First, don't use corporal punishment and other severe punishment measures.

Many parents equate punishment with corporal punishment of their children. In fact, corporal punishment of children is only a way to punish children. Parents should try to avoid using corporal punishment and not hit children in the process of educating their children. Perhaps when the mood is calm, parents will feel that they will definitely not hit their children, but whenever parents are angered by their children, they often cannot restrain their behavior rationally. In such an atmosphere and environment, parents can easily lose control and abuse their children.

Although some parents don't hit their children, they sometimes shake them. This kind of action is actually a means of corporal punishment, which may cause harm to children's health. Of course, it is absolutely impossible to slap a child. Many news reports mentioned that a child was permanently deaf because of being slapped by his parents.

Therefore, even if you want to punish children and educate them severely, don't beat and scold them. If parents feel that their children can't be restrained except by beating and cursing, then parents should first reflect on themselves rather than their children.

Second, pay attention to the timing of punishment.

Many children always start doing bad things when their parents are busiest, because they know that their parents don't have time to punish them at this time, so they are more confident and bold, and it is true. We used to do such things when we were young.

When mom and dad don't have time, they just say "I'm waiting to come back and clean you up" and leave, but in fact, when parents come back, they completely forget what their children did wrong before. Sometimes, even if they remember, they just teach their children a few words lightly, which doesn't play a punitive role at all. Therefore, in order to make punishment effective for children, it is necessary to punish them immediately when the behavior happens or just happens, so that children can better remember and effectively prevent the same thing from happening again.

Third, pay attention to the consistency of punishment

If punishment really works, it is necessary to keep the consistency of punishment. For example, if a child didn't eat a snack today, the parents scolded him, but the child ate it again the next day. Parents felt that it didn't matter if the child ate it, so they let him eat snacks. Obviously, the child was criticized by his mother for fighting with the child the day before, but today he survived because his mother was in a good mood. Such inconsistent punishment will make children feel the seriousness of the matter, and will also make children feel that their parents are a person who is not trustworthy.