Educating children is the unshirkable responsibility of every parent, and it is our parents' earnest hope for their children to become talents. However, in order to make children become useful materials and pillars of the country, family education is essential and has a far-reaching impact on children. In the past few years, we have done some work on how to educate children. Now share some of our ideas with you.

First, build up confidence.

Let children believe that they are the smartest children, believe in schools, believe in teachers, and believe that society is getting better every day. Because among my friends, some people always blame their children, because their grades are not as good as other children, and their children can't get X-ray awards. Some things are like, "Why are you so stupid? You see how great people are, how can they be so bad? " In the case of a class, this creates an illusion in children's minds that I can't compare with others, and others are always better than me. Let children always feel inferior, so that they have no motivation and are not motivated. Therefore, the establishment of self-confidence is very important.

Second, establish learning objectives.

A person has different goals at different stages of life, and the realization of goals at each stage means a new step in life. Short-term goals should be combined with long-term goals. Although some children have set goals, they are too long-term to achieve them in the short term. However, children are often anxious and hope to achieve any goal as soon as possible. If they don't see the results in a short time, they will be discouraged and this set goal will be lost. Therefore, on the basis of long-term goals, plus a few short-term achievable goals, let the long-term goals be realized as much as possible, and gain confidence from small successes again and again. Only in this way can we succeed step by step.

Third, let children complete various tasks or homework independently.

Cultivate the ability of self-discipline from an early age and do everything yourself. Today's work must be finished today, don't put it off until tomorrow. Only by forming such a habit, not being in debt in study and always being interested in new knowledge can the love of learning be full of energy. At the same time, actively create conditions to cultivate children's interest and independence. Parents should be good at observing and understanding their children's hobbies. My child likes physical exercise since he was a child, so he bought a lot of sporting goods at home and tried to let him show himself. When he likes computers, he should buy them for him and let him know some basic computer operation and application knowledge, but don't indulge in them. In this way, I think the more the better. At the same time, cultivate his independence in life and study from an early age, such as taking a bath, sorting out his belongings, getting up early and going to bed early.

Fourth, lead by example, parents should lead by example.

Parents should not only work hard, but also study often and influence their children with their own practical actions. Since childhood, children spend the longest time with their parents, and a day or two is nothing, but the habitual behavior of parents for several years or even longer will become a psychological hint to children. So that children will unconsciously imitate their parents' words and deeds. If parents have bad habits, they will affect their children day after day. Some parents know that some of their habits are wrong, but there is nothing they can do. They always say "don't learn from me" to their children, but this has already planted a bad result in their hearts, which cannot be erased by a few words of "don't learn". For the growth of children, we are strict with ourselves, restrain our behavior, don't swear, take an active part in housework, work hard, do more grades and so on. , thus playing a subtle role. At the same time, don't quarrel in front of children because of impulse, and express your views on children alone.

Fifth, educate children to be honest.

From this, I can't help thinking of one thing. My child was defeated when he was running for the battalion chief. He felt too sudden to accept and face the facts in front of him. At the same time of sadness, he felt panic and fear. He didn't know what to tell us when he got home, so he hid. After returning home, in order not to let us see his sadness, he tried to pretend to be happy, and he could only secretly cry when sleeping in the quilt at night. How many nights, his tears soaked the sheets. But he is still afraid to tell us the truth. I am afraid that things will be discovered every day, and the pressure in my heart is increasing day by day. He was so bent on getting good grades that his grades plummeted. This kind of derailment is really sad. But in the end, paper still can't cover the fire. Finally, one day, we know his recent situation. On that day, he felt it necessary to have a fight at home. Who knows, we didn't beat and scold him, but reason with him. We also meaningfully educated him and said, "Kang Liang, you have grown up and should know how to distinguish right from wrong. If the captain loses the election, mom and dad don't blame you, but your dishonesty is the biggest mistake. If you go on like this, you will not only harm yourself, but also disappoint teachers, parents and their hopes for you. When you grow up, you will be like the boy in the story of Wolf, and no one will trust you anymore. " Since then, my children have never been dishonest.

Sixth, cultivate children's sense of competition.

Modern society, full of competition and fast pace, requires people to have strong adaptability and adaptability, so it is necessary to cultivate children's "strong temperament" from an early age.

Cherish and encourage every little progress. Affirmation-a psychological "enhancer". Let children be good at giving full play to their advantages. Concentration-the cultivation of attention. Inspire confidence-the ladder to success. "One step at a time"-make a practical plan. "Feel good about yourself" training.

Seven, family members should have a division of labor.

Fathers should undertake more ideological and political work, mothers should pay more attention to their children's lives, and children's task is to learn. Only learning can make them happy. Don't let children take learning as a burden. Learning means working like parents.

Eight, educate children to respect teachers and classmates from an early age. Teachers are respected by the whole society. Students respect and learn from each other. They can learn from each other's strengths, make progress together and improve together.

There is a proverb abroad that "ability is cultivated in loneliness, and character is formed in society." While cultivating children's independent learning and thinking ability, we should also educate children to integrate into the collective and cultivate good interpersonal relationships so that children can benefit for life.

Nine, parents should often communicate with their children, often ask their children what problems they think, give them more words of encouragement when they encounter difficulties and unsatisfactory test results, and don't be discouraged. After each exam, let the children sum up some experience, find out the problems and strive for good grades next time.