There are many reasons to blame yourself. To be a perfectionist, we must first lose our perfectionist mentality and accept frankly that nothing in this world is perfect.

Step 2 live for yourself

Part of the reason is the conditional love from parents, as well as the habit of being afraid of being abandoned and demanding of themselves when they can't meet each other's requirements. Try to live for yourself. They are your parents, yes, but you are completely different individuals. You need to live according to your heart.

3. Leave yourself alone

It may be because one's value has not been affirmed by the people around him, or some things have not reached one's ideal goal, or because one feels inferior that one can't do anything well. Learn to let go of yourself, open your heart, face life happily, and don't live so heavy.

Step 4 learn to speak

When your life is unhappy, learn to speak, tell stories and vent your emotions. Don't take it to heart. If you are bored for a long time, you will get sick.

5. Psychological counseling

If necessary, it is best to consult a psychologist and seek professional help. With the help of a professional psychologist, you can better recover yourself and return to your normal life.

Step 6 be self-reliant and confident

Re-evaluate yourself, set a reasonable goal for yourself, do a good job seriously, don't care too much about mediocre ideas, and think rationally about the evaluation of people around you. Some people point out your mistakes, some people just watch your jokes, and some people choose to wait and see because of selfishness.