First, forget to supervise.
Some students, with negative emotions, are always trapped in their hearts and can't let go. Therefore, this negative emotion can only spread and aggravate day by day. Therefore, when something causes your negative emotions, it's best to forget it as soon as possible and don't dwell on it. Because you are sad, sad and sighing about this matter, it will not help solve the problem, but will increase your mental burden and suppress your body and mind. We should be wise and realistic. Now that things have happened and are irreversible, we should resolutely abandon them and forget them. If this place always causes you unpleasant memories, try to avoid this place and avoid "touching the scene." If there is an object in front of you that can evoke sad memories, you might as well collect this "souvenir" to avoid "shocking the world" and so on. In this way, you can let your thoughts leave these unpleasant things for a while, so as to gain indifference and forgetting about them, thus reducing the intrusion of negative emotions on yourself and avoiding the physical and mental harm caused by them.
Second, transfer control.
The research of modern emotional psychology shows that when emotional reactions occur, there is a strong focus of excitement in people's minds. At this time, if one or several new excitation focuses are established, the original dominant excitation focus can be offset or diluted. Therefore, when you are excited, you can consciously distract yourself by changing the subject or doing something else to prevent the emotion from erupting immediately and give yourself enough time and opportunity to calmly analyze and consider the problem. You can also use some special methods, such as biting your tongue to force yourself not to talk, counting and so on to relieve your emotional tension. When Jade Girl is not resting, she can relax her nervous mood by watching movies, playing chess, playing ball games and other legitimate and meaningful activities.
Third, catharsis regulation
There are direct and indirect ways to vent emotions. Direct catharsis is to express emotions directly against the stimuli that trigger emotions. When others are not good at venting directly to themselves, they can use indirect venting to let their emotions get a way out. Because of this, when students are angry and emotional, they can reflect to their teachers, or talk to their classmates, relatives and friends around them and accept their comfort, criticism and help. In this way, through the full disclosure of emotions and feedback information from the outside world, we can adjust the cognitive process that causes negative emotions, change unreasonable ideas, and thus achieve psychological balance. Similarly, when you have conflicts with your classmates, you should bravely and openly exchange views, solve problems and eliminate misunderstandings. As a last resort, cry in front of good friends, and speak out the grievances and pains in your heart, and the psychological pressure will be alleviated.
Fourth, sublimation control.
Sublimation is to change the motives and desires that are not accepted by society and make them conform to social norms and the requirements of the times. It is an advanced catharsis of negative emotions, which leads the energy aroused by emotions to the direction beneficial to people, themselves and society. When people encounter unfair things, it is useless to be angry, hold your breath and despair; It is even worse to retaliate against the law, because it is to punish yourself with the mistakes of others. The correct attitude is to have ambition, fight for breath, turn setbacks into motivation and be a strong man in life. This is the meaning of "turning grief into strength".
Verb (abbreviation for verb) music control
Emotional psychologists have confirmed through research that music can affect people in two ways: physical and psychological. The physiological function of music is to influence the physiological function of human body through sound. Music is introduced into the human body through human auditory organs and auditory nerves, and resonates with some organizational structures of the body. Wonderful music is absorbed by the human body, so that the energy of the human body is stimulated, from static to dynamic. The psychological function of music lies in that beautiful music can prompt the human body to secrete some substances beneficial to health, such as hormones, enzymes, acetylcholine and so on. , and play a role in regulating blood flow and nerve cell excitement. In addition, music can also have a direct effect on the nervous system with the same emotions as the limbic system and the reticular tissue of the brain stem. Because the rhythm, speed and tone of each piece are different. Therefore, it can show different emotional regulation effects.
Sixth, reasonable emotional therapy.
The "rational emotional therapy" founded by American clinical psychologist Aibert ELLis in 1950s can effectively regulate the negative emotions of middle school students. Rational emotional therapy believes that emotions are not directly caused by a trigger event itself, but by the individual's interpretation of the event. This theory is called ABC theory of emotional distress. According to ABC theory, people's irrational and unrealistic beliefs about things are the reasons that lead to people's psychological barriers. Therefore, if people want to eliminate psychological barriers, they should think about their own problems with rational thinking. Using reasonable emotional therapy to self-regulate emotions can achieve good results. For example, a female classmate once felt inferior because she was fat. She always feels uncomfortable walking in other people's places, as if other people's eyes are strange. She gradually began to avoid the opportunity to appear in public. But the more she fled, the more she felt inferior, and the vicious circle continued until one day she felt that she had nowhere to escape. So she began to reflect deeply. She observed herself fairly and objectively in the mirror and found many advantages: first, although she was fat, she was born with a big skeleton and a tall figure, which naturally reduced the horizontal proportion and increased her generosity; Second, the face looks straight, and it feels good after careful modification; Thirdly, to say the least, it can encourage you to read more books and cultivate your inner cultivation. By repeatedly strengthening these three points, she finally accepted a popular view: what belongs to her is unique and wonderful. She said that with these ideas, she can do what she should do calmly and generously. She found that her mood changed and the scenery of the world changed. Everything looks bright, full of movement and vitality.
The above six psychological adjustment methods can help and guide middle school students to better adjust their emotions, cultivate positive emotions, eliminate negative emotions and be the masters of their own emotions.