This is discipline, discipline and round light.

To make a decision, it is enough to read this article.

This article has been pushed in space once before, which is a summary of my experience after I entered the circle. Today, I will reorganize and share my views with you, hoping to help the initiative. After all, no one knows everything when they first enter the circle.

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What is excellent initiative?

Inexperienced cuties need to be actively packaged. Many initiatives are driven by various interests brought by the circle. After all, no one's attributes are born. Student Jun can definitely tell you here that there are high-quality initiatives in this circle, but you can't worry, you should find the initiative like looking for a boyfriend.

The following is the quality plan in my mind:

_ After the exercise, you can explain the truth to the passive person clearly, so that the passive person can know where he is wrong and believe it, otherwise he can only be a violent thug. Getting along with the passive is a way of emotional communication, not a way of venting.

_ Be dignified and don't be a passive person who can only be subdued by tools. We practice for discipline, not for practice.

_ Don't be afraid to admit that you are someone's initiative. I don't want to admit it, it's usually to increase more possibilities for myself. This kind of person is embarrassed to take the initiative. Please don't call yourself an insider.

_ I won't disappear without saying hello, no matter for a few hours or days, because many passives are due to lack of love and insecurity, and I like circles for family reasons, especially adolescence. Their loneliness is often stronger, and the question of belonging and being loved will be repeatedly thought and needed. If this is repeated, to a certain extent, that is, the day when she leaves you, you won't play this game for the second time.

_ passive, if there is a dispute with people in the circle, you should bear it for her externally and take practical punishment internally. As an initiative, you can be bad, but you can't help it.

_ separation, just because you don't love each other, not because the other party is not good. Passivity has more or less disadvantages. If every passivity is perfect, why take the initiative?

_ As an initiative, be tolerant, but you can't be led by the nose. In principle, you can't give in. Only by being immune to her coquetry can we achieve practical results. Also, you can be strong, but not too strong.

_ communicate with your heart, don't use your lower body. If you can walk with your heart, you can defeat many initiatives in the circle. Only when everyone reaches the desired point can you go on better.

_ Remember to give her a cold compress after practice! The beautiful imprint on passive pp is your work, and you are responsible for it. Remember to give her a hug and touch her head after practice, instead of lighting a cigarette, picking up tools to hit people, putting them down and leaving, it is easy to harvest an unhappy and angry sister. You know, passivity does not exist to satisfy your unilateral sense of conquest and control.

_ Don't elevate yourself by belittling other initiatives.

_ passive and other active people will be jealous if they say one more word. As positive people, they need to have a strong and positive heart. Many times, doubt and suspicion are only one step away from hurting each other.

Initiative is not to dominate passive people, but to know passive people. In order to meet her inner needs, we need to take the initiative to have a full understanding of passivity through daily observation, including personality, hobbies and so on. , and then according to the experience to develop a suitable passive discipline plan. So as to give her the exercises she wants.

How to make this passive person fully trust you and lay a stable foundation for future practice is something that the initiative must master. Active and passive feelings should have their own needs and be happy with each other in the early stage. Then through teaching and urging, actively guide passive growth. You should send her into a dream like a hypnotist and dig out what she craves most. You must work hard to perceive all this, and the passive psychology will change from shyness to familiarity and closeness, and become active.

What passivity will become is the result of the joint action of both sides. On the one hand, it is passive, on the other hand, it is active. Your discipline and ideas will leave a mark on her. So as an active person, the most basic thing is to have a sense of responsibility.

Disciplinary preventive measures

I found a very strange phenomenon. Almost no one ever takes the initiative to admit that he is light-handed. Whenever asked, he will say how strict he is and he will not be soft in lifting tools. But when it comes to passivity, it is usually his brother and sister who are very gentle. What is the reason for such a big contrast? There are too few active people, and too few people really master passive practical endurance. Sometimes, passivity is not what you lose, but your own weakness.

My first practice, the traces on pp were completely invisible after I went back to school. What should have left the deepest impression, like this mark, soon disappeared in my memory. This is more like the first active pure exercise. The communication between us is basically just the communication between rattan and PP, until I met the second initiative, I didn't know that there is a kind of pain in the world that I can't cry (emm needs to be clear about its own attributes, when I first entered the circle.

Some people take the initiative to beg for mercy and immediately relent. In fact, stopping at this time will often disappoint the passive to the extreme. My suggestion is to slow down the speed and reduce the intensity, and then return to normal intensity after the passive gradually calms down. Of course, we should use it flexibly, because some people have poor passive tolerance and will not dare to use too much force. What if it really hurts? If I were you, I might gently press the other person's neck and back or feed her something delicious and tell her that I didn't control my strength just now, so I'll pay attention next time.

I really refuse that kind of joking. Will not take the initiative to be serious and smile passively. Looks like flirting. I don't know if this is pleasant for both sides. Personal advice is best not to let passive play, if you don't have excellent language talent or subject skills. Don't be too passive, practice in the usual way. Otherwise, the consequence is that you may become true friends, but you will not become practical partners.

Many initiatives have a misunderstanding that they are passive anyway. As long as they are in pain, they will passively like it and can call at any time. Actually, it's not like this. Only when I have feelings for you and want to be beaten, passivity is true. If you just want to fight, then a few simple moves are unbearable. When she doesn't trust you and approve of you, she can't have any pleasure in your reckless behavior.

Some passive people are stubborn and glib, and seldom admit their mistakes. Even if she realizes her mistake, she will use many reasons to prevaricate, so she can only admit it with higher ability than her. At the moment when they beg for mercy, the pressure in their hearts will be released. This is the kind of person with strong self-esteem. If she takes the initiative to make a fool of herself at this time, it will do great harm to her mind for visual or auditory effects.

Discipline is not simply beating people. The main component of discipline is education, not lessons, and sometimes it needs constant encouragement. If discipline is forced to confess, then the most powerful measure is the KGB. However, in fact, the KGB sometimes fails, and there are always people who would rather die than surrender. In other words, there is something more important than life. If you understand this, you will understand why discipline is not just about hitting people.

What does Beckham want?

The psychology of passive love in circles can often be traced back to childhood. Some people passively like certain tools, which may be the key to their spiritual energy. Don't ignore

Some people like to practice passively with their hands, because they experience pain together, which is more real than saying a hundred words of comfort. At this time, my hand hurts more than pp, which will let the passive know that I am sharing your pain. I think your mistake is my own. My punishment for you is not based on my selfish idea, but to correct it and make you progress.

Some people passively like OTK because they have physical contact with each other, which is similar to hugging in real life. Passive mind lacks warmth, and physical contact will inject energy into her like a shot in the arm.

Some passive people will like this experience. When their husbands or brothers found out that they had done something bad, the other end of the phone said, "You wait and see, how can I punish you when you come back at night!" " "At this time, the passive has already started to be nervous, overwhelmed, expecting, and the mentality will be slightly relaxed. If you have a period of face-to-face thinking before practice, take the initiative to put everything down to keep the room quiet and watch quietly behind her, passivity will rise to a feeling, because it is a feeling of being concerned and valued. Including reprimand in practice, these are not flashy bedding and forms. A perfect practice often has a gradual process, and good initiative can adjust the rhythm of practice.

Rules are the best gift for the passive, not useless. You should make the passive person enter the state and adapt to the role through these repeated mental means. This kind of discipline will last forever, just like eating and drinking water. Rules can make passive people know what to do and what not to do at a glance and form habits. Of course, the rules are two-way. Imagine if the passive person was reprimanded for smoking, and the active person was a guy with black teeth, which would be embarrassing.

This healing period is also a very important time. Not only physical care, but also spiritual care. If she is satisfied with the practice, she will get an electric shock every time she touches a sore spot. The feeling of spiritual practice will disappear with the disappearance of pain, and the passive person will hope that the pain will last as long as possible, so as not to be hurt, and the pain will make her get more care.

Let's talk about DIY again Because the fluency and consistency of practice are required, passivity requires great cooperation and passivity requires a high degree of instruction execution.

Say some precautions

The parts above pp are related to the kidney, coccyx and pelvis, and there are few muscles, which are easy to damage nerves. How to avoid this situation? Personally, I suggest playing from bottom to top, or even playing. If the frequency is too fast, it will easily break the skin, and the focus of hard tools is so far. In practice, try to guide passive relaxation. When the muscles are tight, the pain is obvious, and the pain will be infinitely amplified over time. Wave the tool. The change order of pp in practice is: red, swollen, white, hard and blue. Personally, people who are thin are suitable for lying flat. First, it won't hurt bones and muscles, and second, it's not easy to break skin.

Having said that, it is not enough to apply to all practices. In practice, it is still necessary to observe the passive reaction to judge the feelings of the other party. If there are 1000 passives, there are 1000 ways of practicing, so there is no need to unify them. There is no way to unify, and the materials are different. Even if we use exactly the same method, what we make may not be the same. In addition, passive tolerance has nothing to do with gender and age. I often use questions and rhetorical questions in my exercises. The success of practice is closely related to tools, skills, environment and language. A successful practice will gradually become a passive and independent behavior, that is, there is no need to take the initiative to guide.

In addition, there are risks in entering the circle, so practice should be cautious. For the initiative, even if you do more, you may bear the betrayal of passivity and disloyalty or abandon passivity and bear the blame of irresponsibility. Passivity is the same, even if it is done well, it may bear the loneliness and heartbreak of being abandoned actively. For newcomers who are about to enter this circle, remember to tell yourself when you enter the circle. No matter what the result is, can you bear it? Flowers bloom on the other side, and poison and beauty coexist.

The following is a summary:

A few months of companionship and familiarity can bring you hours of practice satisfaction. Pleasure is always a long-term pursuit. One second you gain a short-term profit, you are arrogant in front of all beings, and the next you are humble in front of your master. The difference is that he is looking for a high-quality quilt, so he has to be of high quality. What kind of master you are, what kind of communication you can meet. Don't use your lower body. You should know what her inner needs are, and then meet her inner needs. If you can take care of your heart, then you can beat many kidney walkers in the circle. When you want to accept the quilt casually, please shut your mouth, open your head, recharge your emotional intelligence, and then put in respect. Don't ask me to make my quilt as soon as you come up, practice with me, and give you whatever you want? Don't be too humble to accept her. You are so humble, people can still regard you as their Lord. No photos without a few words. After talking for a long time, you think this woman is your favorite. You can ask her to be strong and overbearing, but don't overdo it, whether in life or in circles. If you can't find yourself, you will get lost.

What is the meaning of a circle?

The meaning of the circle is to make each other better. I discipline you not because I want to possess you selfishly, but because I want to make you better. Even if I am no longer your initiative in the future, I will be proud of this relationship. Because of this relationship, we are all better. Unfortunately, few active people have the patience and mood to focus on cultivating a passive person of their own. It's really hard, and it doesn't necessarily pay off. Excellent initiative will make passivity become brave from cowardice and cheerful from inferiority, but how many initiatives really help passivity or benefit passivity? Have you given her anything except selfish thoughts? I took the initiative to join the circle, and the happiest thing was to participate in her growth.

Finally, I want to tell you that some people just regard the circle as a game, while others regard it as a lifelong belief. It depends on the individual, of course. Although I love circles very much, I can make myself see circles more clearly. Being disciplined by someone you love doesn't mean you are a pervert. As long as your hobby is within the framework of morality and law, why try to suppress it instead of satisfying it? We are all normal people. Everyone has their own real life, doing different jobs and enjoying their own imperfect life. I have always believed that people who accept themselves as they are are brave. I hope that babies who grow up in a beautiful new world can confidently and gracefully face up to their true inner needs. Elegance comes from a clear understanding of your heart, and confidence comes from knowing clearly that you have done nothing wrong. The circle just fills the big gap in your mind. That's all. Student Jun wishes everyone can reap their own happiness.

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