Correctly handle the relationship between love, study and career. Love is a major event in life, but it is not the whole of life. College students should focus on their studies, because learning is their main purpose. Career is higher than love, advocating career first, and it is not appropriate to fall in love prematurely. But don't think that love is a stumbling block to your career. If handled well, love can also play a catalytic role in your career.
2. Cultivate the ability to love. Its ability to love includes the following aspects:
(1) The ability to meet love. If a person has love in his heart, he must dare to express it in the right way; If you face the love of others, you should be able to choose to accept or refuse in time. Can bear the psychological trouble of refusing or refusing courtship.
(2) the ability to refuse love. You should have the courage to refuse love that you don't want to accept or think is not worth accepting. When you refuse, you should pay attention to two points: first, if you don't want to love, the tone of refusal should be decisive and firm, and there should be no room for hesitation, otherwise it will cause more harm to the other party. Second, we must master the proper way. You should master the way and degree of speaking. Although everyone has the right to refuse love, they should at least respect others.
3. Treat love setbacks correctly.
(1) Face the reality, the pain of lovelorn lies in the word "love". Love is two-way, mutual, based on the love of both sides. Without either side, love will be unbalanced and love will end. At this time, it is unrealistic for the lovelorn party to love the other party again. As a rational college student, we should face up to this reality.
(2) Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Doing so will help you understand the reason why the other party terminated love, help you accept the painful reality of lovelorn, and get out of the shadow of lovelorn as soon as possible.
(3) emotional catharsis. Don't hide or suppress the pain caused by lovelorn, but find an appropriate way to vent it. Commonly used venting methods are: 1) Tears relieving method. Crying when you are sad can calm your mood. Experts believe that tears can expel some toxins produced by the body during stress response. 2) Exercise relaxation method. Intense physical exercise helps to release the energy brought by excitement. 3) divert attention. When you are in a bad mood, you can do something that interests you. 4) Decoration method. When you fall in love without the person you love, give reasonable reasons and facts to explain your frustration, so as to get spiritual comfort. 5) talk. Tell your troubles to trusted teachers, classmates, friends, teachers, etc. You can also keep a diary or write letters. If you feel that your inner depression is too deep to be resolved, you can also seek psychological counseling from a psychological counselor.
(4) Situation transfer. The reason why it is difficult to get rid of the trouble of love after lovelorn is because all aspects of life are inextricably linked with former lovers, so if you want to get rid of the pain of lovelorn, you must change a brand-new environment and temporarily leave the once familiar environment. Put yourself in a happy environment. For example, making more friends, participating in some group entertainment activities, or looking for someone to go shopping, travel and relax, all of which will help broaden your mood. On the other hand, because there is a sense of emptiness after lovelorn, it is difficult to adapt for the time being, so you can enrich yourself with work or other methods to prevent yourself from thinking in your spare time practice.
(5) sublimation. As soon as possible, we should sublimate lovelorn love into a kind of motivation and devote ourselves to study or work as soon as possible. Don't be devastated by lovelorn love, thinking that life and life have lost their meaning. You know, love is an important part of life, but it is not the whole of life. We should treat love correctly, put it in a correct position, and handle the relationship between love and study, love and life, and love and marriage.
4. Correct the love motive.
Love is not to comfort and relieve boredom, not to find * * *, and not simply for sexual satisfaction. The choice of love object is a complicated process, and factors such as economy, politics, culture and personality can not be ignored, but the common ideal direction and common moral sentiment are the most fundamental. The quality of love motivation is directly related to the success of love. As a bridge of the new era, college students' love view should be an organic combination of ideal, morality, career and * * *.
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Question 2: How can we cultivate the ability to love, accept more beautiful things, participate in more public welfare activities, truly love and seek adoption?
Question 3: How to cultivate college students' ability to fall in love? It seems normal for college students to fall in love. Now there is no prohibition in colleges and universities, and of course there is no support. I think contemporary educators know very well that this kind of thing can't be banned. Just like Dayu's flood control, it is difficult to stop it. Facts have proved that persuasion is more effective than blind prohibition. I don't approve of college students falling in love for several reasons. 1, people's energy is limited, so you can't have your cake and eat it. University life is rich and colorful, of course, mainly studying. Now college students will set themselves various goals as soon as they enter the campus: postgraduate entrance examination, CET-4 and CET-6, computer level 2 and so on. When you want to do these things, you'd better not fall in love, unless, of course, your partner shares your goals and ideals. There are also some students who want to go to * * * or even start a business during their college years. How much energy does a person have to do many things at the same time? Therefore, it is suggested that students with lofty goals should not get involved in the circle of love too early. Of course, it does not rule out that some students come to college just to fall in love. For these students, love is love, because this is your ideal! 2. People have limited funds and need parents to pay the bill. Nowadays, going to college is more and more expensive, and the cost of love is not low, especially in such a realistic society. I have seen too many phenomena, wasting money for my girlfriend and ignoring my parents to eat chaff. Perhaps few people can really understand what love is, but now many people draw love and money together. Now that college students are adults, parents' support obligations have ended, but we still want our parents to pay for our love! 3. Regional problems, the reality we have to face. College students generally come from all corners of the country, but love has no boundaries. After watching the TV series "Double-sided Adhesive", I have a deeper feeling about this problem. In the play, Li Yaping, a boy from Northeast China, and Chen Lijuan, a girl from Shanghai, faced many contradictions after their marriage, which may be due to this geographical problem, and different places have different ideas. When the thoughts of the North and the South collided fiercely, they were left with so much helplessness. Of course, there are still many practical problems in China. Where will you live after graduation? Go back to that home during the Spring Festival? Maybe these are nothing to some people, and everything can be overcome for love, but we can never predict the problems in reality. 4, impulse is the devil, you must be calm in the face of love. At that time, an elderly teacher told us to read Lenin's love letter to his wife, which was called true love. Love is not rhetoric, romantic pursuit or material enjoyment. We should be more cautious when we don't really understand what love is. Some people always tell you how much they like you when they meet for the first time. Would you believe it? What does he (she) like about you? Know what about you? Why do you say you like it the first time you meet? Love at first sight? Can you believe it? This only shows that "like" and "love" have depreciated for some people.
Question 4: How to treat love, learn to have correct love ability, cultivate ability and develop meaning.
Ability fromm: the ability of the species owner to break through the companion's leaving the fence and the ability of the species to unite; The ability to overcome loneliness, leave sleep, allow self-permission and maintain integrity refers to the ability to establish intimate relationships, guide true self-experience and bring happiness.
Love process, training ability process
Ability first depends on internal storage, less effort, less dryness, and insufficient ability. The foundation parents give their children is to let them stand on their own feet.
Fromm: Concern, respect, responsibility, understanding of a certain meaning, happiness, active struggle rooted in one's own ability, Eckhardt.
Self-image is everything it wants. Self-truth and self-identity include self-image, self-identity and self-righteousness. Maintaining the uniqueness of self, respecting uniqueness, tolerance, being used to dealing with love and career, and communicating with them, as well as other emotional development forces all need to cultivate everyone's ability.
Actually, everyone is not unique. It seems that the whole group of friends are masochistic, withdrawn, clumsy, practical and sympathetic. It may not be necessary to cultivate their abilities. First of all, they must be able to cherish their own characteristics and accept their own shortcomings-I am stupid, I am honest, I am kind, and I am willing to practice smiling three times before going to bed. If you are frozen, you must shrink back. Give up easily when you encounter setbacks. After all, the world is the same as me.
Ability comes from self, self-acceptance, self-identity, self-confidence and self-strength. Understanding problems like children requires too much skill and control. Congratulations on your success.
Specifically: let the inner child become weak and try to control it, don't show falsehood, cover up weak inferiority and control fear.
The key to cultivating ability
If you want to fall in love, you only need to cultivate your own ability and need to enter the influence of many reasons. You are eager to talk about the problems that are easy to occur in love because you have no ability to talk and say goodbye before.
Can handle the influence of adjustment theory when encountering problems.
Can we improve our ability? First of all, we should join some schools' groups or societies, broaden our own circles and increase opportunities for contact and communication with the opposite sex.
The specific communication process should be positive, enhance the ability of self-expression, discrimination, acceptance or rejection, and the development ability of ordinary communication, especially the ability to take care of differences. More importantly, we should pay attention to the common development of the two, have certain ability to deal with various problems in love, and play a positive role in promoting them.
Why are you lovelorn?
In fact, the key to solving the problem of lovelorn love is to cultivate ability, which includes the ability to say goodbye, the ability to refuse to say goodbye, and the ability to refuse to say goodbye. I think we should have quality in communication and love.
Being able to keep pace with the environment, family background, existence, etc. is generally related to the fact that children with happy families can look at things more happily and tolerantly ―― because they are full of sunshine and environment, they can understand and express things more accurately; Single-parent families or families with poor parents who quarrel over rice, oil and salt at night have less permission from their children.
Ability includes knowledge, cognition and acceptance; Giving ability; The ability to refuse; Ability to solve love conflicts; Everyone can accept fear, such as the ability to bear the frustration of lovelorn. If the opposite sex wants to establish intimacy, it should be eager to show it. Family of origin, which was originally complicated, was traumatized, so that reconciliation can prove that the relationship can be overthrown, and no kind of sadness can be alleviated.
Suddenly forget one thing and remember the meaning of my lost years.
Sadness, pain and failure are all false, so we should cherish this world and be false. Pain, failure and sadness are always real.
True species, internal protection, no rhetoric, no grandstanding, inconsistent words and deeds, honest and firm, reneging on oath, certain commitment, always believe in sweet language.
When I was young, I had a long-term relationship with a stranger, but it was difficult for me to cultivate my ability and sense of responsibility.
(1) The rational analysis of the ability to satisfy needs to dare to express, be good at expressing, have the ability to satisfy, understand the values of healthy love, know that you like and need to be appropriate, be sensitive and enthusiastic about everything, make judgments and make choices about the ability to express and accurate information.
(2) have the ability to refuse, voluntary or value acceptance, should be courageous and refused. Attention should be paid to two aspects: hope for emotional breakdown, brave intercession and reluctance. Second, we must master the correct refusal. Although everyone refuses power, we should cherish every sincere feeling, respect every kind of self-esteem and test moral sentiments.
Both abilities should be able to act on the sustained energy of material spirit.
How can we cultivate our own ability? I was once confused about the problem, and I haven't found a fulcrum yet. It seems that it is worthwhile to find the problem, or it is really beautiful to wait for it.
In the lover's
Besides, trust needs self-confidence, and I am confident. I need to find the initial solution, gain confidence and give me confidence. If I believe I can realize my ability, how can I cultivate my ability?
I want to say like Shakespeare: love everyone, believe in fanaticism and do nothing wrong ... >>
Question 5: How do college students cultivate their love ability? Determine what love is from college students' mental health. Fraternity or love? If it is fraternity, it is good to do more public welfare undertakings at ordinary times. If it is love, it can only be understood but not expressed. Because everyone has a different view of love.
Question 6: I am extremely lacking in the ability to love. What should I do? How to cultivate? Plant some flowers and trees.
Keep some cats, dogs, fish and so on.
The living environment has the greatest influence on a person's character cultivation.
Maybe you can read some famous books, broaden your horizons and broaden your mind.
Question 7: "Talk about your views on college students' love, and how college students should cultivate their love ability. "It is best to 1000 words or more. Big brother and big sister, help! Really rely on feelings, pursue that kind of warm-hearted feeling, and talk about an unforgettable love while young. When you are older, it will be much more realistic. Maybe you will remember how to love. But remember not to force or refuse deliberately. When love comes, let it be. One more thing, don't let love affect your study and so on. Of course, it would be better if I could urge you to make progress.
Question 8: How to improve students' listening and speaking ability? 1. Stimulating writing interest is the premise of improving students' writing ability.
Einstein once said: "Interest and hobbies are the greatest motivation.
Interest is the best teacher, and the best teacher is the person who is best at cultivating students' interest.
Most students find it difficult to write, and talk about "literature" turns pale, resulting in weariness of learning.
If the teacher does not cure this heart disease in time, then writing teaching will get twice the result with half the effort.
The fundamental reason why students hate writing is that they don't know what to write and how to write.
According to the psychological characteristics of primary school students, start with what they are interested in.
For example, before writing an activity, organize students to participate in various interesting activities purposefully.
Such as: visiting factories, visiting places of interest, holding rope skipping and tug-of-war competitions.
When writing, first conduct oral training in class, encourage students to participate, tell what they see, hear, feel and want in the activity, let them speak freely, and eliminate the mystery and fear of writing.
On this basis, students are trained in writing, students complete their compositions in a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere, and their interest in writing also follows.
Second, cultivating reading, writing, reading and writing is an important way to improve students' writing ability.
This is the truth that "when you read thousands of books, you write like a god".
After students become interested in writing, teachers should seize the opportunity and train students to read and write more, otherwise all previous efforts will be in vain.
Question 9: It takes 1500 words ~ ~ thank you 1 to write a paper about college students' love view. Treat love correctly.
Correctly handle the relationship between love, study and career. Love is a major event in life, but it is not the whole of life. College students should focus on their studies, because learning is their main purpose. Career is higher than love, advocating career first, and it is not appropriate to fall in love prematurely. But don't think that love is a stumbling block to your career. If handled well, love can also play a catalytic role in your career.
2. Cultivate the ability to love. Its ability to love includes the following aspects:
(1) The ability to meet love. If a person has love in his heart, he must dare to express it in the right way; If you face the love of others, you should be able to choose to accept or refuse in time. Can bear the psychological trouble of refusing or refusing courtship.
(2) the ability to refuse love. You should have the courage to refuse love that you don't want to accept or think is not worth accepting. When you refuse, you should pay attention to two points: first, if you don't want to love, the tone of refusal should be decisive and firm, and there should be no room for hesitation, otherwise it will cause more harm to the other party. Second, we must master the appropriate methods. You should master the way and degree of speaking. Although everyone has the right to refuse love, they should at least respect others.
3. Treat love setbacks correctly.
(1) Face the reality, the pain of lovelorn lies in the word "love". Love is two-way, mutual, based on the love of both sides. Without either side, love will be unbalanced and love will end. At this time, it is unrealistic for the lovelorn party to love the other party again. As a rational college student, we should face up to this reality.
(2) Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Doing so will help you understand the reason why the other party terminated love, help you accept the painful reality of lovelorn, and get out of the shadow of lovelorn as soon as possible.
(3) emotional catharsis. Don't hide or suppress the pain caused by lovelorn, but find an appropriate way to vent it. Commonly used venting methods are: 1) Tears relieving method. Crying when you are sad can calm your mood. Experts believe that tears can expel some toxins produced by the body during stress response. 2) Exercise relaxation method. Intense physical exercise helps to release the energy brought by excitement. 3) divert attention. When you are in a bad mood, you can do something that interests you. 4) Decoration method. When you fall in love without the person you love, give reasonable reasons and facts to explain your frustration, so as to get spiritual comfort. 5) talk. Tell your troubles to trusted teachers, classmates, friends, teachers, etc. You can also keep a diary or write letters. If you feel that your inner depression is too deep to be resolved, you can also seek psychological counseling from a psychological counselor.
(4) Situation transfer. The reason why it is difficult to get rid of the trouble of love after lovelorn is because all aspects of life are inextricably linked with former lovers, so if you want to get rid of the pain of lovelorn, you must change a brand-new environment and temporarily leave the once familiar environment. Put yourself in a happy environment. For example, making more friends, participating in some group entertainment activities, or looking for someone to go shopping, travel and relax, all of which will help broaden your mood. On the other hand, because there is a sense of emptiness after lovelorn, it is difficult to adapt for the time being, so you can enrich yourself with work or other methods to prevent yourself from thinking in your spare time practice.
(5) sublimation. As soon as possible, we should sublimate lovelorn love into a kind of motivation and devote ourselves to study or work as soon as possible. Don't be devastated by lovelorn love, thinking that life and life have lost their meaning. You know, love is an important part of life, but it is not the whole of life. We should treat love correctly, put it in a correct position, and handle the relationship between love and study, love and life, and love and marriage.
4. Correct the love motive.
Love is not to comfort and relieve boredom, not to find * * *, and not simply for sexual satisfaction. The choice of love object is a complicated process, and factors such as economy, politics, culture and personality can not be ignored, but the common ideal direction and common moral sentiment are the most fundamental. The quality of love motivation is directly related to the success of love. As a bridge of the new era, college students' love view should be an organic combination of ideal, morality, career and * * *.
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Question 10: How to improve one's comprehensive quality With the in-depth development of China's reform and opening up, the establishment of a socialist market economic system, the leap-forward development of higher education, the continuous expansion of the scale of running colleges and universities, and the increasing number of college graduates, the employment of college students has encountered unprecedented challenges. Facing the market and competition, colleges and universities adopt different forms to reform the current education methods and guide and educate graduates' employment. However, judging from the feedback from the job market, especially employers, employers value the comprehensive quality of graduates most. Because quality is the foundation and connotation, only high quality can be transformed into high ability. If college students want to participate in social competition, adapt to social requirements and stand out in the fierce talent market, they must pay attention to the track of improving comprehensive quality from one-sided learning of professional knowledge in the past. Generally speaking, people's qualities include political and ideological qualities, scientific and cultural qualities, psychological and personality qualities and physical qualities. Among them, physical quality is the material basis, scientific and cultural quality is the core, psychological quality is the key, and political and ideological quality is the leading factor. A person's quality is a measure of the comprehensive level of these aspects. The quality of college students mainly refers to the specific qualities that college students need to possess. The basic qualities of college students include ideological quality, cultural quality, professional quality and physical quality. At present, the main problems in the cultivation of college students' comprehensive quality are: 1, lack of motivation and perseverance. The value orientation of contemporary college students is diversified. Some students have vague political ideas, have no lofty ideals and ambitions, tend to be pragmatic, pay attention to utility and benefit, and lack long-term planning, lofty ideals, lofty aspirations and social responsibility, so they have no strong motivation. 2. Lack of dedication. Students who are used to living around their parents are prone to form a "little emperor" temper, so they have developed the habit of only taking and not knowing dedication. It will definitely lead to a lack of professionalism in adulthood and a poor image of social integrity. It deviates from the most basic and core requirements of professionals and is difficult to adapt to the requirements of social development. 3. Lack of the ability of correct social interaction. Some students are arrogant, indecent, disrupting public order, and vulgar in language, which is easy to be rejected by the dormitory; Some students are withdrawn, have poor self-control, are not good at communication, and lack tolerance and cooperation spirit. 4. Lack of self-care, self-reliance and the ability to solve practical problems. The basic professional skills are not solid, the professional quality is not high, the practical ability is lacking, the passive coping phenomenon is prominent, the active participation ability is poor, and the problem-solving ability is lacking. 5. Physical and psychological problems. Many students are physically weak, emaciated and myopic. Many students' physical education scores are average or barely passed, and their psychology is relatively fragile. Once frustrated, it is easy to have psychological barriers. To comprehensively cultivate students' comprehensive quality, we should start from the following aspects: 1. Ideological and moral quality According to the feedback information from the talent market and employment situation in recent years, many employers pay more attention to talents and put ideological and moral quality in the first place. Graduates with high political and ideological quality, strong dedication, strong sense of responsibility and hard work become the first choice. Ideological and moral qualities include political quality, dedication and responsibility, hard work spirit and pragmatic style. (1) High political quality. Political quality is not only manifested in the foresight of political stance and political concept, but also in the keenness of social development trend, the ability to predict and grasp the national macro-policy and the quality of political theory. (2) Career and sense of responsibility. Many employers emphasize professionalism, responsibility, dedication and dedication in their requirements for talents. It is hoped and required that graduates regard their chosen job as a long-term pursuit and commitment, share weal and woe with the unit, and share weal and woe, not just a temporary foothold for a career and a living. Only dedicated college students can be enterprising, ambitious, develop their potential creativity, make contributions to society and realize their life value. (3) the spirit of hard work and pragmatic style. This is the spirit that entrepreneurs should have. In the process of reform, opening up and modernization, they will encounter numerous difficulties and obstacles, and twists and turns are inevitable. This requires graduates to always maintain high morale and indomitable style, and unswervingly move towards the established goals. What employers need is capable people who can work in a down-to-earth manner and have a fighting spirit, rather than aiming too high. 2. Scientific and cultural quality Today, with the rapid development of modern science and technology and increasing dependence on human intelligence and knowledge, workers ... >>