One day, my husband told me to run into the room, suddenly closed the door and walked beside me. I thought he wanted to make out with the husband and wife, but he said in a low voice, "I just saw my son reach into his pants and touch him." I didn't react at that time and stupidly asked: Where did you touch it? Mr. Wang said anxiously, "Where else? His key part." I immediately understood, and then smiled and asked my husband, "Then sit down and have a good personality education with him." Mr. Wang is a shy man by nature. He may feel that he can't tell his son directly, so he says he doesn't know how to talk, and he comes to me to discuss it. In fact, maybe I didn't really care too much about my son's development characteristics at this stage before, and my husband and I have always given him a mild and simple family atmosphere. However, since this is a state of natural development, I think we should respect the state of nature and guide children to realize the process of physical change. ?
? Later, I occasionally saw his behavior several times myself, which was basically consistent with what my husband described to me that night. I began to try to get close to and understand his physical changes, such as letting his father take a bath with him, but he was very sensitive at this time and especially cared about his personal privacy. So don't say that he strongly opposes his father taking a bath with him. Even before, he would wear underwear and pajamas when he came out of the shower. Now he has to wear pajamas in the bathroom before coming out. Even his grandfather and father are not allowed to be around when changing clothes. Seeing him in this state, I feel more cautious about the sex education I want to give him, otherwise it will easily hurt the child's self-esteem and may have a shadow.
After observing his life for a week or so, I discussed with my husband and talked with him about the physical development process of men and women in the most relaxed and natural state. Everyone must be thinking, is there any way to present it to him naturally? There can't be a scene map, can there? I must have thought about it, O(∩_∩)O ha! But we think this is too straightforward, not suitable for his age, and not conducive to acceptance. So I told him a little story about my development. I told him that everyone will have troubles in the process of development, such as some doubts about their physical changes. When I was in junior high school, my chest began to develop and I had swelling pain. I was shy and scared, so I went to my mother to find out. But my mother is a traditional woman. She just told me not to worry, saying it was normal. And I am more nervous and afraid of such changes because of my unsolved doubts, so I have to do it myself and wrap myself around my body. Of course, this led to.
? My son listened carefully to my story, and then he also raised his own doubts, such as asking me what this situation should be like at that time. Of course, he didn't ask himself about his physical changes. I use the theory of physiological development to tell how the changes in my physical development happened. Then I asked him if he had noticed any changes in his body. Whether he has doubts, and stressed to him that if he is confused, he can communicate with us at any time. If he finds it inconvenient to talk to a woman like his mother, he can talk to his father. If he doesn't want to talk to us, I also recommend a book to him, the title is "Dad's Secret Language to Adolescent Son", which tells all kinds of adolescent problems that boys may encounter in a father's tone, which can be said to be a treasure house to help boys get through adolescence smoothly. The content involves physical development, psychological development, study, making friends, heterosexual communication, adolescent health care and so on. The language is simple and clear, which not only lets boys know what they want to know, but also is not embarrassed and frank. Talking about sex education is as natural as talking about the weather tomorrow.
? I have always believed that the growth of children is actually the process of our growing up again as parents. We will experience the throb of youth with him and feel the novelty and love that we have never had before. Therefore, whether it is a child's values or his sex education, we all find it together in common exploration and experience the process of growth and change together.