Parents should have a certain sense of being ahead in educating their children and take corresponding measures. They should understand: ① the development of children and the time when the transition period occurs; ② What preparations children need to make before entering the next stage of development; ③ When children enter a new stage, what changes may take place in body and mind, and what adjustments should be made in educational means.
2. The principle of all-round development
Modern society requires children to be: ① healthy; ② Mental health is usually characterized by happiness, self-confidence, strong curiosity, love of exploration, love of learning, sociability, compassion, emotional stability and strong self-control; ③ Strong social adaptability.
3. The principle of consistency
(1) Parents should undertake the obligation to educate their children; Parents often discuss the problems in children's development and educational countermeasures, and unify their caliber; Parents should not talk about each other's bad behavior in front of their children; (4) Parents should not undermine each other when educating their children, and then resolve their objections afterwards;
4. The principle of common growth
Parents accompany their children to grow up while educating them, which is not only the need of educating their children, but also the need of their own continuous development. Therefore, parents should ① read and pay attention to books, periodicals and information about scientific parenting; (2) constantly overcome their shortcomings and improve their personality; ③ Do a good job of changing roles at home and away, and properly handle the relationship between family and career; ④ Learn from children while educating them, and keep young and pure childlike innocence and always upward enthusiasm.
5. The principle of rewards and punishments
Correctly use the educational means of rewards and punishments: ① rewards are the main ones, supplemented by punishments; (2) Give priority to spiritual rewards (such as praise and intimacy). ), supplemented by material rewards; (3) Material rewards should meet the needs of children, and money should not be used as prizes; (4) rewards and punishments are clear, and the punishment should explain the reasons and reasons.
6. The principle of example
Many parents only attach importance to intentional speech education such as reasoning and criticism, and seldom attach importance to unintentional behavior education. In fact, many parents' education is carried out imperceptibly through daily unintentional behavior. Therefore, parents should: ① match words with deeds; You can't break your word when you say it; 3 let the children do it first; 4 be polite to children, speak calmly, and don't swear, swear or mean words; ⑤ Don't play tricks on children; 6. Always behave yourself in front of children.
7. The principle of entertaining.
It is an important educational method and principle to let children receive education in happy activities, which can not only enable children to acquire ability in happy emotional companionship, but also stimulate their interest in learning.
8. Initiative principle
An important sign of the success of family education is whether parents' enthusiasm is transformed into children's enthusiasm, so parents should: ① protect and encourage children's curiosity and curious psychological behavior; Support children to do their own things, and strive to create conditions for children to display their talents; (3) Ask children to do what they can independently and never replace them; (4) assigning children some housework within their power and undertaking certain tasks can cultivate a sense of responsibility; ⑤ Reduce personal passive games (such as watching TV and playing video games). ). If there are too many games like this, children will be isolated and withdrawn, lacking enthusiasm and interest in real life; ⑥ Increasing collective social activities can not only make children jump out of the self-centered circle and broaden their horizons, but more importantly, let them feel the multifaceted and complex life, fully exercise their personality and make them actively and tenaciously participate in life.