Methods and strategies for parents to educate their children 1. Parents should set an example and set an example.
Some people vividly compare their parents to their children's mirrors. In fact, children's words and deeds are often a portrayal of parents' words and deeds, and children's moral character is often a reflection of parents' moral character. Every parent hopes that their children will become talents, and that their children will become a new generation with ideals, morality, discipline and culture.
This wish is undoubtedly good, but in real life, around us, some parents are very strict with their children: don't fight, don't lie and so on. But they themselves often swear and tell lies. How can this educate children well? Some parents ask their children to concentrate on their studies, not to do things that have nothing to do with their studies, not to do things that students should not do, but to play mahjong in front of their children, and even to indulge in illegal activities such as gambling and cults. How can this make children believe and obey? Instead, let the children mistakenly think that this is a kind of? Ability? , secretly imitate. There is an old saying in China? Does it have to be hard while the iron is hot? . It seems that only by paying attention to strengthening their self-cultivation can each parent establish a glorious image in their children's minds and generate infinite power to educate their children.
Second, respect the law of children's own development and create a relaxed and harmonious family environment for children.
1. Love children without arrogance or rashness, but strictly without rashness. Be strict with children and let them know what to do, what not to do, when to do it and when not to do it. However, strictness does not mean strictness. Strictness means that it is excessive and severe, and strictness means that it has its own characteristics (norms and principles) and its own degree. Strictness is good for children to develop the habits of serious work, manners and temperance, while strictness is easy to form children's psychology of fear, alienation and even aversion to their parents, which will make children's personality become withdrawn and rebellious over time.
2. Don't be child-centered, but listen to your child. In the one-child family, it is the easiest to form a self-centered, willful and arrogant character of children, and it is difficult to adapt to group life without considering others and respecting others. It is better to hurt children than to love them, but in the end? The poor inherit the wind? .
Third, respect children's independent choices and discover and cultivate children's healthy interests.
Piaget, an educational psychologist, once pointed out that all intellectual work depends on interest, and curiosity, competitiveness and playfulness are children's nature. At the same time, in the process of socialization, young students hope to gain something from the public? Qualified member? Qualifications, which are well evaluated and respected by others, will often hurt their self-esteem and produce inferiority complex in the face of difficulties, setbacks or failures. Therefore, parents should pay attention to detect their children's potential wisdom in many ways, find it in time and cultivate it without losing the opportunity; When children are in adversity, they should be enlightened and encouraged in time, and their self-esteem, self-confidence and family values should be enhanced through understanding and support.
1. As parents, we should be good at discovering the bright spots in children, and constantly encourage them by appreciating and guiding them, so that children can feel discovered, recognized and valued. In this way, they will fully participate in various beneficial activities, enhance their enthusiasm for study and life, and thus improve the effect of education and teaching.
2. After children's academic performance drops or do something wrong, they should not be accused and attacked like a storm, but should be given a chance to reflect deeply and seriously. It is inevitable that children will make mistakes when they grow up. The key is that parents should be good at helping their children correct their mistakes and get out of the misunderstanding. Tolerance, understanding and love are enough to light the torch for children to admit their mistakes. Try again? Work harder? I understand you? Actually, you didn't mean to? Such words are often the driving force for children to succeed again.
Fourth, cultivate children's interest in learning in a timely and appropriate manner.
If family education wants to achieve good results, it is impossible to solve the substantive problems simply by preaching, scolding with sticks and comforting with material money. Instead, it is necessary to conduct a comprehensive analysis of children, according to their age characteristics, psychological characteristics, personality types, knowledge structure, etc. The contents and methods of education should conform to children's physical, psychological and development level. Proper methods can often get twice the result with half the effort and achieve unexpected results.
5. Treat the child's wrong behavior correctly and give it to the child? Guilty and meritorious service? chance
For children who have made mistakes, parents should be magnanimous, correctly understand the mistakes made by their children, selectively educate their children according to the seriousness of their mistakes and the reasons for their mistakes, and never act rashly or call names indiscriminately, which will only be counterproductive. Cast a lingering shadow on the children's hearts. Over time, children will distrust their parents, can't discuss problems with their parents calmly, and can't solve problems. This is not conducive to children to form a correct outlook on life, and it is also not conducive to parents to establish a correct outlook on children, education and success. We should be good at grasping children's psychology, communicate with them calmly, understand them and support them to correct their mistakes.
Sixth, support school education to ensure the healthy, comprehensive and sustainable development of children.
School is a specialized educational institution, and its comprehensive and systematic education for children is irreplaceable by family education. Generally speaking, school education embodies the socialist direction of education in China and affects the implementation system of students' all-round development in morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor. Therefore, parents should support school education, encourage and urge their children to receive school education seriously, comprehensively and continuously, and maintain close cooperation with schools to jointly promote the healthy growth of children.