I believe many parents have such doubts. Why do they usually watch their children study well, and sometimes they have to do their homework until midnight, but they just don't do well in the exam? In fact, there is no complete direct ratio between doing well in the exam and learning well. Studying well doesn't mean that you did well in the exam, and not doing well in the exam doesn't mean that children can't actually learn at all.

Parents should first know whether they really study well when they say they study well. Many parents think that children study hard, listen carefully in class and finish their homework at home, which means that their children learn well. But optics is not enough, and learning well is not that simple.

What is really good study? First, have you mastered the basic knowledge?

Just as a high-rise building needs a foundation, basic knowledge plays a fundamental role in children's learning. Mastering the basic knowledge is the first step in learning, just as before we learned multiplication when we were young, the teacher always asked us to recite the multiplication formula, which is also a kind of basic knowledge.

Second, is it possible to draw inferences?

In learning, the most important thing is to draw inferences from others. This means that children's familiarity and mastery of knowledge is very important in many aspects.

Third, high efficiency.

Many parents feel that their children are under great academic pressure when they look at their homework until midnight, but in fact, it is largely because their children's learning efficiency is not high, which affects the speed of writing homework. Learning efficiency is also very important for children.

Fourth, focus and seriousness.

Everyone came from the school days, even parents. They must have experienced the time when they sat at their desks, seemingly reading books, but their minds had disappeared. So everyone can feel the importance of studying seriously and intently. If you can't study hard and concentrate, you can't even remember simple formulas.

Only by doing the above can we really learn well. What many parents call learning well is actually just a misunderstanding of their children.

I think children study well, but parents misunderstand. Give two simple examples. Some parents will think that it is a proof that their children are learning well when they see that they are proficient in reciting textbooks or doing well in homework assigned by teachers.

However, reciting textbooks skillfully does not mean understanding the contents of textbooks. Doing homework well does not mean that children must do it themselves. These details blind parents' eyes, so many parents judge whether their children study well or not only by these small details, but parents don't know what it is actually like.

And if the child's foundation is really poor, then it is really natural for the child to do poorly in the exam. After all, the current exam will not directly test the original questions in the textbook, but test the child's ability to draw inferences and test the child's understanding of knowledge.

Therefore, parents really don't have to always think about why my children always fail the exam when they study well. This is actually an excuse for their children not to work hard.

I really studied well. Why didn't I do well in the exam? Of course, it's not that I really didn't study hard, just that I failed the exam. There are several reasons for this.

1, poor improvisation ability

Sometimes, children usually study really well, but when they encounter exams, they can't keep their usual calm thinking. This is a very common situation, and the ability to improvise also determines the child's exam results.

2. Study habits are not suitable for exams.

Some children's study habits are not suitable for exam-oriented education, because exam-oriented education is mainly for exams, but some children's study is more inclined to specialized research. For example, some children like to study mathematical problems, and some children like to study the stories behind literary works.

But it can't be said that these children's learning is wrong, but their attitude towards learning is more serious, but such a learning attitude is not pleasing in today's society which focuses on exam-oriented education.

3. Too much psychological pressure

Nowadays, the society places too much emphasis on the importance of exams. Many parents unconsciously put a lot of pressure on their children, but parents are unaware of it. For example, many parents like to treat their children's favorite things as rewards for exams. In fact, this is also an invisible pressure for children. Under such pressure, children are prone to problems.

4. Children are too confident.

I heard it when I was a child. Modesty makes people progress, while pride makes people lag behind? This sentence is still very reasonable. Many confident children go to the examination room, they will be overconfident, not take the exam seriously, be careless and eventually fail.

How can a child who studies well do well in the exam? Although exam-oriented education has many disadvantages, as the most important way of education today, it is very important for parents to cultivate their children's exam ability. So how can we cultivate children's test ability? Parents need to do this.

Turn the pressure and tension of facing the exam into excitement.

Many parents agree that there is no motivation without pressure, but for children, pressure may not only turn into motivation, but also into frustration. Therefore, parents can't put pressure on their children blindly, so that they can be rendered nervous when facing the exam. It is to guide children to regard the exam as a battle that needs to be overcome. Success is not important. The most important thing is to enjoy the process.

Only when children have a correct attitude towards exams can they find their own way in future study.

Turn self-confidence into seriousness

Don't be too conceited in the face of exams, parents should learn to guide their children. Self-confidence is a good thing, but overconfidence is not. Turn this self-confidence into the seriousness of the exam, and let us constantly correct ourselves in the exam. In fact, this is also an exam for the children themselves and themselves.

Usually simulate the test atmosphere.

For nervous children, in fact, these children have enough knowledge reserves and the ability to draw inferences from others, but they can't adapt to the tense atmosphere of exams, so they often fail.

In fact, parents can occasionally give their children some quizzes on weekdays to simulate the atmosphere of the exam, so that children can get used to the atmosphere of the exam, so that when they really face the exam, the tension will be much reduced.

Parents should not deceive themselves.

Parents always say? How well my children study, but they don't do well in the exam? In fact, this is mostly because parents are unwilling to admit that they usually don't pay serious attention to their children's learning.

Whether children really learn well can be seen as long as parents observe carefully. But most parents still prefer to believe their guesses. But this is normal. After all, everyone thinks that their children are the smartest, and they can get good grades as long as they are serious.

Examination-oriented education is not the only way in daily life. Parents should not only care about their children's exam results, but also don't beat and scold their children if they fail in the exam. A failure is not terrible for children. The terrible thing is that parents can't accept their children's failure.

There may be many reasons for failure, but parents always feel that only one is their imagination. For example, sometimes children do not do well in the exam, and parents ask them as soon as they come up. Didn't you listen carefully? , or? Distracted in class, or,? Were you careless in the exam? ?

In fact, all these situations exist, but not every child has them. The child failed the exam, but that was only one of countless exams in his life. Parents should not be too harsh on this point and make their children afraid of exams. The best way is to educate children and find out the reasons for failure with them.

However, it is also very important that some children are really not material for reading, so parents don't have to force their children to study. There are always other ways to suit your children. Don't think that your children are useless just because the whole society is engaged in exam-oriented education, because they just can't adapt to exam-oriented education. No child is born a loser, and a loser is a parent who can't see the bright spot of his child and still thinks that his child is not good enough.