China's parents behave like waiters at the dinner table. If there are old people at home, then the old people are more like waiters in Haidilao hot pot restaurant. We have seen many such scenes: the old man lifted the bowl to the table with trembling hands and told the children to eat again and again; Parents are chasing children with bowls; Parents advised their children to eat more at the dinner table again and again. Children in China seldom show gratitude, and some are even less patient and feel that they deserve it. Children in China have become accustomed to this and even become insensitive. Korean children at the dinner table Korean parents behave like elders at the dinner table. The youngest child in the family, before each meal, is busy filling the room with rice in the order from the oldest to the youngest. After that, he will sit still and respectfully say to the elders at the dinner table, "Thank you for cooking such a rich meal for me!" " Korean children eat with grateful expressions. American children at the dinner table American parents behave like friends at the dinner table. Parents can hold spoons, so they won't feed their children. What children like to eat, American parents just make suggestions. As for whether their children like meat or vegetables in the end, American parents never care, let alone how many meals their children eat. Because in the eyes of the United States, children have begun to be responsible for themselves, and he knows what he needs. Therefore, American children show independent personality when eating. Bian Xiao doesn't think that children in China should eat like Korean or American children, but what I want to say is that we should never ignore the enlightenment of life behaviors such as dining table. Korean families educate their children through the atmosphere at the dinner table, so that children can learn to be grateful unconsciously; American families also educate their children through table habits, so that children can learn to be independent and take responsibility unconsciously. What many families in China lack at the dinner table is "education" for their children. At the dinner table, we just pay attention to whether the children are full or not. It is this uncultured "education" that sends a wrong signal to children: because you are a child, we must serve you unconditionally. Therefore, children take it for granted that their parents do this. But we ignored what we could have told our children: our love for you is to let you know that you should learn to repay others and learn to love others. As a result, uneducated "educated" children, when they grow up, can only see what your parents should do: it's their parents' fault that they didn't find a good job; It is the parents' fault that there is no house to live in; It's parents' fault that they didn't find a daughter-in-law. When they grow up, they will think of their parents' mistakes. When he grows up and bosses his parents around, should we blame him or our lack of intelligent education? It is really important to cultivate education. Why are China's parents so tired? In fact, most of them are the shackles that parents put on themselves. Sharing another article with you, which is also about this topic, may make you more alert. American children's table education I was shocked to have dinner at an American friend's house for the first time. My friend's one-and-a-half-year-old child sat in the dining chair by himself and ate from beginning to end. Although he was clumsy with the spoon, he ate carefully and unhurriedly. He naturally picked up the rice that fell on the table and ate it. After eating, he untied the bib and said, "I'm finished!" " "His parents took him off the dining chair. He picked up the bowl, poured the leftovers into the trash can, and then tiptoed the bowl into the sink. Everything is so skillful and natural that you can see at a glance that he has formed this habit very early. In the United States, table education is a very important part of parenting. Compared with China people who put feeding their children first, they pay more attention to other things besides "satiety". For example, children can take the initiative to eat, enjoy the process of eating, observe the etiquette during eating, learn to set the table before and after meals, and learn to receive guests. American children have been eating by themselves since they can hold spoons. Although they will get rice grains all over the floor, after several months of training, their hands and brains can reach a balance and they can put spoons in their mouths stably. Children decide how much to eat, because eating is their own business, and only by taking the initiative can they really enjoy eating. And when it's time to eat, it's too late. If children refused to eat because they were playing at that time, they would be really hungry. This will be incredible for China's parents: How can they make their children hungry? Parents will feel distressed when they see their children crying when they are hungry, and they will cook for their children immediately. But because of this, almost every child in China understands that it doesn't matter if I don't eat now. Anyway, the kitchen at home is open for me 24 hours a day. When I'm hungry, naturally someone will give me something to eat. They don't have the concept of taking the initiative to eat, and they don't observe strict meal time, which is why parents in China often complain that their children don't like eating. Most American children have been learning table manners since they were two years old. They eat slowly and can't make any noise. Knife and fork can't knock on the plate Even if they accidentally make any noise, they must say "sorry" to everyone present. It is a very important lesson for American children to take care of others' feelings at the dinner table. In addition to not affecting other people's meals, we should also consider other people's feelings. We are not allowed to eat rashly because we like a certain dish. Older children will also help their parents make some pre-meal preparations and clean up after meals, so as to reduce their burden, make their parents feel involved in the family and learn some table manners for receiving guests. For Americans, the dining table is not only a place to educate children, but also the warmest place for a family to sit together. American parents attach great importance to eating time with their children. No matter ordinary people or president, family reunion is more important than anything else. After coming home from work, everyone hurried home so that the family could sit around the table and enjoy a happy dinner as soon as possible. Perhaps many of our parents don't realize how happy it is for a family to prepare, enjoy and talk together. We seldom take eating with our families as a reason for refusing to socialize. On the contrary, socializing is the most natural reason not to go home for dinner. Breakfast in China is rich in content, but few families enjoy it together. We often eat at breakfast stalls or pack breakfast to take away. Even if it is eaten at home, it is often eaten by children, and mother is busy packing her schoolbag. As a result, the good breakfast time was consumed in a hurry. American breakfast is very simple, and all kinds of cereal rings are soaked in milk, which is a meal. However, the family must sit together and enjoy it slowly. Especially on weekend mornings, it's a common scene for dad to sit at the dining table and read the newspaper, mom to put an egg or a few slices of bacon on everyone's plate, and the children to pour orange juice into everyone's cup. A day's plan lies in the morning, when the family chats and laughs together, a beautiful day begins from that moment. From the dining table, the children learned the spirit of mutual cooperation, felt the tacit understanding between them, and enjoyed the fun of eating. More importantly, what they need more than a delicious and exquisite breakfast is the company, communication and intimacy of their parents. We often say that raising children is the most test of patience. However, Americans will tell you that patience is not the time to wait, but the state of waiting. They let their children eat by themselves from an early age, and they can face the mess of the table calmly. They starve children who violate the rules. In the face of the child's pleading, they kept a straight face. They put aside their work chores and look forward to and enjoy every time with their children. What kind of peace and tranquility is this? When we are busy with our work, we are at a loss about the education of our children and are eager for success. Can we try to sit at the table with the children first?