My friend's children are in the third grade, and their daily life is like this.
The child learned a musical instrument, but he was lazy and didn't want to learn it. She taught her children that "persistence is victory." He said beside him, "Give the children more time to play, and don't push too hard."
The child's handwriting is not good. She asked the child to rewrite it, but the child didn't want to. She taught that "after writing, it should be included in the exam results." We must work hard and practice hard. " He said aside, "aren't you a little too strict with such a small child?"
The child hasn't done well in math recently. She gives guidance to children, and some children can't sit still. She taught her children, "These are your shortcomings. Mom and you face the difficulties together. Let's cheer together to make up for it. " He said, "Children's health comes first. Don't delay the child's sleep. Don't arrange too much. "
Finally, my friend cried and said, "Sometimes I really want to divorce him." However, last night, the child said to me before going to bed, "Mom, do you know what my greatest wish is?" I said I don't know. He said, "My biggest wish is not to play, not to watch TV, but to hope that you and dad will not quarrel."
This "cannibalistic" relationship between husband and wife cannot form a United front in education. In fact, the last person to get hurt is the child.
He will be at a loss. On the one hand, children will not know who to listen to, and eventually they will not get a good education. On the other hand, children will unconsciously form many negative personalities, which will affect their lives.
In fact, it is not difficult to imagine that the differences between parents in education methods will make children face a choice, either supporting their father or agreeing with their mother, which will cause some children to flatter themselves slowly in order not to offend their father or hurt their mother.
This also creates opportunities for children to have it both ways, which virtually encourages children's impetuous, hypocritical, speculative, lying and other bad qualities. With these bad qualities, the consequences can be imagined.
If you compare home to a boat, you turn left and I turn right. The ship either turned around in place or capsized out of control. Only by keeping pace can we move forward steadily.
Parents have a consensus in front of their children and keep pace with each other. Children will have a stable view of right and wrong, a sense of security, and learn to control themselves, thus forming a healthy personality.
Character can not only determine fate.
Therefore, parents must remember never to tear each other to pieces in front of their children. Being husband and wife is a precious love and an excellent education.
Finally, I will share with you a movie story "Wrestle, Dad".
In the movie, dad discovered his daughters' wrestling talent and wanted to train them to wrestle. In the face of his wife's opposition, he did not insist on his own opinion, but negotiated with his wife and finally reached an agreement with him to train his daughter to wrestle for one year. In the meantime, his wife will not interfere. If he is wrong, he will not continue to insist and give up his idea completely.
Dad took his daughters to eat shortbread and told them that this was the last time. From now on, they can't eat any greasy and spicy food. Starting today, you will be exposed to wrestling.
The daughters looked at their father and then at their mother. The mother didn't speak, but nodded gently.
The daughters want their mother to intercede for them, and they don't want to train. My mother said to them, "This year, you can forget me as a mother."
Faced with the ridicule of the villagers and the hard work of her daughters, she felt distressed. She gives them water and towels, but never shakes the children.
She was sad when her father cut off the child's hair, but she kept her promise with her husband for one year and didn't speak.
Such an introverted mother, like a father who helps her daughters forge ahead, is their unparalleled blessing.
I don't know if there is such a time, everyone is educating children.