Therefore, every time a child does something wrong, he will subconsciously say "sorry" first. All along, parents think that this is the main performance of politeness, even if they just meet their children gently, they will say sorry first.
At this time, I really want to ask such parents: I'm sorry, is it really that important? A casual apology can show that the child realized the mistake and corrected it?
I just want to say that my parents are somewhat overhappy. I still remember reading a sentence before: If sorry is useful, why are there police? The so-called "sorry" itself is the expression of children's "pseudo-civility and politeness", even spoken language.
After all, the child didn't realize the mistake at all, but subconsciously said "I'm sorry". In her mind, "I'm sorry" is as casual as "I want to eat" It is very likely that the child is still doing other things alone, and he can't remember what he did wrong at the last second.
First, I'm sorry, it's really not everything. There is no denying that "I'm sorry" is definitely a civilized language to admit mistakes. But parents must understand that not all apologies can be exchanged, and even if they don't forgive, they are excusable, because it is not themselves who are hurt.
The real apology is to let the child realize from the heart that his personal behavior is incorrect and has a certain impact on the other party. Therefore, to apologize, we must show our due attitude towards one thing, sincerely apologize to the other party, and give due compensation.
Only in this way can children clearly understand what is wrong? What is right? At least, you can avoid the same mistake and then happen again frequently.
There is no shortage of civilized manners in this society, but "pseudo-civilized manners" must be the least recommended way. Children not only fail to recognize their mistakes, but also endanger their values. Once, they felt that as long as they said sorry, others should be tolerant and even reach their own selfish ideas.
There is only one possibility to apologize for your mistake: it will be the next time, and then repeat the same mistake and continue to say "I'm sorry". May I ask, is this what mom and dad want to see? Now others will forgive their children for their mistakes, but what about the future?
Second, parents should adjust their mentality and face mistakes with their children. It is no exaggeration to say that parents' education methods in the past gave children incorrect and correct guidance, which made them misunderstand their mistakes and admit their mistakes. Therefore, the key now is to adjust the mentality, and adjust the way of education, and take the children to think again.
1, for the event itself, help children to re-recognize and distinguish, grasp the good opportunity for children to make mistakes, and guide and educate the event itself. It is common to make mistakes. Let the children know where the mistakes are and what bad effects they will have, and help them remember the whole process of making mistakes. According to mom and dad's fond memories and analysis, children will have a clearer understanding of this matter.
It is easier for children to deepen their memory by analyzing right and wrong with a rational attitude without any personal feelings. Next time he encounters the same thing, he will think carefully to reduce the chance of making mistakes again.
2. Formulate relevant rules and agree on rewards and punishments with children. There is no doubt that the goal of education is to hope that children will become better. However, it is absolutely not enough to let parents, especially the more sensible children, teach them to deepen their memories. At this time, we need to rely on rewards and punishments to help children correct according to rewards and punishments.
Formulate rules suitable for children and stipulate relevant rewards and punishments. Seeing that the children are doing well in the local area, they will give subsidies according to the agreement. Naturally, knowing the law and breaking the law, then punishment should be distributed.
3, adhere to the principle of education, unlike children who compromise easily, many parents' love has been fluttering with the wind, as long as they hear their children crying and begging, they will compromise because of hesitation. It is difficult for such parents to cultivate principled and responsible children. Education, family members must stand on the same front, especially when they make mistakes, and are unwilling to allow compromise.
Old people often say that "loving mothers often lose their children", and the more they spoil, the more they let their children have no bottom line. Parental indulgence can only make them take exams without a bottom line and then make more mistakes. Sticking to the bottom line and keeping a proper attitude in the face of incorrect things also set a good example for children.
Written at the end: those children who say "I'm sorry" are really smart and know how to prevent punishment. However, the mentality of drilling loopholes like that is not good for children's growth. So, don't be too happy. Children admit too many mistakes and may have secrets that their parents don't know.