Really pity the inheritance of the wind, the palm of your hand is full of meat, and any wronged child will be reluctant to part with his mother.
I had a similar experience, and I was confused, but I am glad that I finally got rid of this dilemma and now live in harmony with my children. After I had Bauer, I was puzzled why Dabao and I were so close, but now we don't listen. After this long vacation, I spent more time with my children, kept communicating and finally figured something out.
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The mother's attitude has changed, the method has changed, the child is in a good mood, and the parent-child relationship is good.
1, treat two children with the same attitude.
Taking care of two babies is a bit overwhelming for Bauer. Young Bauer needs more energy from her parents. She is exhausted. I always thought Dabao was old enough to handle some things by himself. In fact, children are children after all, and their minds are still immature, and they need the intimate care of their parents.
Mother loves Dabao in her heart, but sometimes her attitude changes and she doesn't know it, but the child is very sensitive. When a child is naughty when he is young, his mother always has the patience to accompany him and comfort him. Older children have something to ask their mother. Because of physical fatigue, his mother sometimes seems impatient, and Dabao will feel lost when he sees it.
Therefore, whenever and wherever, the legitimate needs of Dabao should be reasonably met, and we should be as happy as Erbao. Have you noticed that when we coax children, we often bring some children's voices, which are soft and gentle. With great patience and love, and the same attitude towards the two children, Dabao will feel particularly warm in his heart.
With his mother's love, Dabao is confident and confident, and will not resist his mother's good advice, because the children know that his mother loves him and have learned to adopt for their own good.
2. Let the children adapt slowly.
From being spoiled for many years to losing it, children also have an adaptation process. After Bauer was born, some Dabao appeared behavioral degeneration, like babies. This is a natural behavior, in order to get more attention and care from parents.
As Bauer grows up and becomes more and more lovely, Dabao's behavior will gradually disappear. Children will feel the magic of life. Brothers and sisters will laugh, walk, eat and talk. Dabao will see Bauer's progress, and he will be inspired to do better.
Parents should establish Dabao's authority in front of Bauer. Being a little teacher will make children feel proud. The boss didn't come for nothing. They should protect their younger brothers and sisters and set a good example. The relationship between the two children is harmonious and brotherly.
Don't always let Dabao give way to Bauer.
The previous idea has always been that the boss should make way for the second child, and the second child should take care of everything. Dabao gave way to Bauer, making him look sensible and boss-like. But in fact, children don't buy this set, they are all good children of their mothers. Why should I let him go?
Once my grandmother's grandfather came to my house for dinner. Although he grew up watching Dabao and loved her very much, he still couldn't help saying that Dabao should let his sister go and take care of her more. Dabao plausibly said, "Cultivate your sister's independence and do what you can."
I still agree with this view. Under my sister's training, my sister became a little helper for my mother and sister. She likes to help. Every time I print my sister's homework, she has to deliver it herself. When my sister gets up early to study every day, when she hears her sister wake up, she always shouts, "Sister, come and give me a kiss. I miss you. "
My sister sometimes deliberately takes a sample and says, "I won't kiss you." In a short time, I took the initiative to find my sister and showed her kindness. Mother and daughter embrace each other, and the scene is warm and loving.
4. Mothers and children are equal.
Children's desire for independence when they grow up, especially adolescence, seems to have been labeled as rebellious. Coupled with Bauer's participation and changes in the environment and family, youth is more restless. At this time, my mother will always recall the cuteness and warmth of her children when she was a child, and sigh that time will never come again. I really hope to go back in time and relive the tender days in the past.
Looking ahead, every age group has its own beauty. Give your child plenty of free development space, shut up and talk to your child equally, and don't condescend. Don't scold with a straight face when you see a child's small mistake.
Mothers should also have the courage to admit their mistakes, win the respect and trust of children, and encourage children to believe in their children, so that children will come out of anxiety and complex emotions and learn to grow and mature!
Once faced with Dabao's persistence and disobedience, I was at a loss. After painstaking thinking, I finally understood the reason. The key is not to be impatient in front of Dabao, to be calm and calm. Even if you are tired again, you should put out 12 points of energy, listen carefully to your children's voices and demands, and return to your original heart.
Being a mother is not easy. The education of two babies has brought unprecedented challenges. We keep running in the communication and find the best way to get along. As long as there is love in your heart, you can overcome difficulties, be a good friend and helper of your child, and lead your child to grow up healthily!