Eric Fromm is an American psychologist, sociologist and philosopher. In the book "The Art of Love" written by him 1956, there is an analysis of the love between parents and children. (Hillary was 9 years old at the time)
Dorothy is a housewife. She was abandoned by her parents at the age of 8, and 14 escaped from her abusive grandparents. Although she never got maternal love and lived a "Dickensian miserable life", when she was a servant, her master's deep love for her children deeply touched her. She is very grateful to the hostess for her love, so that she can go to school after finishing her work. People around her can always make her feel the love in life. This made her not only give Hillary unconditional love, but also become a conscientious and successful mother. At the same time, she also cares about others. Hillary Clinton has done a lot of volunteer work with her mother since she was a child, involving children's welfare, women's rights and interests and caring for adults. These experiences also inspired her to devote herself to public service for decades.
Dorothy gave birth to three children, Hillary is the eldest, and there are two boys. When Hillary was 4 years old, she was bullied by the little girl across the street and went home crying. Her mother told her not to be afraid, to hold on, or she would be bullied in the future, and said, "If she hits you again, you will fight back." The competitive Hillary stopped crying when she heard it, ran back to the opposite side and shouted for a fight, beat the little girl, and then went home with her head held high. Her mother has been peeking behind the curtain.
When she was young, Dorothy always regretted not going to college. She encouraged Hillary to study hard. Hillary got her wish and entered Wesleyan Women's College (the alma mater of Song Meiling and writer Bing Xin). However, after school started, Hillary couldn't catch up with her homework and called home to complain. Her mother advised her not to be discouraged and not to give up easily. As a result, Hillary became more and more outstanding. Because of her excellent grades, she was elected as a graduate defense representative when she graduated.
When Hillary 14 years old, she wrote to the American Aerospace Center of NASA and volunteered to be a female astronaut. But NASA refused because she was a woman. Her mother comforted her and said, don't lose heart, even if NASA accepts women, her eyesight is very difficult.
Hugh is a businessman in apron business. He gets up early and works hard, hoping to give his children the best education. However, he has a bad temper, always criticizes children cynically and mercilessly, deliberately belittles them, often beats them in order to make them behave, and sometimes even speaks ill of their mothers. His paternalism made everyone unhappy, but in that era of inequality between men and women, he firmly believed that Hillary's right to seize opportunities and master skills should not be restricted because she was a girl. He told his daughter, "You can do anything you want, even become the president of the United States." When Hillary's grades in school are not satisfactory and she doubts her ability, her father will write her a stern and loving letter to encourage her to cheer up.
Hugh was a football player while studying at the University of Pennsylvania, and worked as a fitness instructor in the US Navy after World War II. Under his encouragement and guidance, Hillary learned to play baseball, rugby, basketball and use a pistol. /kloc-at the age of 0/0, she was the only girl who played baseball with the boys in the neighborhood. When Hillary wanted to learn to play curveball, her father practiced for several hours. Hillary said in her speech that this was "not only a true story, but also a good metaphor."
Hillary's fatherly love is a kind of conditional love. Hillary must constantly strive to surpass herself in order to please her father, who always thinks that children can do better, sets high goals for their children, and has a set of his own theory of "frustration education" to "motivate" children. Hillary said that usually her father was lukewarm about her achievements and always said that she could do better. When Hillary comes home with a report card full of A's, her father will say that the test questions are too simple. He firmly believes that people must work hard and strive for success. When Hillary was in the fourth grade, her father woke her up at dawn every day to review the multiplication table.
Hillary's family is not poor, but her father never gives them pocket money. He encourages children to "study for money" (although their mother encourages them to "study for study"). Even if the child does a lot of housework, the father will not give money to the child as the neighbor does. He said confidently, "Isn't it enough for me to feed you?" Hillary earned all her pocket money by helping others with their children and working in a nursery.
Hugh is a little too strict, sometimes people feel unloved. If little Hillary forgets to screw on the cap of the toothpaste tube after brushing her teeth, her father will throw the toothpaste cap out of the bathroom window and order her daughter to pick it up from the bushes outside the window and cover it, even if it snows heavily.
Hillary not only has her mother's loving ability, but also her father's self-discipline, diligence, perseverance and professional ethics. After integration, she formed her own belief in family and work, as well as the concept of serving the public. It can be said that the love she got from her parents laid the foundation for "the health and maturity of a person's soul".