It is suggested that parents and children grow up together as much as possible: they can spend as much time as possible, starting from arranging work and rest on time at the same time, and taking time out every day to discuss the confusion encountered in their study and life with their children; Eat at least one meal with your child every day; Check the children's homework, recitation and correction of wrong questions every day; Accompany children with reading, reading newspapers, walking and chatting, and strive for 2~4 hours of exercise or proper entertainment every week.
Parents should treat children differently according to their age characteristics, let nature take its course, respect their physical and mental development characteristics, and guide their behavior, so as to better promote their healthy growth.
The first rebellious period: two and a half years old (or even earlier) to about three years old. I like to say "no" easily when my self-awareness is budding. The first "no" in a child's mouth is often learned from his parents. In the face of such a small rebellion, parents should not restrict it. It is best to accept and guide-all shoes are neat: are such neat shoes good or messy? One good and one bad, choose one from the other. He not only set an example, but also simply ordered him to put away his shoes. Children at this time often ask questions about most things or things. At this time, parents should be more patient, guide and answer their children's questions attentively, so that their logical thinking ability will be qualitatively improved at this time.
When children reach the second or third grade, that is, 7-9 years old, there will be a second rebellious period: children at this stage are different from infants. They feel that they have grown up, but they are very dependent on adults, crying and more delicate. Always talking back, you say this, he is just like that, unreasonable, and so on.
Instead of asking him to do this and that every day, it is better to help him develop good study habits. Help children make a regular schedule. Children's requirements are linked to the quality of tasks, with awards instead of punishment and awards instead of love. Children's demands must not be easily agreed, and they must pay a certain price: correcting bad habits, actively completing homework and watching cartoons, and playing chess with friends.
12- 15' s adolescent rebellious period is the most troublesome, and it is easy to "collapse" if you don't pay attention. Because it often happens in the second day, it is also called the "second day phenomenon": at this time, children are more "not playing cards according to common sense" and their grades may get worse and worse; Always talk back, play truant, smoke, love dressing up and saving face; At first, I had my own opinions and understanding, and I didn't listen to the teacher's guidance and criticism easily, so it was difficult to communicate. Most of them also like to show off and play brotherhood (especially when the opposite sex is present); At the same time, due to the long-term low score and unpopular double pressure, inferiority complex and psychological endurance are poor, and they are self-righteous. ...
In fact, the characteristics of junior two students' strong plasticity and courage to pursue independence are the key period of education. As parents, we should always pay attention to them (it is better to make less money than to make money), ask him about the ways and means to avoid unnecessary confrontation and prevent them from lying, making troubles and setting a bad example.
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We generally refer to the rebellious period of adolescence, which is about 12- 18 years old. At this stage, children are more independent, emotionally unstable, sentimental or more aggressive. Parents are more concerned about finding an outlet for their children's energy and emotions than preaching and suppressing them.
First of all, we should treat children's rebellious behavior correctly and help them to survive the rebellious period safely. Here, I will tell you how to get your child through the rebellious period with my own personal experience.
First, parents know that their children are obedient and get good grades in primary school. Why do they become unwilling to communicate with their parents when they get to junior high school? The main reason is that the child has entered adolescence, and great changes have taken place in body and physiology. Careful parents will understand that children are adults, and they are very confused at this time. Parents must blame less, care more, help more and stimulate less. General 12- 18 years old, some earlier or later!
Second, parents should take responsibility for themselves, and don't take the lead in doing some bad behaviors such as playing games on mobile phones and surfing the Internet.
Third, care about children's psychological growth and eliminate children's bad emotions in time. Create a happy and uplifting family atmosphere. Let the child know that you are with him.
Fourth, find problems and solve them in time, without delay.
Fifth, establish a positive outlook on life and tell children what to do. Don't do what? How to face the problem?
Sixth, make friends with children, don't beat and scold, be reasonable! Even empathy!
I hope I can help you and your children!
The rebellious period of youth refers to children 12- 18 years old, mainly in junior high school. Children enter a rebellious period and begin to form their own thoughts. They have also grown from children to adults, no longer dependent on adults, able to handle their own problems independently and unwilling to accept too much management. Many parents still manage their children as before, only to find that their children are increasingly disobedient and even against themselves, and there is nothing parents can do about him. So how should parents face the rebellious young children? Hou Ma has been focusing on parenting education for more than ten years, talking about how to educate adolescent rebellious children.
1. Children in rebellious youth are adults. Parents can no longer treat them as children. We should treat children equally, think more about them, don't treat children as adults, and change our way of treating children to cope with changing children.
2. Parents should understand their children's ideas, care more about them and help them realize their ideas together. Children naturally appreciate their parents and are willing to accept their opinions.
3. Parents should respect their children, praise and encourage them more, don't beat and scold them, and evaluate their achievements more positively.
4. Listen to your child's thoughts, communicate with your child more, don't just care about his academic performance, give your child more freedom and space, try not to tremble when talking to your child, and don't compare your child with other people's children.
The values of adolescent children are forming, but they are not yet mature. Parents should help their children establish correct values and prevent them from going astray.
Your "companionship" is the best way and the most important attitude.
Children in the rebellious period are not only the necessary stage in their normal growth, but also the important stage for their parents.
At this stage, most children mainly establish peer relationships. Naturally, when many things are in doubt, one is to turn to peers, and the other is to turn to authoritative roles, that is, teachers. Finally, I may think of asking my parents for help.
Because at this stage, the contradiction between children and their parents will be magnified, and children at this stage will begin to refute all their parents' views and challenge their prestige in front of their parents to prove their abilities.
Therefore, for children in the rebellious period, the first thing is to accompany them, provide them with a stable and strong family environment, and show them the attitude that "parents will support and help anyway".
Secondly, we should give priority to listening and actively pay attention to the child's state. Whether facing children's impatience or children's resistance, it is definitely impossible to solve problems by violence, so listen to children's needs and voices.
When children are impatient, it is actually their voices shouting and asking for help with this seemingly unfriendly attitude.
What parents should do is to carefully observe what the child may be shouting, so as to really help the child solve the problems and pains brought about by the rebellious period.
It is said that adolescence is a rebellious period, and every child is different. Some children have more serious symptoms, while others are not so serious. If the symptoms of the rebellious period are serious, they will come out and spit, and the parents of good children will secretly laugh.
My baby is a rebellious child in the eyes of others. Maybe I was tolerant of him when I was a child, so this guy was naughty. In primary school, my hard-working wife and I were often called to criticize by the school teacher. What about elementary school? It's not the rebellious period yet.
Junior high school is similar. At a parent-teacher meeting, the class teacher said angrily that your son is active and loves to talk in class. I have arranged for him to sit in the middle of the first row. The two people in the last row were chatting in class, and he actually interrupted chatting with others. Alas, every parent-teacher meeting is criticized by the teacher. What a pity!
High school is almost the same. Once there was a parent-teacher meeting, the class teacher said that a classmate didn't get the total score in the last monthly exam. Because I overslept during the Chinese exam, I didn't come to the exam, so I missed my Chinese score. Then the whole class of parents burst into laughter. I'm so old that I can't face the teacher.
I wonder if this is a serious rebellious period. I know this person in my family has caused me a lot of trouble since I was a child. What should I do?
I give myself three words: truth, patience, waiting and persuasion.
The first word is forbearance. My son is my own, and all the mistakes are my fault. If you want to scold or fight, just come at me and I'll bear it. After being scolded by the teacher, you won't beat and scold the children when you go home. I will put up with it.
The second word, and so on. Children are children, children are not sensible, and they will be sensible when they grow up. I feel that it is. With the growth of age, it seems that there are fewer troubles. This made me see the light.
The third word, advise. The child was born to us, and it is our duty to educate him. I seldom beat and scold my children. He calculated it himself. I raised him 18 years and hit him 7 times. Only once every two years on average. Very gentle. If you make a mistake, don't use violence, just persuade. My iron bar is ground into a needle, and I drop water into a stone. Under my efforts, this guy in our family sometimes cries with guilt and vows to be fine. But according to my wife, vows are usually only valid for three days. I can't. During the validity period, I praised him desperately. After the expiration date, I advised him again.
I think these three words are useful. Now that I'm a senior three, I seem to suddenly understand a lot. It's no trouble. When you meet the head teacher at the parent-teacher meeting, you can not only continue to criticize, but also discuss some ways to help him improve his academic performance in a friendly way.
For me, the child is her own. Good is my baby, bad is my baby. Whether he is good or not, I love him. I love him, so I will treat his mistakes with the greatest tolerance, wait for his growth with the greatest patience, and help him grow up with the greatest strength.
This is my attitude.
Children's "disobedience" shows that they have begun to have their own thinking ability and independent ideas, and they are no longer obedient to us! At this time, anxiety gradually developed. Because the child is not fully mature, the ability to judge right and wrong is not perfect enough. If a child conflicts with his parents, he is rebellious and disagrees with his parents' demands. As a parent, he must pay attention to adjusting his mentality and be calm!
Children are no longer so "obedient", parents should not worry, because it is normal for children to "judge disobedience", and parents should also change their education methods with their children's growth! Listen to what children say, observe their mentality and understand their feelings and thoughts. Don't forget, children's health and happiness is our aim, positive is the direction of efforts, and it is what parents should do to guide children to deal with emotions correctly!
Read more, reflect more, communicate more, communicate more ..., be good at accumulating experience, enrich experience, parents enrich themselves, and children slowly learn to be calm. In fact, children are a mirror of their parents, and perhaps setting an example is the best education!
Parents find the right way to deal with "disobedience" and believe that our children are not "disobedient", they just live their own lives. As parents, we should accept children's growth and behavior from the heart, guide and standardize children's correct cognition, and learn to really love children!
The rebellious period is an indispensable and important period to establish the identity of growth. Why do you say that? Because if you have weak resistance to your parents and only listen to them, you may not be able to stand on your own feet as a person. But before that, "I like my mother best", the child suddenly showed a confrontational attitude, and she was still very depressed as a mother. So, when the rebellious period of children comes, what can be done to deal with it calmly? Here is how to accompany and educate "rebellious" children.
There is nothing wrong with you taking care of the children. Although there are personal differences, the rebellious period is the way everyone has to go. As I said at the beginning, it is a witness to growth and a ladder to adulthood. Although it is a problem that children exercise violence and cause serious troubles to others, if they show rebellious psychology to their parents and families, they should think that "children are growing up healthily." It is important to have confidence in your education: "My education is not wrong", but in fact, parents whose children are in a rebellious period often say "Am I wrong?" . On the contrary. It is precisely because we have educated our children correctly that we have ushered in the rebellious period of our children. If you have confidence in your teaching, you will be very comfortable. By calmly capturing children's words and deeds, you should also be able to find ways to treat children in the future.
Once in the rebellious period, children will not only be disobedient, but also become slow-witted, slow-witted and perfunctory, so it is useless to sigh. Even if you reprimand casually, you may be covered up by the child's appearance. Children may feel more relaxed if they don't say hello and talk. However, it should be noted that if the children don't say hello, I won't say hello, so don't be angry here. I must think in my heart that "it is because it is a rebellious period", and it is important to contact as before. On such days, I will occasionally chat and say things like "good morning" and "I'm out" that I wouldn't normally say. If the "rebellious period" is regarded as "my child is a proud period", then these casual struggles and a little gentleness will make parents feel very cute. In fact, in the rebellious period of the child, no matter what, he takes a confrontational attitude, and he himself does not know the reason. Nevertheless, if you give children such instructions and accusations, it will only make them hate their parents more. Then, really no, take a step back and think "just don't disturb others."
Protect children with a broad mind and a long-term vision. After reading the above statement, you may feel similar, but your child will be very upset during the rebellious period, but there is no specific medicine during the rebellious period. However, there is no need to be pessimistic when entering the rebellious period. Don't respond to children's rebellious psychology one by one, but "Then, see how to rebel next?" If you hold the idea that "you really have the strength to resist your parents", you may be able to establish a better parent-child relationship. If we adopt this attitude, our children will feel the greatness of their parents after the rebellious period, because they have been guarding us well. With a big mind and a long-term vision, the rebellious period in the process of growth will also become lovely and pleasant.
The rebellious period of children is divided into three stages: 1, 2-4 years old. At this time, the children were full of curiosity about the outside world, and began to have a little sense of their own and began to rebel. The solution is to ignore him, or divert his attention, and it will be all right in a moment. 2, 6-8 years old, at this time, children want to get rid of their parents' control and start to have their own independent way of thinking and become sensitive. Solutions, guide correct thinking and pay more attention to companionship. 3, 12- 18 years old, others in this age group are in the stage of ignorance of society, but they think they are right, are bored or dismissive of others' teaching, and are easily disturbed by external bad factors. Solution: Give him some independent space, don't discuss his privacy too much, discuss some youth topics he is interested in, and give him correct guidance!