When a man wants to have a "threesome", how to crack the derailment?

There is a saying, don't test human nature, because human nature simply can't stand the test. I have seen many cases of cheating, and it is not surprising to see the depth of human nature, so that every time my wife tells her what happened, I can say: his performance is normal.

After men were found cheating, some people directly forced them to divorce, knelt down for mercy and swore to heaven. Although I came back and said that I would give up my love for my family, I still pretended to be a grandfather when I got home. I didn't communicate or explain, so I asked my original partner to help me chase my mistress ... everything. These men can graft back and forth between several varieties.

Today, many sisters have met this type, that is, the type of "confident to take care of two women". You said he cheated, and he cried for forgiveness. You say he is irresponsible, he says he loves his family and his wife, and things at home never delay; You said that he had been doing three things, but he also said that he owed San Xiao something, so he just disconnected the link and proved that he was love rat. Oh, look, how kind this man is. He is like a candle, burning himself and illuminating others. Even if he vomits blood, he is responsible for two women. Many former partners think that a man is unwilling to divorce, that he still has love for himself, and that everything has hope.

You used his company and a moment's dedication to ease your pain. After a long time, you begin to feel that this kind of life is beginning to become unreal. My brain is a mess. One moment I want to expose the dog men and women, the other moment I want to try my best to "compete for favor", and the next moment I want to have a threesome. The torture of heaven and hell for a while will make you miserable. Is there really nothing we can do? Can you really only watch him eat two meals? Yes, we do. I can easily break the game by teaching you only three steps;

(1) The protagonist is broken-he is not your savior.

Many sisters will fall into a misunderstanding when their husbands cheat: as long as he goes home, everything can go back to the past. It seems that men are the protagonists in solving the incident.

"Better be the one who tied the bell. He has gone bad, why not just change back? " If things were so simple, there wouldn't be the word push your luck. He has tasted the sweetness of cheating, how can he stop easily? Even if he talks to mistress, going home is only temporary. If you take his "love" as the antidote, he will take you up and down in the whirlpool. He is good to you, you are happy, and you feel that you are still loved by him; He treats you badly, you feel sad, and the world collapses.

Unfortunately, men and women have completely different understandings of the concept of "love": when women fall in love with a man, they instinctively want to establish a single and stable marriage relationship, and then they will entrust everything to this man; But men are not like this. Men's nature is to continue their offspring, and love is not unique and exclusive. In other words, they can love many women at the same time.

Of course, this does not mean that men are not single-minded. There are many single-minded men, all of which stem from their restraint of instinct and self. Single-mindedness is an advanced skill of men. His "love" for you from time to time may bring you.

Temporary relief can't meet your basic needs-security and uniqueness. I know you don't want to lose him. You really want to turn a blind eye so that you don't have to bear the pain of losing him. But both the education we received from childhood and the exclusiveness of love remind you that your marriage is humiliating and you can't stand working with other women. So in the same way, do men love women? Maybe, but he never thought about getting divorced for a mistress. How much love can there be?

So, don't take his "love" as a lifeline. Unspecific love is cheap and versatile. Don't expect him to change anything. It is better to make your own decision than to give it to God. Then you may ask me: if we don't expect him to change, then we have to divorce? No, who said that if you don't want a man's love, you will get a divorce? There are still many roads!

(2) the path is broken, no divorce, no love.

When we no longer focus on the return of the man's wealth, we will have more than one way to divorce.

Many sisters equate love with marriage. They feel that since they don't divorce, they will fall in love, and since they don't divorce, they will divorce. I can only say that it is narrow. Love is only one aspect of marriage, and marriage is only one aspect of life. Marriage contains more layers than love. For example: property, children, parents, social relations.

Life contains more layers than marriage. For example: dreams, careers, contacts. Love is just a little thing in life. If you want to understand this, you can understand what you really want, instead of obsessing about whether he loves you or a mistress or a threesome. What we want in the end must not be as simple as love. What we want is a happy marriage and then a complete life.

Think about what is the main line of your life, and what are we living for? Is it to get men's love, or to realize their dreams. What's your dream? Have you not thought about this question for a long time? What are you going to do with your only life in the next few decades? Are you going to define yourself only by whose wife you are? With this in mind, can your pattern be opened? Life is not that narrow, is it?

He can be scum, but it doesn't affect you to become your dream self. If you can't get a divorce now, you can do it, let him pay for himself, and then fight for his dream with all your strength. If you can divorce now, divorce and become a single aristocrat easily. Of course, most sisters can't divorce at this time, and economic independence may be solved. Both ideological independence and emotional cutting need a process.

However, we need to know the direction, that is-no love, no dependence. When you don't love him, you won't pay attention to his every move, whether he loves you or not, and whether he breaks the rules will not affect the process of pursuing your dreams. With money, leisure and career in the future, will it be worthless to look back at his sexy face?

(3) Not getting along well-can't you be single when you get married? Some people say that I don't care about him, I don't love him, how can I get along with him? Look up and see you. Then I'll tell you a great way to get along: being single in marriage. Specifically, several principles: advantage principle, exchange principle and cold mouth. Life is alive, it's time to start acting. It's like, although he has been a good father, let him do it. Why not?

We don't need to force him to break three. First, we don't have the capital to let him break the game. Second, we don't need him to break. Someone waited on him, which saved us time. People don't have to come back, just money. We don't want our children to become divorced families, so we just don't divorce. All we want is a marriage certificate, not his cheap love. Who says such a marriage must be unhappy? He didn't give us exclusive love, we can love ourselves.

We can no longer be a planet waiting for others to shine, but to shine other people's stars so that everyone around us can feel their own warmth. Who doesn't love such a mother? Children will also be bathed in love. It's better than at home, because love or not, it's all broken, chickens fly and dogs jump, and children can't see their mother's smiling face.

At this time, you really understand the true meaning of marriage and peel off your love: marriage serves your life. Out of the aura of love, two different people came together and got married. At this time, you, look at him, are just a simple baby-raising partner and a marriage business partner. You are as polite as roommates, but you can stop fighting and concentrate on your dreams. Learn to be single in marriage, don't love him, don't care, don't care, don't rely on, don't expect.

You can get rid of all the emotional influences brought by this man. His scum, he eats two meals, and his betrayal can be used by you to create guilt and let him serve the main line of your life, such as dreams and children. Use him, but don't love him. That's what makes you invincible. The victory on the main line of life is the real victory. On the way to practice, if you don't understand anything, you can come to me at any time to help you analyze and sort it out and find a suitable method. Everything will be not as difficult as you think.