1. Educating children needs to pay attention to tone. The success of tutoring is closely related to parents' verbal expression, especially the tone of parents' talking to their children, which will have a far-reaching impact on their emotional intelligence, IQ, temperament and cultivation. 2. Invisible control and positive guidance, family education is living education. With the formation of junior high school students' self-awareness, the function and role of authoritative education in the past are getting smaller and smaller. Parents' educational methods should be adapted to the situation and replace the past authority with the charm of parents. At this time, the highest state that parents teach their children should be invisible control;

3. Self-improvement, example demonstration, parents handle their own affairs well and do themselves well, which not only provides children with experience worth learning, but also conveys a positive attitude towards life, so the process of life is the process of education;

4, find the root cause of the "disease", be patient. Children's problems have a long history. Rome was not built in a day. Parents must strengthen their confidence. It doesn't matter if the child has problems. As long as they find the root of the problem and actively seek and try to solve it, they will certainly help their children grow up healthily physically and mentally.