Parents are lifelong teachers of children, and family education is the foundation of all education. The influence of parents on children is one of the factors that can not be ignored in the process of children's growth, which is subtle and lasting.
Personally, I think that in the process of children's growth, we should mainly do the following aspects:
First, give children a harmonious home.
The healthy growth of children is inseparable from a peaceful and safe family environment. First of all, a harmonious and peaceful family atmosphere gives him a sense of psychological security and happiness. To make children develop in an all-round way, a harmonious family is very important, and a warm family is established. Only in this way can they have confidence and interest in learning. At home, we should not only give children a harmonious and happy study space, but also cultivate their basic life skills, self-care ability, will and love to overcome difficulties as much as possible. Third, take time out to study and play with your children. Cultural knowledge is important, but games are essential for children. Parents should let their children get the joy of success in their studies and games, and let their children fully find fun in their studies and games. Let children feel the happiness of living in the family. Give children a happy growth space.
Second, parents should educate their children patiently.
The junior high school stage is the stage when children "cross the hurdle". Due to various reasons, their academic performance has declined, and their parents are anxious and impetuous. There is opposition between children and parents. At this time, parents should calm down and learn to wait patiently for their children's growth. When you get along with children at ordinary times, you will always find that many words and deeds of children are not in line with parents' wishes, and sometimes even unreasonable. However, parents should give their children a chance to defend themselves, listen to their opinions patiently, and let them feel their mistakes in their parents' patient persuasion and education, and then take the initiative to improve. Parents' expectations and behaviors for their children often play a key role. At the same time, school education is equally important, and only the joint efforts of both sides can produce results.
Third, cultivate children's good self-confidence.
In the growth of children, parents should guide their children not only to work hard, but also to try their best. Even if the result is not the best, as long as they work hard, they will be the best. Only by letting children jump and succeed through their own efforts can children experience the joy of success and establish self-confidence. Parents should not reprimand their children too much when they make mistakes. First of all, they should educate their children to have the courage to bear mistakes, and then help them analyze where they are wrong, why they are wrong, what consequences they will have, and how to correct them in the future. Encourage your children, see their progress, affirm their achievements, and don't blindly criticize their efforts and failures. Build confidence in children. Self-confidence is a gradual accumulation process. Children should not be afraid to do something because it may fail, but should be willing to do something because it may succeed. Because this is a step-by-step training process, we need to pay attention to this point all the time, whether in small things in life or in games and learning. Children need help and love in life. As parents, it is not a complete substitute, but a reasonable care and training. Let children know that self-esteem and self-confidence are built by themselves, not by others. In this way, they can cultivate their independent and sound personality.
Fourth, cultivate children's good study habits and learning ability.
After six years of systematic study in primary school, children have mastered some learning methods and formed certain learning habits. After entering middle school, with the growth of age, their psychology and physiology are undergoing great adjustments and changes, but as long as children have good study habits and learning ability, they will certainly be able to keep up with future studies. To cultivate children's study habits, we must first make children interested in learning and eager for knowledge, and the desire for knowledge cannot be easily erased. Secondly, in terms of intellectual education, parents should correctly care about their children's lectures, review and homework and give necessary guidance, guide their children to read some useful extra-curricular books, counseling materials and learning experiences, guide their children to use their brains scientifically, cultivate their observation and memory ability, improve their thinking ability, make their children have good learning methods and cultivate their serious style.
Nowadays, children have high IQ, and most of them have poor learning because of bad habits. For example, eat while watching TV, talk while doing homework, or ask adults to accompany you with your homework. They don't have the pleasure of consciously learning, and they regard learning as a burden. They often need adults to urge them to finish their homework. So I advocate finishing my homework in the shortest time, and of course doing it well. The purpose of doing this is to cultivate children's concentration and improve learning efficiency. Otherwise, children will develop lax study habits. When children do their homework, we should avoid watching TV and playing computer. We'd better read some professional books or some novels and magazines. Try to create a good learning environment for children.
Fifth, treat children's academic performance correctly.
Academic performance is a means to check students' learning, not an end. Parents should have a correct understanding of their children's exam results. Therefore, when parents receive their children's test transcripts, they should not only look at the scores, but also consider them from the perspective of understanding their children's study and life at school. There are many factors that determine grades. As parents, we should help our children analyze the reasons for their unsatisfactory grades, learn from their failures and sum up experience for future exams. We should encourage children's progress in time, help them to know the reasons for their progress and build up their confidence. If the child's test report card is regarded as a "reward and punishment notice", the high score will be given a material reward. Beating and scolding children when they see poor grades will only increase their fear of taking the exam again.
Sixth, cultivate children's interest.
When my daughter was young, she liked playing computer games very much. She often decorates her QQ space beautifully and creatively, and sometimes draws some pictures or something. When she showed it to other children, she felt a sense of accomplishment. My daughter likes English again now. At the beginning, one of her classmates went to learn English and asked her to follow. Now, she is more and more interested in learning English and has achieved satisfactory results in these exams. I am very happy to see that children love learning English so much. I know my daughter is not very good at math, and I sometimes worry about her. I really hope she can improve her math. After this exam, she did well in other subjects, so she failed in the math exam, but she said to me confidently, "Dad's math teacher said I should do more math problems." Please buy me some information, and I will catch up. I will definitely take the exam next time. " I am also very pleased to see that the child is confident.
Modern education is the unity of school education, family education and social education, and their training objectives are the same. Every family has no choice but to face the problem of educating their children, which is difficult and arduous, but also full of fun and comfort. Junior high school is a very critical period for any child. During this period, junior high school students are in a period of rapid changes in physiology, psychology and thinking, which is an important stage of life growth. At this stage, children are at a turning point in their life growth and should be given enough attention. Doing a good job in family education in junior high school is an important part of cultivating children's growth. At the same time, children's long school time, the interaction of classmates and the encouragement of teachers will also affect their life-long growth. Only by joint efforts of both sides can we achieve better results.