Child: "Mom, buy me a toy."
At this time, parents' reactions are generally two kinds:
1. Immediately refuse the child's request: "I just can't buy it."
Children will definitely not buy it, and may fight back with a louder voice and a more intense attitude. "Don't! Whatever! I just want to buy-"
If the child continues to cry, parents can only "drag away" the child.
2. Immediately promise the child's request: "Don't cry! Buy buy buys it. I can't help you.
The child is satisfied, and the adult has compromised again, feeling very helpless.
In fact, in the face of such a scene, parents can try these methods:
Restriction method: limit the total amount of toys purchased at one time.
The key is to make an agreement in advance. Before entering the supermarket or toy store, parents should discuss with their children, "You can only buy one or two toys today."
This can make children think about their choices. In the process of choosing, they can also guide children to think, "Why not buy this and buy that?" Or "You want this and that, but it's full. If you want to buy this one, you must give up the other one "... In these processes, children have enough choice and decision-making power, which can not only meet their needs, but also exercise their independent ability and help them learn to manage money.
Delay method
For example, "My mother has bought everything she wants to buy. Can I buy it for you again?"
It can be delayed from short time to long time. The key is to make children feel that their parents have been listening to his wishes; Moreover, once parents make a promise, they should abide by it, which can form a good parent-child interaction.
Combining the limit method with the delay method can cultivate the habit of planning when we were young, and all this can start with managing our toys.