1, let children learn to be independent.

Respect children's needs, interests and hobbies, encourage children to express their thoughts and feelings, consult children more when things happen, listen to their opinions, allow children to make their own choices and decisions, and tolerate children's different opinions from their parents.

Let children contact with social life, let children be tempered in social life, and improve their social adaptability.

2. Correctly treat children's academic performance.

A sense of accomplishment is one of the important factors that affect students' self-esteem. If students often experience success, their self-esteem will be improved; On the contrary, if he often fails, his self-esteem will decrease.

As a student, this kind of success or failure experience mainly comes from academic performance. However, for every student, not all students have good academic performance and high test scores, so they will definitely experience success. Whether there is a sense of accomplishment depends on students' attitude towards exam results.

Therefore, parents should tell their children that as long as they concentrate on class, study hard and do well in the exam, no matter how many points they get in the final exam, they should be satisfied as long as they make progress than before.

3. Care and caress children

Give them more smiles and be more interested in what they do. Praise and encourage their efforts and success, even if they are insignificant.

When they study or practice, they should be allowed to make mistakes, which may be bad at first, but don't blame them, and demand them by adult standards. When they say "I can't do it" or "I can't do it", encourage them to try again. Never give up halfway to save time or lack patience.

Otherwise, once they form the bad habit of giving up everything halfway, they will never feel a sense of accomplishment and their self-esteem will gradually decrease.

4. Make children feel happy

Provide them with time, places and toys for games, and encourage and support their hobbies. Although the leading activity of children after entering school is learning, games are still an indispensable and important aspect of their lives.

Some parents have a misconception that games will waste time and delay their children's study. There's an old saying in China called "playing with things and getting tired", but it's not. Because games can not only bring happiness to children, but also make them strengthen their physique, increase their knowledge and improve their self-esteem in happiness.

10-year-old children are disobedient. What should parents do?

1, learn more about children

While parents are busy making a living, they must take the time to learn more about their children, communicate with their children and their teachers, and try their best to fully grasp their performance in kindergartens and families. The more you know, the less you misunderstand. In this way, once the child is really disobedient, he will know more about how to guide the child.

2. Absorb educational knowledge

The society is changing, the environment for children to grow up is also changing, and the way of education will naturally continue to improve. As parents, we should be duty-bound to actively absorb new educational knowledge. In the traditional way of parenting education, most parents use authority to educate their children, and beating and scolding punishment is an important method of authoritative education.

3. Listen to your children patiently

If parents are impatient and aggressive, the most direct response to disobedient children is usually swearing. When parents' minds have been focused on understanding their children's thoughts and trying to help them solve problems, they may find that their children's behaviors are actually excusable and release a lot of negative emotions.

4. Really put down your body

Some parents always like to be dignified in front of their children and are used to treating their children with the above attitude. In this regard, I especially suggest that parents really put down their posture and respect their children from the heart, stop talking to their children in a commanding tone and respect their children as adults. Don't always say "no" to children, but give them multiple-choice questions and let them make their own decisions.