I don't know if you have seen such a news. In summer, it was very hot. Three children went to the river to play with water, but in the meantime, one of them suddenly slipped and fell into the water. Another child saw it and hurried to pull him. As a result, he was dragged into the river. The rest of the children wanted to pull, but they didn't because they were far away. The child was sad to see his two little friends struggling in the river.
When I first saw this monitoring, many people thought that the child had gone back to ask adults for help, but surprisingly, the child didn't report what happened by the river to his family at all and acted as if nothing had happened.
Finally, the family members of the missing child noticed that the child had not come home for dinner for a long time and mobilized the whole village to go out and look for it for a long time before finding it. Later, when people asked the children who ran away from home why they didn't tell the adults about it, the children's words caused people to think deeply.
The child's reason is very simple, because he is worried about being scolded and beaten, because when he made mistakes in the past, his father was very strict, often severely reprimanding himself, and sometimes even spanking, which made the child bear a heavy psychological burden. Over time, once a child does something wrong, he learns to hide it, because he finds that if his father doesn't know, he can't be beaten and scolded.
In the end, the child developed a very unhealthy personality, escaping and lying after doing something wrong, and even making two lives disappear because of this. Maybe many people will blame the children, even if they are beaten, it is better than letting two children lose their lives, right? In fact, what we need to blame here is not the children, but the parents of the children.
Family education is too strict to educate mentally healthy children. Because children live under pressure for a long time, their mental state is extremely unhealthy. On the surface, people may think that children are obedient and sensible, but their psychological environment is already very bad. When these negative factors gradually accumulate to a certain extent, they will break out, leading to "running away from home", "serious rebellion" and "manic personality".
Therefore, when we tutor at ordinary times, we must pay attention to the methods of tutoring, and the issues of principle can be slightly stricter. However, some routine mistakes or mistakes caused by mistakes need serious communication between parents and children to avoid the situation that parents often beat and scold when their children make mistakes.