"The baby likes this, then I will buy it! As long as you like it, mom will definitely satisfy you. "

"Don't do it, let mom do it!"

As parents, it is understandable to want to spoil children, but it must not be excessive. You must have a good sense of proportion, otherwise it will do no harm to the children.

If children are spoiled by their parents for a long time, it is easy to be self-centered, selfish and inconsiderate of others. He is so arrogant that he listens to him in everything he does. If he is not as good as he wants, he will make a fool of himself, even without respect, and even don't understand basic manners.

Step 2 spread the seeds of discord

"If mom and dad are divorced, who are you with?"

"Do you love your father or your mother more?"

"Don't go to your grandmother in the future. She always goes to your second uncle's house. "

Children don't have definite values, so they do what adults say. A joke that an adult may inadvertently say is likely to be taken seriously by a child, thus forming distorted values. For example, I prefer my mother to my father. So in daily life, children will only stick to their mothers and turn a blind eye to their fathers.

Or, after listening to my mother, I won't go to my grandmother's house. Seeing grandma again, the child will obviously alienate the old man. My grandmother can't make out with the children, it will break the old man's heart.

In short, don't "pour out" the contradictions and grievances in your life to your children. When a child is young, he needs positive energy to "nourish" the correct values. When the child has the ability of self-discrimination, share the bits and pieces of life with him.

3. Language violence

"I have never seen such a stupid child as you. I really regret giving birth to you. "

"Do you have a long brain? Can you let me eat less snacks? "

When many parents are angry, it is easy to say some ugly words. Although I will regret it afterwards, what I said is like spilled water, which cannot be taken back. Hearing these words, the child's self-confidence was completely shattered, and even subconsciously felt that he should be a stupid child. Over time, he really became a silly boy who didn't like to use his brain.

Moreover, parents should not point to using rude words to let their children correct their mistakes. It will make them realize where they are wrong. Children who have been subjected to verbal violence by their parents for a long time will become more and more introverted, more and more silent, more and more alienated from their parents and will never share anything with their families again.