0 1 Xiao Li is an expert in unit business. Not only is the work of our own department "clear", but even the office has a big job and is often seconded to help. As a result, he was promoted to the head of a business department. Unexpectedly, a few days after taking office, his department was so excited that the leaders frowned. It turns out that although Xiao Li has a strong business ability, he is not good at dealing with people, especially when talking to subordinates, he is always "outspoken" and shows no mercy to people. Two employees are quarrelling secretly. He said at the regular meeting: "Our department must not affect its work because of such disunity!" The client has no face and bears a grudge against him from now on; An old worker didn't do well. He directly took out the other party's previous complaint about "low salary" and said, "What you do is not worthy of your salary. Think for yourself! " The other party blushed for a while, became angry from embarrassment and left; A colleague's project didn't have time to sign, and he said discontentedly, "You don't have to go to the gym all the time to lose weight. Diligence will not gain weight! " An intern made a mistake in the name of the project. He said, "Stick these things on the wall and recite them every night. No matter how slow your brain is, you will remember them! " ..... What he said may not be completely unreasonable, but no one likes to hear such words. There are many things, and everyone has opinions about him. Xiao Li was assigned to another department in the next department evaluation. Although he is still an important business position, he is no longer in charge. To become an expert in business, you only need superb skills, while to become a department head, you must have the ability to drive the whole team, at least, without affecting the enthusiasm of the team. Of course, this arrangement is not necessarily a bad thing for him, but everyone feels that if it is not the "short board" restriction of "unable to speak", he will go further on the road of personal development. It's a pity that he doesn't understand it himself. He thinks it's right to speak in an honest and frank way as long as it's for work. In fact, many people have a misunderstanding about "talking", thinking that people who can talk are euphemistic and versatile, and some unscrupulous people even regard this as an advantage in their frankness. Being able to speak is not necessarily insincere, and not being able to speak is not necessarily kind. The difference between meeting and not meeting is not only a person's experience and understanding, but also the art of language and the education received since childhood. And many parents don't realize that this last one is actually the efforts of parents. The art of knowing how to speak from an early age is a plus for an ordinary child, but it is tantamount to icing on the cake for an excellent child. It is a pity that flowers can't last long without roots. Therefore, as parents, it is necessary and obligatory for us to give our children this ability, and the sooner the better. Children who are absent from class will eventually make up for it bit by bit in detours and bumps.

Sister Zhang is a very nice person, not only with outstanding business ability, but also with good popularity in the circle. Leading colleagues from top to bottom all praised her. She is also good at educating children. A pair of children are not only talented, but also polite, generous and sensible. Someone learned from her, and she smiled and said, "I always thought that children should learn to speak well from an early age, and they should not be really unscrupulous just because their words are unscrupulous." This simple word "good" means politeness, understanding, generosity, humor and so on. "She gave two examples: when her daughter was three or four years old, she always pointed at her and said loudly," Mom, aunt is so fat! " "At this time, she will seriously tell her daughter:" Everyone wants to be beautiful, and babies like to listen to others praise themselves, right? " Besides, your aunt will be unhappy if you say that she is fat, so in the future, this little discovery can be told to her mother secretly, not to her face, okay? "After listening to her mother's words, my daughter gradually learned to take care of others' feelings and say something uncomfortable in front of others. Later, when I had a younger brother, my sister would also teach him: "Don't say that he loves a runny nose in front of Xixi, or he will be unhappy!" Another time, someone came to the house as a guest, and the other party chatted enthusiastically with the children: "Did you go out to play during the summer vacation?" My daughter simply answered "yes" and was busy watching TV. After the guests left, Sister Zhang told her daughter, "Aunt actually wants to talk to you. It is not enough to just answer' yes' or' no'. Let's say where you played and how you played. If possible, ask my aunt's brother if he has gone out to play and where he has been. This is a good conversation. " Some people say, "isn't it too tiring to educate children like this?" Children are childlike! "She smiled and said," this has nothing to do with childlike innocence. People who say whatever they want are not necessarily unsophisticated, but naive children can chat as politely as adults. "Think about it, that's true. Her children have not lost their innocence because of this. On the contrary, because of their gentle and reasonable appearance, they add a little cuteness and agility to their children. Moreover, compared with other children, her children are more popular, easier to understand, more opportunities and help, more infectious and leadership. So no one will doubt that such children will go further and further on the excellent road when they grow up. Well said, on the surface, it is the art of speaking, but in a deep sense, the ability to speak reflects a person's social communication ability and respect and concern for others, which are the qualities that parents should cultivate their children from an early age.

Think twice before you speak, in order to get the greatest effect with the best expression without embarrassing the other party. This is an art and an ability. This ability will not be formed naturally with the growth of age, but must be acquired through continuous learning and training. As parents, we tend to pay more attention to children's food, clothing, housing and transportation and the cultivation of cultural class. After children enter the society, they find that the ability of benign communication is sometimes even better than the former, which becomes an essential factor of core competitiveness. Children who have been trained in this field early in family education are the children who really win at the starting line.

He Jiong is a very talkative person. He is recognized as a good man in the circle. He feels at home everywhere and should feel comfortable under any circumstances. Someone asked him, "You and Wang Han are very good. Who is the eldest brother of Hunan Satellite TV? " He Laoshi responded with a smile: "Why do you have to fight for a second brother? The bureau won't give me a raise. " In a short sentence, he dismissed the rumor that he didn't agree with Wang Han, showing a cool and humorous attitude. There is another question: "Investors have some money to start new programs. Who do you choose to cooperate with, He Jiong and Wang Han?" The interviewee couldn't answer and asked him how to respond. He said: "I choose to post money and let them work together." Everyone is convinced. Being able to speak is not to succumb to the wind, to be tactful and sophisticated, or to create contradictions, but to make language a driving force and make everyone decent. In the final analysis, the so-called benign communication is actually behind good cultivation, sincere treatment, gentlemanly demeanor and kind heart. These are the ultimate meanings of "well said". Therefore, be sure to tell your child the following:

1. No matter what's urgent, we should speak slowly. Don't worry in case of emergency, calm down and think calmly, which can not only help your own judgment, but also increase the trust of others.

Humor is a good way to enhance intimacy. Some contradictions and opinions, expressed in a humorous way, will make people more acceptable.

Don't say hurtful things, even to people who are very close. Keeping a safe distance is the foundation of any relationship.

4. Don't comment and spread other people's affairs easily. Don't comment on things you are not sure about and other people's things. This is an important criterion to judge whether a person is reliable or not.

Listening is an excellent way of expression. Sometimes, it goes without saying that just listening will bring excellent communication feelings to others.

If your child has these abilities, then he will not be too far from Excellence.