Xiaoli wants to take a bath in the bathroom, and her son is left unattended, so she has to take him with her. In Xiaoli's view, her son is only three years old and knows nothing. It's no big deal to take it to the bathroom, so she didn't care at all.
However, after taking the child into the bathroom, the child kept staring at a little sister. Maybe the child is just curious, most people don't say anything, but one sister is dissatisfied. He severely reprimanded the child and said, what are you looking at?
Xiaoli was very unhappy when she saw her son being criticized, so she wanted to come forward to the theory. Never thought, the elder sister said to Xiaoli, "Don't take your son to the ladies' room, and don't look after the children. In fact, they know everything." The people around you also echoed, and Xiaoli was a little uneasy, knowing that she was indefensible. So I quickly scrubbed and took my son out of the bathroom.
Many parents think that their children are still young and do not pay much attention to the cultivation of gender awareness. They often take their children to the opposite sex toilets and bathrooms, and may not see any changes in their children in the short term. However, when children grow up, many disadvantages will appear. Cultivating children's gender awareness requires parents to start from an early age.
The lack of children's gender concept is not conducive to their growth.
Children can't be clear about their gender.
Parents have never clearly defined the gender of their children. Children go in and out of the private space of the opposite sex at will, and don't think it's wrong, which is easy to cause resentment among people around them.
Children who lack a clear understanding of gender tend to reject their own bodies and even do things that do not conform to gender characteristics, which can easily lead to ridicule around them and hurt children's self-esteem.
Curiosity leads to crime.
If one thing is put on the bright side, children's curiosity will gradually be dispelled, but some parents always hide it and don't know how to tell their children. The more parents don't talk, the more curious their children are, and they will often do many outrageous things and even commit crimes.
Don't know how to respect the opposite sex
Children without a clear gender orientation can't respect the opposite sex from the heart, and even make superficial fun of the opposite sex. I often lose my reputation because of my superficial practices, and I will become a shameless person if I am not careful. People who don't know how to respect others will not be respected by others.
Parents cultivate gender meaning for their children from an early age, so that children can know how to respect the opposite sex and win the good feelings of the opposite sex, which is of great help to their children to make friends with the opposite sex in the future and even find their own other half.
To cultivate children's correct concept of gender, parents should avoid their own wrong behavior.
Don't change clothes in front of heterosexual children
With the growth of children's age, parents should avoid children of the opposite sex or draw curtains when changing clothes, which is a respect for themselves and their children. Correctly cultivate children's gender awareness and let them understand the differences between men and women, so as to better respect themselves and the opposite sex.
Know how to respect children's privacy.
When children are young, they must rely on their parents to take care of their lives. Therefore, parents can always control their children's bodies, but as their children grow older, parents should respect their privacy.
When a child reaches the age of five, parents should sleep in separate rooms with children of the opposite sex. You can't erase boundaries just because you are a child's parents. Parents' lack of gender awareness is tantamount to laying a mine for their children's growth, which is likely to lead them to commit crimes.
There is no need to over-solidify gender awareness.
Many parents think that if their children are boys, they should do what suits boys and girls should do what suits girls. This practice often solidifies the gender of boys and girls.
In fact, there is no strict gender distinction in every job, and girls can do what boys can do. Parents' responsibility is to make their children have gender significance, and there is no need to solidify gender awareness. If it cures too much, it will be detrimental to the healthy growth of children.
In order to cultivate children's correct concept of gender, parents should guide and cultivate them reasonably.
Children spend more time with same-sex parents.
Parents are children's first teachers, and children will be influenced by their parents invisibly. So parents should encourage their children to be with same-sex parents. Unconsciously, they often imitate some behaviors of their parents and gradually acquire a temperament suitable for their gender. This is also the reason why many boys want to be brought up by their fathers. It is better for girls to live with their mothers.
Find information and explain gender knowledge vividly.
Many parents admit that they don't know how to explain gender knowledge to their children, which is hard to say. Parents can show their physiological knowledge and gender knowledge in front of their children with the help of video materials, which not only saves parents' explanation, but also enables children to deeply understand gender differences.
Pay attention to gender differences in life details.
In life, boys and girls will be very different. Boys are careless and girls are quiet. Parents should pay attention to looseness and comfort when choosing clothes for boys, while girls can choose princess-style clothes, take care of children's gender differences from the clothing aspect and cultivate gender awareness.
When decorating girls' and boys' rooms, parents should consider that boys like tough style and girls like lady style, and design room decoration according to different styles to guide children to form a correct gender concept.