"Language violence will cause lasting and serious harm to children's body and mind"-China Youth Daily.
"Reject violence, communicate in the right way of education, talk well and become a warm companion for children" —— China Education News.
I wanted to express my concern for my children, but it turned out to be a sermon; Originally, I wanted my child to correct his shortcomings, but it turned into a reprimand; Originally, I wanted my children to have a good meal, but it turned into a complaint or even a temper ... What makes such a scene perform almost every day?
Author Li Jing gave the answer and provided effective speech skills, which solved the problems in parents' speech skills training. First, let's meet the author Jing Li. She is a family educator, a children's novel writer and many best-selling authors. He has devoted himself to the research and publication of children's character education and health education for many years, and has accumulated rich first-line teaching and research experience in long-term preschool education practice. In her works, readers can feel and learn positive, positive and warm educational ideas. He has published best-selling books such as Accompanying Children through the Sensitive Period of 3-6 Years Old and Accompanying Children through the Rebellious Period of 7-9 Years Old, and has also published Children's Nine-type Personality Education Law and Dialogue with Children's Mind under different pseudonyms.
In the work "Parental Speech Training", the author Jing Li mentioned that rude words, reprimanding, questioning and preaching, and negative labels are all undesirable. So what exactly should we do? This book lists some inappropriate words through many specific communication scenes from getting up to going out, from school to family, from study to life, hoping parents can reflect on their problems in communicating with their children. At the same time, this book also provides some reasonable suggestions to improve the efficiency of parent-child communication.
Do you get angry easily and keep urging you to say "I'm ready for breakfast, why are you still sleeping" and "I'm going to be late, get up" when you are nervous in the morning? As a result, instead of solving the problem, it provoked a "war" between parents and children, making the already tense atmosphere even more tense in the morning. In "Morning Talk", the author mentioned that children's difficulty in getting up may be due to sleeping late and having nightmares, so they don't get enough sleep. Children will not arrange their time reasonably; Do not want to go to school; It's cold and warm, and so on. By finding out the specific reasons why it is difficult for children to get up, parents can wake up their children in a targeted, humorous and peaceful way. At the same time, give some verbal advice to parents: "Get up, mom has made you a delicious breakfast, and you love hemp balls." "How are your eyes?" Wake up with a wink. Is your mouth awake? Wake up with a scream ... "Wait.
The book helps parents to know their children better, find out the reasons for their problems and provide specific communication skills by talking in the morning, talking when receiving negative feedback from teachers, talking during homework, talking about family daily behavior, talking about children's socialization and taking their children out for a trip. I hope parents and children can communicate peacefully, equally and effectively.