No time for company
Due to the pressure of life, many parents have no time to go home to accompany their children because of work. They just give their children to their parents or send them directly to boarding school. However, they ignore that children just want to be with their parents and make them love themselves more.
Pay attention to the psychological changes of children in single-parent families
Children living in single-parent families usually have other psychological obstacles because they lack the care of one of their parents. Such as: emotional instability, paranoid personality, depression, anxiety and so on. You will also become distrustful and suspicious of others. So it will conflict with parents' education.
The elders spoil each other too much.
In fact, the child's idea is very simple. Whoever is good to himself will accept him. A child lives with his grandparents since childhood, so he puts them first. So they usually get close to their grandparents and ignore their parents' education. Because children can't feel their parents' love, it makes them resist their parents' education. ?
As parents, we must have a sense of responsibility. We should not use work as an excuse to give our children a better life. Children believe that a happy life is accompanied by the love of their parents. Without love, there is no education.
Learn to respect and understand.
Safeguarding human life and dignity is the starting point and destination of all work. This famous saying should be placed on the desks of teachers and parents. It constantly reminds us that we should not ignore everyone's dignity, nor should we strengthen the education of children at the expense of others' physical and mental health. Otherwise, it will be counterproductive.
Everyone wants to be respected by others, not to mention immature children, so they need respect and care more. Parents should respect and understand their children. First of all, they should pay attention to their words and maintain their self-esteem.
Praise and encourage children.
The deepest psychological need of human beings is to be affirmed and praised by others. So, everyone wants to be appreciated. There is no one who doesn't like to hear good things. However, traditional China people often worry that praise will make people proud and pride will make people retrogress. I don't know if you can accept that others publicly expose their shortcomings. If adults can't accept it, what about children? Words hurt more than knives. Knives only hurt the body. Words hurt people, but hurt the soul. The wounds of the body heal quickly, but the wounds of the mind are difficult to heal. Therefore, parents should understand that no child is perfect, but there are always parents who are self-righteous and criticize their children at will.
Learn to gently educate children.
Children are children who need their parents. Therefore, we should fully affirm the advantages of children, but also euphemistically spend their shortcomings and help them correct their own problems. But when pointing out problems, it is enough to put forward one or two suggestions for improvement, not too many at once.
Many parents complain endlessly about their children. No matter how strong a child's psychological endurance is, it is hard to bear such a violent storm. Finally, parents should accuse their children of rebellion. This is really a ridiculous thing!
There are regulations on education, but there is no clear law. Parents should learn, appreciate, respect and help their children, thus improving the quality of our education.