(Frustration) As far as the mental health of college students is concerned, the most important thing is not the frustration itself, but the negative emotions and inner feelings brought about by the frustration. Therefore, after suffering setbacks, the first thing to face and solve is how to adjust from the emotional state brought about by setbacks such as anger, depression, anxiety, injustice and helplessness. Frustration and failure are inevitable in life, but for different people, they have completely different meanings, either the embellishment of your perfect life or the eternal pain in your life; Whether you are a stepping stone to success or a stumbling block to progress depends entirely on your attitude towards setbacks, that is, your understanding and coping style. In the face of setbacks, we should learn to look at the meaning of setbacks to life from different angles and understand the beauty opposite. We should be able to learn from setbacks and learn to see the positive significance behind them. Psychologists believe that people who have experienced setbacks and failures can bravely meet challenges. People who often experience setbacks during their growth will have a strong ability to survive in adversity after years of tempering. No matter what difficulties arise, it will not be destroyed as easily as a thatched cottage in a storm; When a disaster strikes like a hurricane, it can stand tall and unshakable. Facing setbacks, young college students can take the following measures: 1) Face setbacks calmly and happily. Different people have different attitudes. It is better to face up to it than to escape, fear and refuse. In the face of irresistible setbacks, the only desirable attitude is to face it calmly. If we can happily control the troubles caused by setbacks, then a "trauma" will become a precious "pearl". "Pearl" is something sublimated from a healed wound. It can not only effectively heal wounds, but also let us cherish experience and reduce mistakes. I remember a story: a butterfly didn't go through a painful struggle before it broke its shell, so that after it broke its shell, its body was bloated and its wings shrank, so that it couldn't fly at all and soon died. This short story shows that pain is the only way to grow up, and to get happiness, you must be able to bear pain and setbacks. In one's life, we not only have the painful experience of setbacks, but also have the opportunity to turn misfortune into happiness, pain into priceless treasure, and heartbreaking defects into new strength. When we face it calmly, we can control setbacks; When we have enough courage and remain happy, we can get the most precious harvest. (2) vent moderately and get rid of setbacks as soon as possible. Some people are pessimistic and bury their pain and frustration in their hearts; Others choose to talk-I agree with the latter. If you are depressed, you might as well find one or two close people to pour out your feelings and let unhealthy emotions be vented. Venting is a kind of self-psychological salvation, which can eliminate the mental stress caused by setbacks. Venting should be moderate, and "beggar type", "offensive type" and "touching type" are not worth adopting. If you still want to live with dignity and do something, don't always tell the story of "Amao" like "Sister Lin". That only shows that you haven't come out of the shadow of pain, and your crying can only remind people of your incompetence. When you realize that there are so many serious things waiting for you to do, there is no need to choose the way of "autumn chrysanthemum", because too much "litigation" is too expensive and always "talking" will affect business. Use the time saved to do what you should do, maybe you have long been away from the influence of a "storm". (3) Stimulating potential and self-help are the most shining qualities in life, which has been proved by many examples. In the face of setbacks, some people are devastated, while others inspire their potential and save themselves-the former fails to see their own potential, while the latter fully absorbs it. There is a short story: "A pig dislocated its waist and struggled to climb there. His grandson is going to massage the pig. Grandpa stopped him. Grandpa picked up a clod and threw it at the pig. The pig was frightened and struggled to run. Grandpa chased after him and saw the pig running over and returning to normal. " People who suffer setbacks are like dislocated pigs. What can really help you is not others, but yourself. Sometimes, in the pain of setbacks, we ignore our potential and courage to correct our mistakes, and blindly wait for the help of external forces, which is equivalent to giving up our responsibilities and obligations. This is a lazy and ineffective practice. The "horse fly effect" discovered by Lincoln is actually the same as the "doomsday management" of Wuxi Little Swan Group: using the pressure generated by the crisis to stimulate the great potential of life. People need pressure. Under pressure, dare not relax, work hard and make continuous progress. In fact, keeping yourself busy in life is a way of self-pressure. In the face of setbacks, appropriately diverting attention and increasing benign pressure can effectively improve one's mood. For example, you can adjust your mood by engaging in interesting activities such as stamp collecting, writing, calligraphy, art and music. To relieve all kinds of depression caused by distress. As time goes on, depression will gradually disappear. (4) It is a kind of wisdom and realm to make appropriate choices and stay away from troubles. However, in the face of all kinds of temptations in reality, how many people can do this? Many people used to live peacefully, but once they were involved in too many temptations and desires, they were troubled. Sometimes, we set our goals too high; Sometimes, we set too many goals-this is an important reason for our setbacks. Whether it is the former or the latter, we all feel that what we are willing to do exceeds our ability, and we may eventually lose our way and go to despair. It is wise to learn to choose, not to strive for the first place in everything. It is not a bad thing to give up the goal that you have no ability and conditions. "A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise"? Only by knowing what you want in life, making wise choices and learning to give up can you get rid of unnecessary troubles and have a comfortable life. 3) Learn to tell your secrets, eliminate the pain in the gentleness of family and friendship, and get strength and support from others. One happiness shared by two people becomes two happiness; When two people share a pain, it becomes half a pain. Learning to tell your secrets can not only relieve your pressure and pain, but also learn to look at the problem itself from different angles, and often there will be a "bright future" realm. There are many ways to deal with setbacks, such as living a good day, a full life will make us have no time to take care of setbacks; For example, learn to forget at the same time, let time be the master, and so on. How to choose varies from person to person, and you need to understand it slowly in your life. (Pressure) College students should face the pressure correctly and improve their psychological endurance. College students themselves should realize that college life is not always smooth sailing, and difficulties are inevitable and objective.