As soon as the baby is born, all the outside information will flood into his mind. His eyes, ears, nose, tongue, all organs of his body, and the mysterious "sixth sense officer" are greedily absorbing information from the outside world. ?

These messages collide with the child's mind, and he reacts, forms feelings, accumulates them, and gradually settles down. It takes about three or four years to mold his subconscious, which deeply affects his later development and life. ?

Therefore, when the second child is pregnant, it is very important for parents and families to choose what kind of life for their children. Of course, it is necessary to choose the best, happiest, most caring, most cheerful, most interesting, most curious, most right and wrong, most successful and most joyful life content for children, that is, to raise the baby with the best quality and most balanced spiritual nutrition. ?

So in the "second pregnancy", what criteria should be used to choose and determine the baby's "main life"? Simply put, "mastering life" is very conducive to developing the baby's right brain potential and stimulating the left brain potential. ?

1. nurture the feelings of baby love?

Caring, loving, comforting, amusing, playing games, caring for others and getting happiness are the natural needs to meet children's physical and mental development. Give the child a sense of happiness, security, intimacy and happiness, and let him subconsciously feel that the world is safe, life is happy, and interpersonal relationships are cordial. In this way, he will grow into a happy, positive, cheerful, kind and unrestrained person, and there will be no chance to be timid, withdrawn, nervous and timid in the future. ?

Parents should use body language to encourage their children to laugh, talk or express their enthusiasm and love for their families and people around them, such as nodding, waving, welcoming, congratulating, saying goodbye, hugging, blowing kisses, giving others delicious and fun things, touching other people's sore places, helping their children get up when they fall, taking towels to wipe their sweat for their fathers, handing stools to their mothers, massaging their grandmothers' backs, and helping their mothers with housework. ?

Everyone is born with physiological needs and is eager to be satisfied, so children have a natural selfish tendency. Therefore, it is necessary to inject the subconscious of "caring for others and being happy with yourself" into the "second child" and cultivate the child into a sound and kind social person. ?

Encouraging children to plant flowers, trees, crops and cute animals together can not only cultivate children's good quality of caring for life, nature and environment, but also cast their love sentiment. ?

When others or other children have made progress and made achievements, they should be encouraged to applaud and congratulate warmly. In this way, when children grow up, they will be happy for the success of others and willing to learn from others, without jealousy. ?

2. Cultivate children's good feelings?

Let the children bathe in a beautiful environment and cultivate the subconscious to love, appreciate and create beauty. Children's living environment must be neat, simple, generous and harmonious, with beautiful pictures on the walls, elegant sculptures at home and a green environment around them. ?

A family should always appreciate works of art, artistic photography, going out to enjoy the natural scenery, as well as all kinds of architectural beauty, decorative beauty, commodity design beauty and packaging beauty. In addition, it is necessary to get in touch with people with elegant temperament, neat clothes and fluent and beautiful language, so that children's behavior and language will be beautiful. ?

On the other hand, shaping the aesthetic feeling of the subconscious is to let the children bathe in the "music bath". Fetuses and babies often listen to elegant music, classic songs (which can also be played when sleeping), and even use them as the background music of life, so that children not only like music with beautiful tone, melody and rhythm when they grow up, but also have a particularly rich imagination. ?

3. Cultivate children's sense of tranquility and reason?

Now, most children are very active. The so-called "turn off the lights when you open your eyes" makes adults exhausted. ?

How to make children quiet and focused? To let children live in a relatively quiet environment, breeders should be serene, cheerful, calm, not impatient, speak softly, do things in an orderly way, act quickly and accurately, have a relatively stable mood, and be kind and serious (sometimes calm and serious) to children. ?

Tell children stories, read children's songs and recite ancient poems in a low voice; Guide children to observe carefully and ask and answer each other; You can also play chess, draw pictures, read books, do handicrafts and play desktop games. Take your children; Children should also be encouraged to play quietly alone. In short, happiness should have a "degree", carnival and madness should not be too much, and tranquility and reason are the best state of mind and the longest happiness. ?

At present, many kindergartens are almost restless. Even when children shout loudly in activity classes, the voices of teachers and students are in a "sub-hoarse" state, which is not good for children's physical and mental health. ?

4. Cultivate children's sense of accomplishment and self-confidence?

We should always inspire, guide and help children to do a lot of things, so that they can get the joy of success and recognition, so that their sense of accomplishment and self-confidence can grow rapidly, and a beautiful self-image can be established in the subconscious, so that they can always be full of self-confidence in their later lives and raise the sails of ideals and success. ?

A "baby success record column" should be set up in the family. Every child's first success in all aspects should be recorded in the column, decorated with small stars. For example, the baby eats for the first time in a month; In a certain month, the baby learns quietly for the first time, without the company of adults ... In the long run, the child's subconscious will always innovate life instead of being positive. ?

Children should be encouraged to work hard to overcome difficulties, or they can work hard with their children to help them make some achievements in secret. For example, make birthday gifts for teachers, draw the most imaginative pictures to hang on the wall, rehearse the most wonderful programs and so on. Helping children to do a "sensational" thing will often help children build a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence throughout their lives. ?

In the whole process of cultivating children, the trainer should be full of hope and confidence in children from beginning to end. Be sure to make positive hints and put an end to all negative hints. Even when children fail to live up to expectations and make mistakes, we should stick to positive hints and never accidentally cut off the buds of children's confidence. ?

5. What kind of sense of right and wrong, sense of honor and disgrace, and fear breed children?

Children should not blindly accept praise, praise and appreciation, let alone "put on a hat" for their bad behavior and trick themselves into becoming "good". In this way, children not only have no sense of right and wrong, honor and disgrace, but also become self-centered, selfish, willful and even arrogant, leading to psychological distortion and future interpersonal failure. ?

I often have adults who encounter something unpleasant in their lives, or suffer a little cold reception, and immediately feel depressed and look pale, and the atmosphere present is destroyed. Tracing back to his childhood, he is often willful and self-centered, so he only considers his own feelings and never considers the feelings of others. ?

Children should be given rules of life from an early age, and adults should set an example and ask children to strictly abide by them. Don't allow things that are not allowed to be done in the first place, and don't be tight and loose, so that children will have no pain. ?

Love children must be tempered with leniency. Usually, we should combine life and tell our children what a good baby should and should not do by talking and telling stories. Always tell children the right and wrong standards of behavior seriously and kindly, and even write down the standards of behavior required of children and stick to them for a long time. ?

The first enemy of mother's education is doting. Women have the lowest IQ in front of their babies, and often "fall in love with each other" and lose the standard for judging whether their children are right or wrong. To this end, young mothers must be clear-headed and vigilant. ?

Children have a poor understanding of language connotation, but they are sensitive to adults' likes and dislikes. Therefore, we should be especially good at using "expression education" in "second child pregnancy". At every moment when we get along with children, educators should properly grasp when to laugh, when to laugh, when to praise, serious, earnest, cold, angry, slightly angry and so on. When a child does something wrong, he should be made to feel shy and afraid. Normal feelings of fear, shame and regret are also good emotional factors necessary for psychological development. Some teenagers are lawless and fearless of taking drugs and killing people. Their roots are still influenced by the lack of sense of right and wrong, sense of honor and disgrace, sense of shame and fear in infancy. ?

6. Cultivate children's sense of responsibility for loving labor and doing things independently?

From 1 year old, teach your baby to play by himself, do what he can, help, check, evaluate and praise the child's labor achievements. ?

This is not only to develop children's intelligence, but also to cultivate children's sense of responsibility: in his subconscious, he feels that he is responsible for his own affairs, and it is also his responsibility to care for others, thanking others for their help. Such children will be very independent when they grow up, with a sense of responsibility and no negative dependence. ?

In a word, "second gestation" is the shaping of mind, the construction of psychological plate, and the rooting and germination of evergreen tree of life. Some people say that God created man, and I say that parents and society created man. Wang Donghua, a famous expert in maternal education, put forward the concepts of "cultivation" and "cultivation" in Looking for Mom, which is really great! In the "secondary inoculation", "cultivation" and "cultivation" are the most useful places. ?

Many subconscious characteristics should be injected into the "second gestation", such as cultivating children's brave spirit and cheerful personality through tempering; Cultivate children's self-control and self-control ability through regular life; Understand everything in questions and discussions, and cultivate children's curiosity and thirst for knowledge; Cultivate children's sense of music through music life; Cultivate children's sense of language by listening to Chinese and foreign masterpieces; Cultivate children's sense of color, beauty and space by watching graphics, colors and paintings ...?

Only when all life has reached the level of "feeling" can life be deeply rooted in the child's right brain and accompany the child's mind for life. ?

Finally, I want to emphasize that the heroic spirit of doing good and great things when children grow up must be injected into their subconscious. ?

Always "discuss" with children what to do when they grow up, how to be a country, how to be a planet, how to be a world, and so on. The breeder should always praise the children's ideals and ambitions to relatives and friends, and deliberately let the children hear a little ... This can greatly increase the children's spirit and focus for life! ?

Human beings grew up from barren land, and civilization developed from hardships. Our happiness today is the result of the sweat, struggle and sacrifice of several generations of ancestors. While pursuing your own happiness, you should also make the world a better place. ?

Therefore, people should have the mind to do good and great things. This kind of mind mainly influences the child bit by bit through the parents' mind, and slowly moistens the child's mind. It is really "sneaking into the night with the wind, moistening things silently"-this is "education", which is the most important and basic element in building children's psychological plate.