Because of this, in the process of school education, teachers often "call parents"
One: the psychology of different roles.
teacher
Call your parents first.
Usually when children make mistakes. The teacher thinks that in more serious cases, he will "call parents". The teacher must be angry. Nowadays, education is hard to say and hard to touch for children. The teacher must think that your children should be educated by you. Isn't that a good idea?
Children's parents
As parents, when teachers call them parents. The mood must be like a colorful fuel bucket. Parents' emotions can be summarized as anger or anger, shame and embarrassment. Individual parents may behave in general.
Imagine that most parents have this mentality. How to communicate with children: fist? Scold? Cynicism? Patiently ask the child what happened? Silently holding the child and breathing with the child, sharing the fate with the breath?
children
When each of his children is called a parent. I must be timid and ashamed in my heart. Few children don't care and get used to it.
Second, the result of calling parents.
Then let's analyze: when calling parents, what roles and moods do teachers, parents and children have in the process of educating their children?
The teacher must have called the parents because he thought the child had made a serious mistake, or because the teacher had no choice but to call the parents after the child made repeated mistakes. I believe that most teachers want parents to participate, one is to understand the situation of children at school, and the other is to help schools educate children.
But in this case, you are always angry, and it is generally impossible to tell your parents calmly. This will definitely send a message to parents and aggravate their psychology. Some parents may be dissatisfied with their teachers. But I dare not vent in front of the teacher, I can only vent on the children. Take it out on the child's performance, either scold or fight.
For children, I believe that some of 10 don't want to call their parents. Children would rather be punished by teachers than call their parents. Once the called parents lose face in front of their classmates and fail to pass the exam with their parents, then the children of the called parents will definitely misunderstand the teacher more. Sometimes I feel resentful.
Imagine, in this case, can the teacher call the parents? Can children get the right guidance?
Three: When you are called a parent.
Congratulations when you are called a parent. You have a chance to know the other side of the child. I also had the opportunity to have in-depth exchanges with teachers.
When called parents, please don't stand in the teacher's position and scold the children directly. Of course, you can't take the side of children against teachers. This is by no means the practice of playing 50 boards each.
The right way, we should. Listen to the teacher with an open mind Give the teacher a chance to vent. No matter how angry and angry you are, you must calm yourself down before communicating with your children. Please know in your heart that there is no hatred or love for no reason. Everything happens for a reason.
We need to know the cause and effect of things, and we should feel the same way with our children. Then we can fully understand what happened. Only in this way can we find opportunities to educate and guide our children.
Teacher Ji called me yesterday and said. Dong Ze was dissuaded by the teacher. I quickly asked what was going on. Say: play for two days in a row. The teacher asked my parents not to tell me, so that others would think I didn't cooperate.
I told Teacher Ji not to scold the children. You bring your children to me, and I'll talk to them.
When I saw that both mother and son's eyes were red, it was obvious that both of them had cried. I understand that mom is crying because she is angry. Maybe the child cried because she saw her crying, or maybe she cried because she was wronged.
I said, "Dong Ze, the teacher knows that you must have suffered a lot." The child looked at me in surprise. I continued, "Are you hurt? Have you suffered? " The child cried with a loud cry, crying very sadly. I held the child silently. Pat the child on the back, wait quietly for the child to calm down slowly and tell me what happened. In the process of narration, I seize the opportunity to guide my children, find my own mistakes, and guide them to think about what to do when they encounter such things in the future. Why is this happening? Further guide children: if you were a teacher, what would you do? Can you understand the teacher? The child said that he could understand the teacher. Ask again, "Mom loves you very much. She wants you to be the best, so she can't accept your mistakes. Mother hates iron and doesn't produce steel. Can you understand her? " The child said: Yes. The teacher asked me to write a check, so I wrote quickly.
I feel that in the end, the child's mood is very stable and rational.
Four: Write it at the end.
As a teacher, I really disapprove of calling my parents easily.
As a parent, I think most people are called sometimes. When you are really called, please calmly understand and care about the child, and then guide the child to find the mistakes and resolve the problems between the child and the teacher.
I hope that when we educate our children, we should pay less attention to our dignity and pay more attention to the feelings of some children. Only in this way can we really educate our children.