Growth is the main task of children, and learning is the most important content of children's growth. Therefore, daily school study is their most important behavior shaping process. But today, many children are unwilling to go to school. In the whole compulsory education stage, this phenomenon becomes more and more serious with the growth of children's age. From the middle and senior grades of primary school, the phenomenon of weariness and truancy has gradually increased, reaching an alarming level in junior high school, which is one of the most important reasons for children's poor academic performance.

Of course, the reasons for children's poor academic performance are not so simple, but also include other factors, such as children's physical reasons, children's intellectual reasons, parents' education methods, school conditions, teachers' level, etc., but children's subjective reasons, especially the lack of learning motivation, are the most important.

Method:

(1) raising spirits: raising spirits with ancient fairy tales; Educate children with stories of modern revolutionary struggles to make them full of confidence in the future; Educate children with stories of scientists; Inspire children to fall behind and be beaten;

(2) Parents' example method: parents should have a good mental outlook; Parents should love learning; Parents should understand their children's homework.

(3) example guidance method: The younger the child, the easier it is to imitate a certain example. Parents should consciously pay attention to some good role models, which can greatly stimulate their children's enthusiasm for learning.

(4) Comparative incentive method: Give examples that children can see, hear and touch, and the best peers have achievements in various studies, encouraging them to study hard. However, parents should be cautious when encouraging their children. Do not dampen children's self-confidence and self-esteem.

(5) Take advantages and disadvantages as the method: that is, take the advantages of children to drive the development of shortcomings.

(6) Question guidance method: stimulate children's learning motivation by asking questions.

(7) Interest-driven method: Interest is the best teacher. Interest can cause problems, and problems can also be transformed into interest.

(8) Looking forward to the future: Looking forward to the future is almost something that everyone will inevitably encounter when growing up. Let children set a correct goal and drive them to struggle constantly. It should be noted that the longing for the future can not only make children look forward to it, but also completely fail to see the dawn of realization. Parents should also create conditions to make one vision come true and then move on to the next.

(9) Environmental edification: This is mainly to improve children's learning motivation through hearing and hearing. The example of parents is edification, and so is the family environment. In addition, special environments such as conferences, classes and museums are also the objects of edification.

(10) Strict laws: no rules, no Fiona Fang. Many people expect their children to grow naturally and develop freely. In fact, this is conditional. It is necessary to establish corresponding rules, strictly abide by or strictly demand what children can and cannot do. For example, illegal and criminal activities must not be done If children are taken care of more, they often can't bear hardships. Therefore, strict requirements also include the hardships that children have to eat. They cannot be vague at all, but we must grasp the weight.

Inferiority: It is often the result of pairing bad events with many bad experiences. So we can eliminate inferiority through corresponding methods.

Inferiority is mainly manifested in: 1, unable to boldly implement related behaviors.

2. Have words of inferiority (such as "I can't do it" and "I can't do it")

3. Inferiority is sometimes arrogant (not talking to people, glaring, yelling, etc.). )

To solve the problem of children's inferiority complex, we must first start from the daily environment and protect children's self-esteem:

1, education methods should be appropriate, protect children's self-esteem, and don't abuse each other.

2. Teaching children the truth is to look at themselves. We should not only see our own advantages, but also know our own shortcomings, so that children can know that their advantages are not proud and their shortcomings are not humble.

3. Encourage children to shine. Parents should be good at discovering their children's advantages, and then gradually encourage and strengthen their children's advantages, so that children can first build their confidence in this point, and then gradually build their confidence in themselves as a whole, thus overcoming their inferiority complex.

4. Prevent the adverse consequences of inferiority complex.

Retreat: Retreat behavior refers to the behavior that children cannot have. According to different reasons, different correction methods can be adopted.

Retreat is mainly manifested in: 1, social aspects (timid and shy in talking with people, or unable to associate with children of the same age, only playing with children younger than themselves)

2, language (on the one hand, such as mentally retarded children, autistic children, they may not have mastered their age-appropriate speech patterns and vocabulary; On the other hand, they often use words and ways that are not commensurate with their age in actual use.

3. Emotion (emotional characteristics are often obvious)

Solutions to children's withdrawal: due to different reasons, there are different ways to correct withdrawal behavior. Generally speaking, comprehensive withdrawal behavior caused by physiological reasons often requires all-round nursing and training for children, and medication when necessary. In the family squadron, some children's withdrawal can be demonstrated by examples and desensitized systematically. For example:

Let children watch pictures or videos of children who communicate well.

When he is familiar with some scenes, tell him some interesting stories about children's interaction, and take her to far away places to watch other children play.

Show the children around kindergartens and schools.

Let him play with his familiar neighbors and children accompanied by adults.

Let him play with familiar children without adults.

Let the familiar children take her to play with other children.

Suicide: Suicide is a common social problem in recent years. Not only is the proportion of adults committing suicide on the rise, but many teenagers also commit suicide. The reasons for this are not only family and social reasons, but also children's own reasons. In many cases, it can effectively prevent the cause.

Generally speaking, suicide is like this:

The suicide age is declining.

More and more people are suicidal.

Suicide is sudden.

Suicide is a game.

Suicide is the result of inferiority complex.

Psychological stress leads to suicide.

Other psychological abnormalities lead to suicide.

Retaliatory suicide

Suicide prevention:

Cherish life education (let children love life through various ways and contents)

Go into the inner world of children (listen to children's stories; Sympathize with the child's situation; Sincerely discuss relevant issues with children; Sincerely advise children)

Actively establish a family discussion system.

Good at observation and finding signs of suicide (suddenly negative attitude, becoming introverted and taciturn; There are often inexplicable remarks; Suddenly have a bad relationship with parents and teachers; Avoid socializing and don't want to meet people; Do some inexplicable things, such as secretly writing letters, telling people around me "what will happen after I die", giving away my beloved things to others, cleaning up accounts, etc. Mental uneasiness)

Reduce the adverse environmental impact

Puppy love: Some "puppy love" phenomena of boys and girls are not necessarily related to "love". If not handled properly, it may lead to abnormal results.

Suggestion: 1, correctly understand the emotions of young men and women, and treat them with normality (adolescent men and women have very contradictory hearts, on the one hand, they are eager to get close to and understand the opposite sex, and at the same time, they reject the opposite sex; On the one hand, I don't care in front of my classmates, on the other hand, I actively want to get close to the opposite sex I like. This is only an inevitable phenomenon in the process of physical and mental development, not love. Parents should have a clear understanding of this. Therefore, it is extremely unwise to occasionally see a child get a letter from a classmate of the opposite sex and fly into a rage when he sees a child walking with a classmate of the opposite sex. As long as it is properly guided, this kind of communication will not be an accident.)

2. Break the mystery of sex and teach children the necessary sexual knowledge (the more you teach children sexual knowledge in the right way and at the right time, the easier it is for children to grow up healthily. Once the mysterious things are put on the table, the mysterious attraction disappears)

3, try to put an end to children's contact with bad stimuli (let children know how to make friends, put an end to contact with the opposite sex with bad behavior, so as not to lure them into prostitution; Necessary persuasion education is very important, including the education of the concept of chastity of men and women, and persuading children not to go to unhealthy entertainment places. A strict timetable)

4. Guide children correctly (guiding children's energy to study can tell children the social competition needs, and children must study hard and master the corresponding cultural knowledge or skills).

5, contraception and sexual health education should be carried out when necessary (protecting knowledge of sexual intercourse and contraception is necessary for teenagers).

Truancy: The bad influence of society, the irresponsibility of the school, the dereliction of duty of parents' education, the influence of bad partners and the personality characteristics of children may all lead to truancy.

Suggestion:: 1. Strengthen contact with schools and keep abreast of children's school situation.

2. conclude a contract with the child (the contract includes not being absent from school without reason; Under special circumstances, such as illness, contact parents and teachers in time; Go out with the consent of parents; Don't go to dance halls, entertainment halls and other entertainment places where teenagers shouldn't go)

3. Correct guidance (timely guide children's emotions and attract children's energy to learn. Improve children's frustration ability. Take heroes and model figures as examples to guide children to set up lofty ideals. Guide children to read some famous books, such as Red Rock, Song of Youth, Lin Yuan, How Steel was Tempered, etc., so as to establish children's correct outlook on life and values.

4. Properly handle truancy (let the children tell the reason, and parents should listen to the children's voice; Parents can criticize their children and strictly prohibit similar behaviors from happening again; Parents must not be rude; Parents can't take a laissez-faire attitude)

5. Establish a home-school contact manual.