Considering time and economy, grandparents became the first choice. In the past, these ideas were old-fashioned. Generally speaking, married women are in the man's house, so more grandparents take care of the children. However, with the development of society, more and more grandparents have joined the army with children.
When you take your children around the community, especially from Monday to Friday, there are fewer and fewer young parents taking their children, and more are elders, grandmothers and grandfathers.
Previously, China News Network had initiated a vote in Weibo: "Who brought your children?" In view of this problem, some surveys have been done, and more than 50% people choose grandma to take care of them, ranking first, followed by taking care of children, and the third is taking care of children.
In the past, grandparents took more children, but now the proportion of grandparents taking children is increasing, and it is obvious that the proportion of grandparents taking children in rural areas is higher than that in cities and towns, and grandparents take more children.
It's good for children to live separately. If the elderly love children, children will feel more love, which is beneficial to their growth. If the elderly love their children and are willing to help take care of them, they will have more time to work, which will help their parents financially.
In fact, the life of the elderly is very lonely. Having a child with them is very good for their physical and mental health and sleep, so that their happiness in their later years will be much higher.
The disadvantage is the education problem of the next generation, which may lead to children being overindulged in the process of growing up. The problem in this respect lies not in the elderly, but in the reconciliation between Baoda and Ma Bao.
In the early 1980s, researchers in Toronto, Littlefield of York University and rushton of the University of Western Ontario surveyed families who had lost their children. They found that after the children left, the people who had the saddest influence on their lives and spirits were grandmothers, grandmothers, grandfathers, which also confirmed from an angle which elder was the most important in the children's hearts.
After many years, this ranking has been verified again. In 2009, Bishop and others from Lu Se, USA, conducted a survey on more than 200 college students in the United States, and found that they interacted with their grandmothers the most frequently, liked their grandmothers the most, and interacted with their grandfathers the least. Grandma's contribution is the greatest both materially and in time.
Generally speaking, from the perspective of research scholars, I think grandparents should be the people who love their children the most. Unexpectedly, through long-term continuous big data verification, the most accurate ranking is Grandma > Grandma > Grandpa > Grandpa.
Grandma takes care of the children: Generally, grandma takes care of the children for her daughter. Although I am distressed by my children, I want to help my daughter reduce the burden. When taking care of children, they will always maintain their daughter's image in the eyes of children.
When it comes to educating children, in many families, fathers don't care much and mothers care much. If grandma takes care of the children, if there is anything wrong in the process of educating the children, she will communicate directly with her, which will be easier for her to accept. She will also think of countermeasures and educate her children together.
But there are also some shortcomings to be noted. If the father participates too little in the process of educating and raising children, the grandmother will not tell too many stories about the father in front of the children. When the children grow up, they will have no sense of worship for their fathers, especially boys, who spend too much time with their grandmother and mother, and their fathers are too lazy to participate. This is also what we should pay attention to as parents in the process of taking care of their babies.
Mothers-in-law take care of their children: Many mothers-in-law take care of their children voluntarily, and they think they should. In addition, they will pay more spirit and energy, and may not express everything for family harmony. As daughter-in-law, we should be considerate and understand them, and let them have less mental worries in the process of taking care of their children.
Moreover, in the process of educating children, if there are differences, you must think twice before you act, and you should think about the wording when communicating with your mother-in-law, which is also very tiring for your mother. Therefore, communication between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most important in the process of mother-in-law taking care of children. If communication is not good and there is resentment between them, the child's character will also be affected.
In addition, we should pay attention to doting. The mother-in-law takes care of the children, and all the eyes of the mother-in-law are focused on the children. If there are no rules and strict discipline, it is easy for children to feel that they are the boss, which is also unfavorable for children's growth. Just focus on this aspect. In fact, the children brought by grandma have the strongest happiness when they grow up, and so do the children raised with love.
Grandpa, grandpa takes care of children: Grandpa takes care of children very often in cities, probably because the mothers of the old people on both sides are gone. At this time, it is also a spiritual sustenance and comfort for grandpa to take care of the children, and it is also very loving for the children. Moreover, with fewer things, a natural person's personality will be more structured and he will get along well with his son-in-law. In fact, the child is well integrated in all aspects under the care of his grandfather.
It is rare for grandpa to take care of children in the city. Daughter-in-law under the same roof may have more disadvantages Although the elderly will understand the difficulties of their daughter-in-law and son and try their best to take care of their grandchildren, this long-term residence will inevitably make the daughter-in-law feel uncomfortable. Children may understand through simple micro-expressions, and mothers may not like grandpa so much, which will have a certain impact on children.
In short, no matter who takes care of the children, it is also the best education for the children to communicate with each other, respect each other, understand each other, be more tolerant and live in harmony.
Finally, we should also realize that if children can take care of themselves, they should try to take care of themselves, even if it is a little hard, so as to avoid many adverse effects. Even if parents don't help us, we shouldn't complain. As parents and children, this is our lifelong responsibility.
If we can't take care of ourselves, we'd better have old people to help us, but we should remember to be grateful at all times and not take it for granted. For children, setting an example is a good education of gratitude and filial piety.
Today's topic: Who is taking care of your children? Who do you think loves children the most?