Successful education case of vocational high school students 1 case background:
The phenomenon of puppy love is not a very sensitive topic, and society, parents and schools have been able to deal with it relatively freely. However, for vocational school students, due to the particularity of the current vocational education model and students' quality, its harmfulness and danger are obviously higher than other types of schools, which is a real concern of vocational school teachers, especially class teachers. Faced with the endless phenomenon of puppy love among secondary vocational school students, how should the class teacher in secondary vocational school restrain this untimely puppy love?
Case flow:
Xiao Zhang (male classmate) and Xiao Wang (female classmate) are students in our class. Both of them are introverted and their grades are above average. They are often found chatting on the lawn after class, and students also report that they often date in the park near the school on weekends. I think there must be puppy love between them. Puppy love is not only a normal physiological and psychological reflection of secondary vocational school students' individual growth to a certain stage, but also a "flower" that blooms at the wrong time. So, how can I educate them? Positive criticism of students is bound to have resistance, and may even be counterproductive. So I talked to them one-on-one in private. Talk to girls first. From learning to caring about life, let students completely believe that the teacher is considerate of her and let students have trust in me. Xiao Wang quickly admitted their relationship. Talk openly about the situation between them. It turns out that Xiao Wang's mother died and she didn't get enough love at home. She was introverted from childhood and didn't get along well with her classmates. Xiao Zhang, on the other hand, is introverted and feels inferior since childhood. Both of them didn't do well in school and were assigned to the same class this year. After getting to know each other, they felt the same way, kept close contact and fell in love prematurely. However, they believe that such a relationship does not affect learning, but encourages each other in learning and helps each other in life. After understanding the situation, I found another boy, and he also admitted that there was no need for schools, including teachers, to stop them from falling in love. Later, I asked the two of them to sit down together and talk to me.
It can be seen from the conversation that their understanding of the harm of puppy love is superficial. So I used a sincere tone to analyze the reasons why middle school students can't fall in love early, such as immature thinking, immature psychology, economic independence, career orientation and so on. Let them fully understand that "as long as two people share the same interests, falling in love will not affect their study" and "male power+female power = the joint efforts of two people" are misunderstandings. And with a lot of facts, it is proved that after middle school students fall in love, their feelings are often restrained by each other, and their studies will not be distracted and their grades will not decline. Both theory and practice show that middle school students rush to the road of love as soon as their physiology is mature, which is tantamount to quenching thirst by drinking poison. Finally, I suggest that they focus on their studies at present and keep sincere friendship with their classmates.
Since that conversation, I have often expressed my concern for them, making them pay more attention to their studies, contacting their parents, and making them care and love their children more. In fact, the reason for their puppy love lies in introversion, misery loves company, and lack of care. After grasping these root causes, I usually give them more care. As long as their academic achievements improve, I will praise them vigorously. Parents can also cooperate well and give their children double care. As a result, they realized the good intentions of teachers and parents, and realized the harm of puppy love to learning, and gradually returned to the normal track.
Case study:
Puppy love is not only a normal physiological and psychological reflection of secondary vocational school students' individual growth to a certain stage, but also a "flower" that blooms at the wrong time. We don't have to regard it as a scourge and make accusations. For how to correctly handle the phenomenon of puppy love among secondary vocational school students, secondary vocational school teachers should grasp two basic principles:
The first is the principle of combining interception with guidance. The phenomenon of puppy love among secondary vocational school students is like a flooded river, which can't be stopped. Teachers are like Dayu. The focus of water control is to guide the situation, conform to its natural flow and introduce it into the sea-the sea of professional knowledge and practical skills. On the one hand, teachers should regulate students' behavior through strict management, and do not give weeds breeding soil; More importantly, teachers should actively guide, divert students' attention, and guide students' time and energy to their ultimate goal-learning. Whether it is strict management or persuasion, the ultimate goal of preventing and stopping puppy love is the self-criticism and self-resistance of vocational school students to puppy love behavior.
The second is the principle of combining school with family. Analyzing the causes of puppy love among secondary vocational school students, it is found that the lack of parental care or improper parental education accounts for a large proportion, which leaves a great problem for secondary vocational school teachers. The education and guidance students receive during their school days are often not as good as the things they touch for half a day at home, which is called "5+2=0" or "5+2".
Case 2 of successful education for vocational high school students: Sun Mou, a senior one boy: On the third day of military training, freshmen reported to the school accompanied by their parents, and the next night, they climbed the fence and went out to surf the Internet with two other classmates. I also have a bad attitude afterwards. One afternoon a month, a classmate and I climbed the fence and went out to surf the Internet. The reason is that I didn't surf the Internet in the afternoon computer class.
Sun usually has a poor attitude in class and likes to chat and sleep. One day in a political class (final review), the whole class was reading, but he was sleeping alone. The teacher asked him to read a book, but he didn't take it seriously. He argued with the teacher in class, and later said that he would call his father and teacher to make it clear. On a certain day of a month (Tuesday), I asked for leave at night to go home and get something (my home is in town). Call me when you get home and say you'll be back tomorrow morning. At that time, I was affirmed by my parents. As a result, I left home at 7: 30 on Wednesday morning and didn't come to school until Friday holiday, and I didn't go home during that time.
Sun is also an activist in the dormitory and likes to make noise. After the lights out in the dormitory, he likes to string up the dormitory.
At present, there are not a few students who skip classes on campus, which also accounts for a certain proportion. They have various ways and reasons to leave the campus. The simplest reason for skipping classes is that students want to leave the classroom, leave school and go back to their favorite places. What causes students who should be studying at school to leave campus? I think there are mainly the following points:
1, weariness of learning: weariness of learning is a common psychological phenomenon among middle school students at present. Students who are tired of learning are not interested in learning. They either look around in class, get distracted and doze off, or peek at the extracurricular books below. Some simply play truant, skip classes or even drop out of school.
2. Have your own social circle outside school, or have friends of the opposite sex outside school. They don't have many friends at school and can't feel the warmth from campus. You will get the help of good friends in society.
3. Parents' doting, they are not afraid of their parents' majesty, and then ignore the school rules and regulations.
Students themselves don't like reading, and they don't like this school. It was the intention of parents and the call of friends that made them walk into the campus.
According to past experience, truancy is often the early manifestation of juvenile delinquency, which will lead to serious consequences if it is not well restrained. We must take corresponding measures to help them return to school and learn knowledge. The following are my views on solving the problem of students skipping classes:
1. First of all, it is necessary to conduct home visits to find out the students' family background and past study. Truancy is not a temporary phenomenon. In the conversation with Sun's parents, I learned that Sun played truant at home for a long time because his parents ignored him or there was no effective way to control him in junior high school. In junior high school, because of his poor academic performance, his parents wanted him to transfer to another school and repeat his studies. At that time, there were also things that parents helped to come forward when there was a dispute with teachers and classmates. Even if this classmate goes home on weekends, he often stays up all night after going out at night.
From home visits, I learned that Sun's parents are still very concerned about his studies and are very worried about his studies (they often call to ask about his situation after entering our class). But because there is no effective method, it is futile for parents to worry. Sun's parents' concern has also reached the level of doting, and there are also cases in junior high school where fathers take out their anger on their sons. After coming to my class, after the political teacher severely criticized, he said, "My father will definitely come to help me." In his opinion, no matter what he does, his parents will come to help solve the problem. I don't know if what I did was right or wrong, good or bad. He doesn't try to solve the problem by himself, and always feels that his parents have strong backing behind him.
The analysis shows that parents also have misunderstandings about their children's learning. They arrange their children to learn and even develop their direction. If you don't understand your child's actual learning situation, your child will lose interest in learning. As a parent, you still have high requirements and strict standards. Children often have rebellious psychology, and they begin to hate learning and school until they want to drop out of school and play truant.
2, communicate with students, a comprehensive understanding of students.
Students nowadays are active and precocious. They get to know the society through the internet and newspapers. With the reform and opening up, the freedom and opening up of western countries has also occupied an important position in their hearts. Communicate with students more, so as to truly enter the inner world of students and understand their thoughts.
The place to talk with students can be the corridor, playground or office. It should be a relaxed and free conversation, and you can even serve tea and water to students in the office. At this time, your identity is not a teacher, but a friend. The purpose is to close the distance between each other, make students feel safe, and make the collision between hearts spark and resonate. Teachers always have a certain sense of mystery in students' minds. When students face their teachers, they always feel that they are above them. We should dispel students' fears and think that you are a good friend and a reliable friend. Only in this way can teachers understand the real psychology of students and the latest trends of students.
3. Help students correctly handle the relationship between classmates, especially the relationship between students of the opposite sex.
Sometimes a word from a classmate is worth ten words from a teacher, and a few words from a classmate can affect his subjective thoughts. Sun climbed over the wall under the persuasion of his classmates and played in the Internet cafe all afternoon. If no classmate mentioned going out to surf the internet at that time, maybe they wouldn't miss class and go out to surf the internet, or if another classmate could dissuade them in time, they might not go out either.
During Sun's home visit, I also learned that girls often call home, even late at night. In the conversation with Sun, I also learned that there are good female students in another school who often play together and have a close relationship. We need to strengthen the correct guidance, distinguish the boundaries and handle the relationship between men and women between classmates.
4. Help students build up confidence, face difficulties bravely and take responsibility bravely.
Nowadays, students' psychological endurance is extremely fragile. When they encounter problems in their study and life, they choose to escape.
After quarreling with his classmates, Sun had the idea of dropping out of school and going home, saying, "I'm going to chop him to death (I found a watermelon knife in his drawer the next day, but fortunately I found it in time, otherwise the consequences would be unimaginable." Nowadays, middle school students have excellent living conditions and don't know that a good life is hard to come by. They often have extremely fragile psychological endurance, and when they encounter difficulties, they choose to retreat and leave school to find the so-called freedom outside school.
What we have to do is to help them regain their confidence in life and be strong in life and study. Strengthen guidance on projects that students are interested in (such as sports activities, painting, calligraphy and other hobbies). Sun's pen handwriting is very good (he won an award in middle school), so we can instill in them the idea of practicing calligraphy more in their spare time. Let them do something at school and do something wrong. .
5, home-school communication, clear school rules and regulations.
Home-school communication allows students to feel the warmth of home at school, so that students can live happily at school and stay in a stable position. Let students know the rules and regulations of the school. A person should know the law before he can obey it. Once students violate the rules and regulations of the school, they must take corresponding measures.
Case 3 of successful education for vocational high school students: At noon on Monday, I just walked to the door of the office after class and met a teacher who told me, "The classmates in your class had a fight." I'm surprised. I want to know who will fight. When she entered the office, Ding Mou, a student in the class, was crying and other teachers were comforting her. Some teachers are still giving me advice: students who hit people are too arrogant and should be punished. When I stepped forward, Ding was still sobbing and felt as if he had been greatly wronged. First, the students' injuries were carefully examined, and it was found that there was a red mark on their right cheek, and there were no other scars. Then after asking about the general situation, let the student Ding go back to rest first. I contacted Li, the student who hit people, and his parents. Before long, Li, a student who hit people, arrived at the office. She was a little excited, saying that the other party scolded her first. She was angry but didn't do it, and the other party hit her. I asked her to settle down first, took out a pen and paper and asked her to write down the specific situation in detail. In the meantime, I went back to the classroom, and most of my classmates had already returned from lunch. I found seven or eight classmates who were close to the fight site to understand what happened and asked some details. I found that although the student started first, he was quickly taken away by other students. Instead, the student who was beaten stubbornly grabbed the book on the table and hit her on the head. When she saw the teacher coming to class, she began to cry. Some students also reported that Ding junior high school often fights with others. After entering vocational high school, he kept a low profile in school. He usually studies hard and gets good grades.
Back in the office, student Li has calmed down and recorded the process of what happened. After reading what the students wrote and asking some questions, I began to guide the students to have a correct understanding of their behavior. I left time for the students to think about the whole incident and the mistakes they made in solving the problem. In the afternoon, the parents of the students also came over, and you can clearly feel the sense of distance between the students and their parents. After explaining the situation to parents, parents hope that the school can educate students and care more about them, and then say that they have something to do and leave in a hurry. The whole thing was handled for three days, and the two students had little contact at ordinary times and were both stubborn. After this incident, no one wants to talk to anyone. My request is simple: let students realize their mistakes and don't have similar problems in the future. Both students made a commitment in their own way.
After the incident, I paid more attention to Li, the student who hit people first. She was grateful that I was not punished by the school. Her family situation is quite special. When her parents divorced, she ignored the students and gave some living expenses every month, so she had to live with her aunt. Usually, her performance in school is poor, she is often late, she doesn't listen carefully in class, her homework can't be finished in time, and her poor academic performance sometimes makes her feel inferior. Li is outgoing, cheerful and lively. He took an active part in school skipping competitions and theatrical performances, but he also unconsciously made some behaviors that violated school discipline, such as not wearing school uniforms, being late for class, and not handing in homework. I often urge her, try to approach her, talk to her, respect her ideas, find places worthy of appreciation and praise, and encourage her.
Education should seize the opportunity. Students with these deviations often don't realize what consequences their bad behaviors and habits will bring to themselves or others. Teachers' proper guidance will improve students' ability to understand problems. Only by taking practical actions can teachers eliminate these students' psychological barriers and make it possible for them to receive education. Close to them in behavior, close to them in emotion, sincere concern and sincere care can establish a good teacher-student relationship and lay the foundation of education. Every student has his own bright spot. As a teacher, we should be good at discovering and excavating, encouraging in time, strengthening good behavior and promoting students' own transformation.
Caring for all students, caring for all students, is an educational concept and an educational art. Students who have some deviations in study, thinking and behavior often hear reprimands. They will be ignored and neglected. The problems that happen to them are often what they don't want to see. If they miss the opportunity of education, they may miss their life. They also have a sincere and pure heart, eager to be respected and appreciated. As teachers, as class teachers, we should be more patient, guide and care for such students, and be as understanding, tolerant and kind as possible, so that their feelings will be valued, needed and have the opportunity to show themselves. Let sincere love fill their psychological defects, eliminate their psychological barriers, and let them live happily and grow healthily.