Because this stage is not only the golden age of their long knowledge, but also the best age for their long body.

From primary school to junior high school, many students have to have a long adaptation period. Because in primary school, after all, knowledge is not difficult to learn, and there are fewer subjects. Teachers take care of students in every way, even in daily life. Moreover, because in primary school, the range of students faced is relatively small, so children always feel that they are excellent, and they are more confident at this time, but it is different after entering junior high school.

First of all, the subjects studied have increased and the difficulty has also increased, such as physics, chemistry, history, politics and so on. For students, it seems that a lot of subjects have been added at once, and they feel a little overwhelmed.

Secondly, the teacher's management of students is no longer the "nanny-style" method as a child, but gradually begins to exercise children's autonomy and independence. At this time, the child just came from the primary school stage and didn't adapt yet. It felt that the teacher didn't seem to care much about himself.

Thirdly, in primary school, the homework given by the teacher is specific, such as the first question, the second question and so on, but not in middle school. Teachers often leave some soft homework, such as "familiarizing with this text" and "previewing the new words in the next lesson", which seems to be not homework in the eyes of some students. In fact, these soft homework is only the necessary preparation stage before class. If you are well prepared, the class will feel very smooth. If you are not fully prepared, there will be a small stumbling block in class. Over time, there will be more and more places you don't understand, which will lead to more and more incomprehension in the future. If this vicious circle continues, your grades will certainly plummet.

Fourth, the change of students' self-confidence. After entering junior high school, there is a gap in students' learning level, and there may be no obvious gap in primary school. But in middle school, due to various reasons, everyone's recognition and acceptance of knowledge is different, and the grades are naturally divided into one level. In addition, at this time they are in adolescence, and they have to face the pressure of the senior high school entrance examination, so their self-confidence is easily hit.

Fourth, the high school stage

Compared with junior high school, senior high school is a new beginning and an extension. No matter in the number of subjects, difficulty or learning requirements, there are higher requirements, and at this time, with the growth of age, students encounter more and more adolescent problems. But the students at this stage are obviously more mature psychologically and more rational in doing things. Therefore, at this time, as parents, we must not give full play to our previous "centralization", but should communicate with our children on an equal footing, because at this time, our children have basically gained the ability to stand on their own feet and judge right and wrong. Maybe at this time, my parents are still a little uncomfortable. They think the child is immature, or they won't let go. They still look after Lazarus as children, but they don't know that this will only make children lose their ability to take care of themselves and cause rebellion. The college entrance examination is a severe test for all senior high school students. A responsible senior high school student often bears too much pressure in front of the college entrance examination, so what parents can do is to help students reduce their burden rather than increase their pressure. But I found that many parents can't do this, and most of them turn anxiety into greater pressure and pass it on to their children. Many children can't bear the heavy pressure and even have psychological problems.

As can be seen from the above, in fact, in the face of children's changes, we should adjust ourselves in time from the aspects of methods, attitudes and expectations, and also restrain our own comparison psychology. In fact, nothing is like the healthy growth of children, especially mental health is more important. Successful people are first healthy people, and healthy people are first psychologically healthy people.

Children's education at all stages. Take care of the children yourself.

Before 1 year-old, children form an attachment relationship and have special needs for their parents, especially their mothers. Children's sense of security and trust between parents and children need to be established with their parents. Therefore, taking care of children in person is a way of parenting that meets children's psychological needs.

If parents don't give enough companionship and children's attachment can't be satisfied, they will easily have feelings of insecurity, sensitivity and irritability, and will also plant a mine of parent-child relationship, which may detonate in adolescence.

Children will not judge their feelings for their parents because of their social status or wealth. Children love only because you call them parents. All they want is patience and enough time to accompany them. The degree of attachment to parents will become lower and lower with age. Instead of lamenting that you can't get into your child's heart in the future, it is better to give him more company when he is young.

Second, say "no" to children before the age of 6.

Love is tolerance, not connivance. When the news of children's suicide is exposed, sad parents will have doubts and give their children the greatest love and tolerance they can. How could he (she) choose such an extreme way to say "no" to me? As a parent, if you don't give your child the correct input of values and indulge blindly, if you don't say "no" to him or her, he or she will have countless "nos" to resist the satisfaction you can't give him.

Growth is always in pain, which is an inevitable process of social development as a human being. Children's values and behavior orientation need constant revision by parents. Even if the child cries for land, he (she) should be firmly said "no". Boundaries and respect can only be learned in this process.

Don't wait for someone to say "no" to your child for temporary comfort!

Third, parents' code of conduct.

The courage of human behavior comes from a firm heart./kloc-All kinds of education before the age of 0/2 are aimed at making children grow into people with mental health and sound personality. /kloc-After 0/2 years old, example is secondary education, and the example is advanced education that brands children's subconscious. Parents' behaviors and ways of thinking will be copied and pasted as the starting point and template for children's actions. If children want to grow up without deviation, parents should set an example.