Psychological description of cheerful personality is: this kind of person's behavior can often bring praise to himself. For example, they often show friendliness, tolerance and recognition to others and please others. Its fundamental purpose is to gain recognition from others, thus increasing self-confidence. This kind of person regards the recognition of others as the highest principle in dealing with others. They have no opinions and often feel weak and helpless. Cheerful people lack self-confidence, but they do not rely on strengthening their own strength, but take the attitude and evaluation of others as the main standard of self-evaluation, so as to adjust their behavior and achieve the purpose of enhancing self-confidence.
Children's personality has not yet formed, so we can't say their evaluation and attitude towards themselves, and take it as the criterion of their actions. On the positive side, it helps their socialization; But the negative side is that if the degree is well mastered, children will easily lose their personality. Teachers should consciously correct and guide children with pleasant tendencies, and should pay attention to:
Praise such children in moderation. Praise has always been regarded as an effective educational method, but praise also varies from person to person. Excessive praise can only strengthen children's behavior and is not conducive to the formation of children's good personality. In addition, the content of praise should be aimed at the improvement of children's abilities in all aspects, not just the performance in morality and discipline. Because such children are guided by the evaluation and standards of adults, teachers' praise has a strong guiding role, so teachers should grasp the content and degree of praise.
Let children know that the key to winning others' appreciation is to rely on their own strength. Teachers should make children understand this truth. Once, I taught children to draw "Spring". When drawing, I found that Li XX's painting was dirty, and there were three black pimples on a piece of paper. Whenever I walked beside him, he looked at me nervously and covered his painting with his hand. I know, he doesn't want teachers and children to know that he can't draw well. When I received the paintings, Li XX told me about his paintings as before. "This is a big tree, this is the sun and this is a bird." As he spoke, he looked at me expectantly, waiting for me to praise him for his "good thinking" as before. But experience tells me that after several compliments, his painting ability has not improved, but he always uses "painting" to please the teacher. So I asked him, "Do you think this painting looks good today?" Li XX shook his head. Then I said to him, "You not only speak well, but also draw well. Only when you draw well will teachers and children like your paintings. " Later, during regional activities, pay attention to tutoring Li XX's paintings. Now Li XX's painting level has made some progress. With the improvement of painting ability, Li XX's self-confidence has been enhanced, and now it is no longer necessary to use "painting" to achieve the purpose of admiring teachers.
In daily life, I also pay attention to using his own strength to drive other abilities. For example, Dede loves telling stories, singing and dancing. I will start from this aspect and give him more opportunities to build confidence. In my opinion, children tend to be happy because they lack self-confidence. Only when you have the ability can you have confidence, and only when you have confidence can your child's ability be more fully developed. Lu Yuzhu