This sentence is almost a household name, from the Analects of Confucius. The original text is: "When you are in a threesome, you must learn from me. Follow the good ones and change the bad ones. " It means that the three of you must have my teacher. I choose his good aspects to learn from him, and when I see his bad aspects, I correct my shortcomings for myself.

This sentence shows the spirit of Confucius' self-cultivation and modesty. It includes two aspects: on the one hand, it is the spirit of learning with an open mind and choosing the good and following it; On the other hand, people who change badly should take warning and reflect on themselves when they see people's shortcomings. This is the spirit of self-cultivation. In this way, whoever is good at getting along with others can be a teacher. It is recorded in The Analects that Sun Chao once asked Zi Gong about defending the country. Where did Confucius learn the knowledge? Zi Gong replied that the ancient sage's preaching remained among the people, and the sage knew the bigger point, while the wicked knew the smaller point. There are ancient saints. "How can a master not learn, but how can he often learn from others?" "(The Analects of Confucius, Zhang Zi) He learns from everyone anytime and anywhere, and anyone can be his teacher, so there is no fixed teacher. There are many records in The Analects of Confucius, for example, Confucius entered the ancestral temple and asked everything (The Analects of Confucius Bashu); Zaiyu slept during the day, and Confucius said, "I started with others, and I listened to their words and believed in their actions;" "Today, I listen to people's voices and observe their actions. Giving and changing are right. " (The Analects of Confucius Gongye Chang) Zi Gong told Confucius that he could only "smell one and know two", but Yan Hui could "smell one and know ten". Confucius said, "I am as good as you. I am as good as you. " (The Analects of Confucius Gongye Chang) embodies this spirit.

The attitude and spirit of "three people must have a teacher" and "choose the good and follow it, change the bad and follow it" also embodies an important principle of getting along with others. Always pay attention to learning from the strengths of others, and always take the weaknesses of others as a warning. Naturally, you will pay more attention to the strengths of others, be kind to others, be lenient with others, and be strict with yourself. This is not only the best way to cultivate and improve oneself, but also an important condition to promote harmonious interpersonal relationship.

Although "three people, there must be my teacher." It can be said that it is a household name, but people can't do it. A common fault that people often make is that they often look at their own advantages and the shortcomings of others, and look at their own shortcomings and the advantages of others. Therefore, it is of great significance to review the profound connotation of "a threesome requires a teacher". Choose good and follow it, and change evil. "