Recently, some parents spoke to the group mother and wanted to buy some books on parenting. After opening the book review platform, they fell into confusion.
What? There are five books with the same title, such as four books on raising girls and boys, not to mention raising girls (father's edition), boys (mother's edition), boys (practical edition) and girls (growth edition). It is the cleverest way to raise boys and the stupidest way to raise boys.
A little dizzy, isn't it?
It's not a tongue twister, it's really a topic.
Children of only two sexes.
There are many books to teach you how to raise.
Many people bought the book "Raising Boys" because of the recommendation of Fandeng Reading Club, and the douban score was 7.7. Although not too high, it is also a good performance in teaching at home.
Raising Boys, Raising Girls, and Raising Girls (Growth Edition) are all published by CITIC Publishing House and written by the same author-Steve Biddulph from Australia. This set of books mentions some problems and solutions in children's growth. However, due to the different background of study and life, some ideas and methods can't be copied mechanically, but can only be said to have certain reference value for parents.
Another book, also published by CITIC, was written by an Australian, and the same name "Raising Girls" was written by gisela? Written by Preuschoff, the content of this book is vague and there are not many fresh explanations.
In the comment area of the set of books named "Raising Boys (Illustrated Edition)" and "Raising Girls (Illustrated Edition)", the group mother saw such comments:
"So this one is a high imitation book. If you want to buy it, you can go to CITIC Publishing Group to buy it. Forget it, I'm returning it! Fan Deng hasn't read this book. No infringement? Gross! Unfortunately, after the after-sales time, otherwise it will be retired. "
Read the detailed introduction of this set of books carefully. The writer is Julia. who is it? What other books have you written? There is no more information. Look at the text, ideas+examples+illustrations, the form is still very rich. Marshal Chen Yi is quoted in the article. The name of the young friend in the example is Xiaodong. Combined, it is a book written by a domestic author, right? The author's name can also be interpreted as Zhu Ming Leah, and the photo of a foreign child on the cover is suspected of forgery. Douban didn't include this set of books, so it didn't score.
Also without scores are Liao's "Raising a boy this way is the smartest, raising a boy that way is the stupidest" and "Raising a girl this way is the smartest, raising a girl that way is the stupidest".
Interestingly, if you look at the author's information, you will find that his book publishing frequency is very high. Nine books were published in 2009, and 20 12 was actually published 15!
There are many types, and the author seems to be a little symmetrical. For example, 100 mistakes that women can't make in marriage, 100 mistakes that men can't make in marriage, 100 complete works of mistakes that can't be made in marriage, a good plan makes a success: the most effective career planning is illustrated in the workplace, and the most relaxed business rules are illustrated after breaking. Parent-child health science, parent-child economics, 7 lessons of family education for successful parents, 7 training courses for novice grandparents, etc. Most of them are not graded.
Raising Girls (Father Edition) and Raising Boys (Mother Edition) are published by Kyushu Publishing House and written by Meg? Mick and Emerson Agridge. The former emphasizes that the most important thing for a father to raise a girl is to give her full love. The latter emphasizes that although a boy needs love, it is more important to respect him than to love him.
There are too many books about "good mothers"
Mom is going crazy.
Since Yin Jianli's book A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher came out, it has been on the list of family education books for several years. Not to mention its guiding significance to parents' parenting, but its subsequent influence is that more and more books with "good mother" as the key word are dazzling.
Zhang Xiaoping's "300 details of training boys not to beat and scold" and Tao Jing and Li Houze's "300 details of training girls not to decorate" belong to Nanhai Publishing Company. The former defines boys as naughty and disobedient, guiding parents to educate carefully and not to beat and scold; The latter defined a girl as spoiled, unruly and ignorant of treasure, and instructed her parents to "don't spoil a girl, give her a quiet, peaceful and exquisite life, and let her know how to respect others from an early age and be an independent girl with taste and temperament". This kind of rhetoric is pedantic, empty and insincere.
Psychology known by a good mother is positioned as an introductory book on psychology. The core idea is to make all kinds of "problem behaviors" in children's daily life both "understandable" and "decipherable" from the perspective of psychology. The author Ling wants to have her own official WeChat account and publish some original articles regularly. So this book is more like a collection of articles on WeChat official account. On the introduction page of book details, booksellers took pains to intercept many message pictures of WeChat official accounts to show that the author's ideas have been recognized by everyone, as if WeChat merchants were drying orders. Some parents said, "After reading this book, I want to know about children's psychology systematically", which is its greatest value.
According to the requirements of parenting books, it seems that a good mother should always keep a peaceful smile, be gentle and careful, and be restrained and calm. Be tolerant and understanding to your husband, and give love and respect to your children. If you can't do this, then the disharmony of the family and the temper of the child will definitely have an extremely negative impact on the formation of the child's character. It is precisely because of this that books such as "Be a good mother who is not angry, don't shout and don't call to cultivate a good child", "Mother's mood determines the child's future" and "Good mother is not anxious and impetuous" will become popular.
Books often talk about "what is a really good education", and advocate not yelling, beating, scolding or getting angry, and changing children's personality and habits in a good way. This is a good mother's practice. "You are the mother of the child, and your role is irreplaceable for the child. Your words and deeds will have a great impact on your child's present and future, so you must learn to be a good mother. " "Let the children be afraid of you, and you will lose!" Language such as "One of the criteria for being a good mother is to learn to control your temper and not let negative energy damage the relationship between you and your children" not only has no practical guiding significance, but also aggravates your mother's anxiety.
Write it at the end
Celebrity recommendation or book review score can only be used as a reference, not a complete letter or a complete letter. When choosing a book, read the book details page carefully and try to read some chapters to see if the writing is smooth and the content quality is good. If you are influenced by unreasonable educational ideas, you might as well not watch them.
As a reference book, parenting books are long-winded and export concepts of love and respect. If you can do this, congratulations, you are already an excellent parent.