If you want to be more competent for the heavy responsibility of "being a parent", you need to understand the relevant content more comprehensively and thoroughly. The following are the psychological books I brought to you to educate children. Welcome to read!
Why don't students like going to school?
The reason why students don't like going to school is the educational psychology works by Daniel Willingham, a psychology professor at the University of Virginia. He studied the brain activity during his study for a long time, set up a column to introduce the research results of cognitive science to primary and secondary school teachers, and gave them some teaching suggestions. Later, based on these columns, he published a book on why students don't like school.
This book introduces the nine principles of cognitive science and the corresponding principles of educating children to learn. I have also introduced in detail in my column, such as "human beings are naturally curious, but not naturally good at thinking", "factual knowledge takes precedence over skills", "memory is the ashes of thinking", "we understand new knowledge through existing knowledge, and our brains tend to choose specific knowledge", "We must practice again if we want to master it skillfully" and so on.
This book understands children from the cognitive law at the bottom of the brain, telling you that it is normal for children not to like school, but at the same time it also gives ways to make children like learning, such as enriching children's factual knowledge as soon as possible and repeating basic skills at different times. If you begin to be interested in brain cognitive psychology and children's education after listening to our column, I suggest you include this book in your introductory equipment.
Baby is also a philosopher.
Babies are Philosophers is the work of Alison Gopnik, a psychology professor who studies children's cognition and artificial intelligence at Berkeley University. She is also a scientist and advocates understanding children from their perspective.
In this book, she points out that childhood is a very important stage in life, but we often ignore the importance of childhood. If you are willing to squat down and understand children, you will find that their learning ability and thinking ability are much stronger than you think.
For example, you may think that children don't understand logical reasoning and causality between things. Gopnik found that children can make surprisingly accurate inferences about abstract causality. But adults don't understand children and often test them with unfamiliar things. If you ask your child, "Why is it dark at night?"
The baby's answer will be ridiculous, such as "we can't sleep after dark", as if the baby really doesn't understand causality. In fact, if you ask your baby a familiar example, such as "Why did Xiaoming open the refrigerator when he was hungry?" Even a two-year-old baby will infer: "Because Xiaoming knows there is food in the refrigerator."
For example, children's ability to accept and learn new things is even higher than that of adults. Adults are likely to be biased against things because of old experience, but children can quickly accept new ideas and integrate into the original ones. Therefore, babies can quickly learn and use all kinds of new tools, while adults who have already developed a mindset cannot.
If you want to know more about your child, see what his little head is thinking, see how he learns, or protect his strong learning ability, you can include this book in your parenting treasure house.
Beyond IQ: why smart people do stupid things.
Beyond IQ: Why Smart People Do Stupid Things is one of the rational trilogy by Keith Sinew, a professor of human development and applied psychology at the University of Toronto. Xiniu's thought is good at thinking. It is not enough to have intelligence, but also to be rational. Although many intelligence tests do not measure the judgment and decision-making power in "rationality". However, these skills are very important for work and life. It will affect your plan, evaluate key evidence, evaluate risks and possibilities, and then decide whether you can make a good decision.
Why is rationality so important to parenting? Because there are too many "pits" on the road to parenting. Apart from the popular knowledge of children's psychology, what I do most in my column is "counterfeiting": "left and right brains", "flash cards", "blindfolding literacy" and "camera memory". If you lack judgment and decision-making power, you will be easily influenced by cognitive prejudice and used by false information.
Only by becoming rational parents can we think independently and avoid common misunderstandings in parenting. At the same time, let children learn rationality and become people who know how to think.
Creativity: Mobility and Innovation Psychology
Creativity: the Psychology of Flow and Innovation is a classic that Mihaly Shizantmihai, the "father of flow" and a master of positive psychology, has devoted himself to studying for 30 years. Flow is a state in which people can concentrate on completing the current task, and it is the highest state of concentration. Creativity can be improved in a state of very focused flow.
When I talked about concentration before, I made an analogy between children playing games and flow. From the game settings, we can find three steps to realize flow:
1, the game has a clear goal, like angry birds, which is to use as few birds as possible and shoot as many pigs as possible;
2. Many games are based on the level system, and the difficulty of the game matches the child's ability to play the game;
3. The game has timely and comprehensive feedback.
By analogy, if children want to concentrate, they should also learn from the theory of "flow". One is to set clear goals, the other is to match the difficulty, and the third is to give feedback to children in time.
You can see more about flow and creativity from this book. I invite you to think while reading, use the knowledge in the book to interpret some phenomena like me, and integrate the conclusions into parenting practice.
Burke's Psychology of Lifelong Development: From 0 to Teenagers
Burke's Psychology of Lifelong Development is one of the most used developmental psychology textbooks in the United States. It lists in detail the development stages of children in different fields from pregnancy to infancy, toddler, early childhood, primary school and adolescence.
The sports brain in our column uses the children's fine motor skills development schedule in Burke's lifelong development psychology. I often find that this book mentions the development of children of different ages.
Burke's Psychology of Lifelong Development has two volumes, namely, From 0 to Adolescent and from Adolescent to Old Age. If you need to know the systematic, comprehensive and scientific knowledge and theory of developmental psychology, this book can probably become an unshakable guide book on your desk.
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