The correct way to educate children's healthy growth is a matter of great concern to parents. Parents also want their children to grow up healthily and happily, but good education can't be ignored. What should parents do in the process of educating their children? The following is the correct way to educate children. The correct way to educate children 1 1, patience. It is important to have enough patience. 2, calm and calm. Anyway, you must be calm and calm. It is the children who trust you and give you a sense of security. Blindly doting on children, children are bound to become arrogant and willful "give whatever they want" and "do whatever they want". Parents who hold this attitude are not qualified. Mothers with weak personalities should pay special attention. 3. Understand children. Parents must pay attention to observe the child's mood, don't ignore the child's mood, just let the child do what he wants. This is not education, but abuse. 4. Educate children to reflect on themselves. Children are parents' mirrors. If parents are strict with themselves, children will follow this example. 5. The whole family is together. Education must be consistent. Family members should reach an agreement on education, otherwise children will be at a loss. Couples' cooperation is particularly important. There is also an elderly family. In order to improve the educational effect, the cooperation between the elderly and the young is essential. The correct way to educate children 2 1. Parents set an example for their children: the power of example cannot be ignored, and it is an important way to influence and educate children with the good thoughts and behaviors of others. Students, neighbors, teachers, heroes and model figures should all be the objects of children's learning and imitation. Whether parents' words and deeds are right or wrong, they have a far-reaching impact on children. Therefore, parents should always behave themselves in their daily lives. Set a good example for educating children. 2. Parents have a clear definition of their roles: we parents don't keep our own boundaries and create an environment and opportunities for children to make mistakes, but it is fair to blame two or three-year-old children for their lack of self-discipline. This is equivalent to throwing a sheep into wolves and telling these wolves that you can't eat sheep, and whoever eats it is not a good wolf. Didn't we create an environment where children can easily touch sugar? Are we used to entrusting our children to TV and computer, and seldom communicating with their parents, which leads to their obsession with cartoons or video games? Before complaining about children's lack of self-discipline, we should first assume our educational responsibilities and not lose the responsibilities of parents. 3. Don't take radical education methods: Some parents think that "jade is not a tool" and that "children can't become talents easily without beating and cursing". Therefore, whenever a child makes a mistake, it is not a calm reason, but a slap in the face. Treating children rudely like this will not only make them realize their mistakes, but also leave a shadow in their hearts, and their personality will easily become extreme. Is not the right way to educate children. 4. Parents should help children form their personality: the most important task of family education is to build a great wall of personality. The person you meet in life is often a handsome man who covers up all ugliness. Be a good boy if you get high marks and good grades. In fact, among the factors that affect lifelong development, scores are not the most important. What matters is morality, personality, happiness, popularity and respect, not knowledge. Therefore, parents must establish a correct educational concept when educating their children, which will lay a solid foundation for the sound development of their personality. 5. Encourage children appropriately: Many children nowadays are rebellious, and it may be difficult to achieve the desired effect by telling the truth directly. Parents can give more guidance and encouragement, and at the same time, they should always reflect on their words and deeds. Appropriate encouragement, mainly spiritual encouragement, should be given to children who have done the right thing or achieved good academic results, which can also meet their small material needs. Through affirmation and praise, children's enterprising spirit and sense of honor can be strengthened and they can strive for greater progress. 2 Common wrong education methods 1. Restrict children's behavior: Don't restrict children when they are angry or quarreling: Restricting children when they are angry or quarreling will only stimulate children's rebellious psychology, and they feel that they can't get the trust of their parents and have a strong confrontational mood. Don't just pay attention to behavior, but not to children's emotions: when we restrain children, we should not only pay attention to their behaviors, but also pay attention to their emotions. Parents should allow their children to express their thoughts, but guide their bad behavior. When imposing restrictions in education, you can't use violence or intimidation. 2. Too much intervention in children's social behavior: Thorndike, an educational psychologist, once put forward trial-and-error learning, that is, the wrong attempt, in which a person will adjust himself until he gets the wrong result after his own operation. Parents in China are not interested in this way, but firmly believe in the power of "education". I hope that through my wise guidance, the children will not take detours and suffer big losses. In fact, some things must be educated, such as the rules of work and rest, enlightenment knowledge, etiquette and so on. But there are also some things that need children's subjective play and epiphany, such as social interaction. The correct way to educate children 3 1. Parents are the most important and irreplaceable educators in a child's life. 0-6 years old is a critical period for the formation of children's quality and good habits. The first two years of a child's life is a crucial period for establishing a strong emotional bond with his parents, and it is the basis for children's future psychological growth and building a relationship of trust and love with others. All the knowledge about life, 50% is learned in the first year of life, and 25% is learned in the second year of life. The knowledge of life here mainly refers to the ability of love and the development of emotion. 2. If you want to change your child's behavior, parents must first change themselves. Educating children is the process of educating yourself. Children's bad behavior is often taught directly from the environment or parents. Education by example is the most reliable way to cultivate children's moral behavior. Cultivating children's spiritual quality is far more important than intellectual development. Spirit is a tree and thought is a fruit. Spirit is a lamp, and thought is light. Human intelligence is a reflection of spiritual quality. If we only pay attention to the cultivation of skills (such as various early intellectual development interest classes) and ignore the cultivation of children's spiritual quality, we can only put the cart before the horse. When children grow up, their personality will be flawed and their moral development will be hindered. 4, reasonable control of children is to tell them the standard of behavior, that is, what can and cannot be done. Control must have authority: when children may make mistakes, we must have authority when we want to control them. Let your children know that you are serious, and your request will be accompanied by punishment or reward. Restricting children beneficially can cultivate their discipline. Of course, the control of children must be responsible. And tell your child the reason for your request. Consistency with the child's father: Parents have the same control over the child, so that the child can establish a unified standard of behavior. Even if you don't agree with dad's control, you'd better discuss it with him when the child is not present in the future. Doing so can also establish the authority of both parents. Don't over-punish: don't abuse children physically and psychologically. The best way to manage a child is to reward him for his good behavior. Parents should actively teach their children basic values and behaviors by actively encouraging them to establish good self-worth. Let children grow up in society. Of course, in this respect, example is better than words, and we can be good examples for children. It is very important to create a good family atmosphere. Therefore, we can't let our children do what we don't want to do, and we can't do one thing by ourselves and let our children do another. Only by setting an example and paying attention to the cultivation of children's values and etiquette can we educate the next generation with noble morality. People with high self-worth have three "abilities": I have the ability; I can associate with people around me; I can contribute to the happiness of others anytime and anywhere. Believe that you have the potential to learn and grow, and cultivate qualities such as courage, faith, self-confidence and trust in life and others. On the contrary, low self-worth is a negative understanding of yourself, and destructive emotions such as self-blame, humiliation, anger and hatred will accompany you all your life. 6. Establish clear family rules and hold regular family meetings. Children need to know where the boundaries are, what to do and what not to do. Without rules, children feel insecure. There are no more than five or six family rules. To meet the specific needs of families, they must be stated in affirmative sentences and posted. If you violate the family rules, you should make clear the corresponding punishment measures. Once established, we must resolutely implement it, and adjust and repair the family rules every once in a while. Hold regular family meetings to let the whole family share the process of life development, promote democracy, respect each other and enjoy the atmosphere of love. 7. Give children a certain range of choices. As children grow up, it is very important to give them more and more freedom and power to control their own lives. We should consciously demand ourselves; Even restraining yourself from doing anything is for the children's ideas and giving them some freedom. Giving children some freedom shows that we trust and respect children, and children will respect and love us more. Giving children a certain range of choices can avoid nervousness and provide them with practical opportunities to make decisions. For example, "It's time for bed. Do you want to hear yesterday's story or is it new? " "Do you want to wear a pink coat or a blue T-shirt today? (If the children don't choose either, parents may ask, "Shall I help you choose, or do you choose yourself?" It is a daily behavior to make choices and make children responsible, which is very important for developing children's self-worth. 8. Games are children's main activities. Children learn through games. Children need to interact with their peers, adults and the environment through contact with concrete and simulated things related to life. Games let children relax and cultivate a focused work attitude. Before the age of 5, don't start practicing symbols such as letters and numbers too early, which will limit children's thinking, because children's minds are not mature enough to understand abstract concepts. 9. Tell children positively what to do, instead of the condescending attitude of traditional educators, always telling children "Don't hit people, don't eat on the sofa" and so on. This negative tone will only lead to attention and focus on negative behavior; And children still don't know what good behavior is and what to do. The positive statement is to use virtue to modify children's behavior, such as "you forgot to get along with others" or "we eat at the table! "10, take time to get along with children alone every day and do something of common interest. Every child needs to get enough attention from his parents. Every day after work, take some time to participate in children's games. It is necessary to provide children with various experiences and expose them to various things as much as possible. As children's listeners, supporters and spiritual companions, parents should respect their children's feelings when they encounter setbacks and accompany them with detachment and sympathy.