My friend has been depressed recently. It is a pleasure to bring children back from their hometown, but when they learn that children are prone to depression, they can't help but have mixed feelings. In many people's minds, depression seems to be synonymous with literary youth. Depression is far from ordinary people, let alone children. "Children know how to play every day, where there is depression!" I believe this is something that many parents will blurt out. But in the eyes of friends, this is a great irony. Children have been fostered by their parents in their hometown and can only be seen on holidays. Although there is little communication with children, no one loves children more than himself. In order to create better conditions for children, friends can finally take their children to a foothold in big cities today, but the pain of friends when they hear the diagnosis results of their children's depression tendency can be imagined. It turns out that when cultivating children, the elderly insist on strict education and apply the educational idea of educating friends to children. In this way, long-term patience and lack of communication have changed children's psychological state, and their personality has become more introverted, with no outlet for expression.

First, the child's depressive symptoms and consequences

1. Emotions become irritable and easy to get angry, which is not conducive to integration into collective life.

Children's emotions are obviously violent, and they will be very intense when communicating with peers or parents. There is no reason for this mood fluctuation, that is, nothing obvious will annoy the child, but the child will suddenly have an emotional breakdown and like to throw things or fight. Obviously, this state is not conducive to children's integration into collective life, and it will also make it difficult for children to communicate with their peers normally.

2. Anorexia and other phenomena affect health.

Children will lose their appetite and become uninterested in their favorite food. They think eating is a very difficult process, and anorexia is extremely obvious. Obviously, this state will lead to the child's weight loss, thus affecting the child's health. At the same time, children are in the growth and development period, which is easy to cause malnutrition and other consequences.

3. Too eager to stabilize your emotions

Children will be very anxious, and there will be obvious mood swings when they encounter small situations or environmental changes. I often rush to sleep, or night sweats are obvious, and I often wake up. Sleep quality is seriously affected, resulting in insufficient learning and life experience. Children's depression tendency may be related to parents' usual behavior habits, which is a very important reason for children's depression.

Second, what habits of parents are the reasons for children's depression?

1. The education method is too strict.

Some parents have strict educational methods. Children who make mistakes will be severely criticized and educated. They think that only in this way can children get good grades and correct their character, but their parents ignore their emotional demands. A way that is too strict makes children afraid to express themselves and do things boldly. This kind of fear is terrible, and long-term accumulation will make children's emotions unable to be released.

2. Lack of communication with children

Some parents, in their communication with their children, mostly express their opinions and preach severely, ignoring their emotional feedback. Some parents don't even care what their children say. They think that children's ideas are naive and immature, while their own ideas are authoritative and absolutely correct. They don't even ask their advice when making decisions for their children.

Neglect companionship

Think that material conditions are the most important, and emotional demands are just melodramatic. I don't know the meaning of companionship, and I don't know how to meet the emotional needs of children. Compared with academic performance, children's nutritional intake and accompanying children are more easily overlooked. Then, what kind of relationship should parents establish to help their children's mental health when dealing with their children's interpersonal relationships?

3. In the relationship between parents and children, what can help children grow up psychologically?

1. Equal relationship

Parents and children also need equality. Parents should not only establish authority in front of their children, but an equal relationship is more conducive to the expression of children's ideas, and children are more willing to cooperate with their parents' guidance and suggestions.

Have a stable relationship

If parents' performance makes children feel insecure, the psychological state of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss will make children very sensitive. Because there is no good sample to deal with family relations, you will be even more at a loss in collective life.

3. A relationship of mutual respect

Parents and children respect each other, which is more conducive to each other's emotional output and more rational expression of emotions, rather than moral kidnapping criticism. Cultivating children's healthy mental state is a part that parents need to pay more attention to. The influence of parents on children's psychological state is very important, and the choice of methods is the key.