Emotional intelligence refers to non-intellectual factors, which is often referred to as psychological quality. If a person is withdrawn, weird and difficult to cooperate; Inferiority, fragility and inability to face setbacks; Impatience, conceit, emotional instability, etc. Are all manifestations of lack of emotional intelligence. No matter how high his IQ is, it is difficult to achieve anything, so emotional intelligence is the key to a person's success. Although EQ has some innate genetic factors, it is more important to cultivate it. So how to cultivate children's emotional intelligence from an early age?
First, educate children to learn to survive.
There is a story about a group of children having a picnic in the mountains and getting lost. They spent a terrible night in humidity and hunger. They burst into tears in despair. "Adults will never find us," a child shouted in despair. "We will die here." However, Avery, who is 1 1, stood up and said, "I don't want to die!" She said firmly, "My father said that as long as you walk along the stream, the stream will take us to a bigger stream, and eventually you will meet a small town. I want to walk along the stream, and you can follow me. " As a result, under the leadership of Avery, they successfully walked out of the forest. Maybe people think that a girl like Eveley is born with talent, but in fact, talent is not born, thanks to her father's acquired education. At present, western countries, including Japan in East Asia, attach great importance to children's survival education. Since children are sensible, they are taught how to survive and stand on their own feet, learn to eat by themselves, arrange things by themselves, and know how to protect themselves under what circumstances.
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◆ How to learn to survive?
◆ How to learn to survive?
Second, cultivate endurance and self-control.
Psychologists have done such an experiment. The kindergarten teacher gave each child a piece of candy and told them, "If you eat now, just give one piece. If you can endure eating for an hour, you can reward another piece. " The results of the follow-up survey show that the success rate of those children who can stand it is much higher than that of those who can't. This is called delayed effect in psychology, or delayed gratification. Many children are anticlimactic, lack will and patience, and rarely succeed in their careers when they grow up. So how to cultivate children's endurance? For example, when a child is eager to drink milk, don't satisfy him immediately, let him cry for a while, talk to him slowly, pat him on the back and then give him something to eat. Patience time gradually lengthened, from a few seconds to a few minutes; For children who spend their pocket money quickly every time, parents can say, "If you can refrain from spending pocket money for a week, I can double it for you next week, and you can save it to buy what you need." When a child encounters difficulties, parents should not help him immediately, but encourage him to persevere and endure the unhappiness caused by setbacks, and he will soon succeed.
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◆ How to cultivate self-control?
◆ How to cultivate children's endurance?
Third, contact the society and see the world through the wind and rain.
Some parents seldom let their children go out, worrying about this and that. Children will cry and hide when they meet strangers, and they will shrink back when they grow up. Some children are selfish and lack unity, so they have few friends. When they grow up, their talents will be affected by interpersonal tension. Therefore, when children are sensible, they should adapt to the new environment, encourage timid children to get in touch with people more, or take the initiative to stand up and answer questions raised by teachers. This process is also called desensitization. If you don't give your child a chance, his adaptability will naturally not sprout.
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◆ The benefits of children's early contact with society
◆ What are the benefits of children's early contact with society?
Fourth, cultivate curiosity and exploration spirit.
Children passively accept external stimuli and gradually become curious about everything around them. They all want to try to touch, see and even take the toys apart. This is an expression of curiosity and an important way to acquire knowledge and skills. If parents don't let the child move, it will not only deprive him of the opportunity to learn, but also stifle his enthusiasm. If you want him to be interested in something in the future, he will be too lazy to move. The correct approach should be for parents to patiently explain what their children are interested in or what they play with.
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◆ Is it important to explore the spirit?
◆ How to cultivate children's curiosity?
Fifth, let children use their brains more.
A boy couldn't climb the first step of the slide because of his short legs. He begged his mother to pick him up. His mother told him, "Use your head and you will find a way." The little boy thought for a moment: "Drag my cart there and stand on it." "Very well, go ahead, son." Mom said. The little boy did this, and everything became very easy. Some things in life, as long as we pay a little attention, will always come up with many solutions to problems, so we should cultivate children's habit of thinking diligently.
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◆ Is it harmful to the brain to use more brains?
◆ What are the benefits of thinking more about yourself?
Cultivate self-confidence and the ability to face setbacks.
A promising 12-year-old child came to the head coach. Instead of asking her to perform gymnastics at once, the head coach gave her four darts to project on the target opposite the office. The little girl said timidly, "What if I miss?" The coach told her, "You should consider how to succeed, not how to fail." The little girl practiced repeatedly and finally succeeded. Therefore, in life, you should tell your children that success, not failure, is the first consideration in doing anything, and only those who believe in their own success can succeed.
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◆ What is frustration education?
◆ How to cultivate children's self-confidence
Seven, protect children's self-esteem.
It is inevitable that children will do something wrong or break things. Don't always scold your child: "Why are you so disobedient!" "This can't move, that can't move. This will hurt children's self-confidence and self-esteem. Don't be afraid that your child's mischief will bring you trouble. Think more about what is good for your child's psychological growth, because the child's mental health mainly refers to the good psychological state shown in emotion and socialization after the child's reasonable needs and wishes are met. Parents should also restrain their simple and rude education methods. If you really don't want your child to play with anything, you should divert your child's interest by diverting attention.
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◆ How to cultivate children's good character
◆ Children have strong self-esteem, how to educate them?
Eight, give encouragement and support.
Children's growth is not smooth sailing, there may be successes and failures, and there may even be unrealistic fantasies. You need more encouragement and support when you encounter difficulties and setbacks. Don't throw cold water on it. Although their dreams are so strange to you, you should be glad that they have a strong imagination. This is the teacher of creation.
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◆ How to encourage and reward children?
◆ What are the benefits of spiritual encouragement for children? Please list them.
Nine, cultivate children's awareness of respect for others, unity, friendship and cooperation.
Society is a group, and it is impossible to achieve anything by one person alone. We must rely on the strength of the group, so we must learn to deal with different people and learn from each other. Parents must cultivate their children's awareness of cooperation with others, train their children's cooperative behavior and increase their cooperative ability. First of all, we should learn to respect others and be good at uniting people who disagree with us.
Children's good psychological quality is manifested as: children are satisfied with themselves, have a lively and happy mood, can adapt to the surrounding environment, have friendly and harmonious interpersonal relationships, and fully display and give play to their personal intelligence. Parents, do your children have these qualities?