A nine-year-old niece next door doesn't have her own room yet. Because of the particularity of her mother's work, she works at night, so when her mother is not working at night, she sleeps with her mother. When her mother works at night, she will sleep with her grandmother.

Of course, there is a father at home. When I was with my grandma, so was my grandpa. What's more, there is a younger brother who is several years younger than her.

This is a particularly incomprehensible thing. Now that the economic conditions are good, children have their own beds and even their own rooms are very simple.

Why do so many eight, nine or even teenagers still sleep in the same bed with their parents? What's more, there is a little boy at home. Is it really good for such a big family to squeeze into one room and one bed? Have parents ever thought about sleeping in separate beds with their children?

Although children only need you to sleep for a few years, you may not want to be close to them when they grow up. Let's not talk about young children. If the child has gone to school, or even is about to enter adolescence, and still sleeps with his parents, then we should consider the difference between men and women, even father and daughter or mother and child.

At the right age, the earlier you sleep in separate beds, the more conducive it is for children to develop their independence.

Some parents don't want to sleep in separate beds with their children, but they don't want to lose time with their children prematurely. Children have to go to school by themselves, work by themselves and stay at night, so even if they have the idea of separating beds, they are always unconsciously dismissed by themselves.

0-6 months, prepare a crib for the children next to you.

From birth to 6 months, sleeping with parents will have great security risks: mom and dad are very tired to take care of the newborn child, and sleeping too hard at night may crush the baby, and the quilt on the bed may inadvertently cover the baby's face, leading to suffocation.

Therefore, trying to let children of this age sleep in cribs may make it difficult for mothers to breastfeed. At this stage, novice mothers need to make correct judgments according to their actual situation, and there is no need to separate beds.

1-3, sleep with mom

1-3-year-old baby, when it is most suitable to establish parent-child relationship, the company of mother can give the child the greatest sense of security. The familiar smell of the mother will reassure the child, which is conducive to the child's sleep and the healthy growth of the child. Sleeping with the baby helps to strengthen the intimate relationship between mother and son, and it is also very helpful for the two to get along in the future.

The 5-year-old baby is relatively mature and has basic common sense of life, so he can gradually let the child sleep alone in his own small room.

Of course, parents are not advised to strictly control a certain age group, because there are differences among individuals, and many aspects need to be considered to truly realize sleeping in separate rooms.

Here are a few tips for everyone, so that children will no longer resist sleeping in separate rooms.

You can take your child to choose his favorite wallpaper and spend some time decorating his room. For example, children like little dinosaurs. Let's put some lovely dinosaur ornaments. Children like cars. Let's add the pattern of the car to the bedding, or directly use the bedding that children are familiar with.

Secondly, parent-child interaction before going to bed.

Many times, children refuse to sleep alone and are afraid of being separated from their parents because they feel insecure. Parents, especially mothers, are reluctant to sleep in separate beds with their children. Let's just say they don't want to give up their children.

However, children will always grow up, even if they are unwilling, we must accept that as long as they reach the right stage, they must sleep in separate beds, and all external and internal reasons must be overcome.

What we need to do is to spend more time with our children before going to bed, tell them stories before going to bed, chat with them, listen to what happened in their day, ask them what they plan to do tomorrow and so on. Let the children know that even if they are asleep, their parents care about themselves and increase their sense of security.

Third, correct gender distinction and sex education.

Why should we talk about gender differentiation before sex education?

The child's cognition of gender is limited to what he sees and his own limited guess, so he is unaware of the necessity of the initial bed separation and will simply think that his parents rejected their practice.

So, you might as well tell your child frankly that your mother is a woman and you are a boy. There are differences between men and women. When I grow up, I can't sleep with my mother, otherwise I can't be a real man.

When it comes to sex education, if you find it difficult to talk about it, you can also use some picture books to explain it to your children and instill these perceptions into them. Not only can you sleep in separate beds smoothly, but you can also let your children have a correct understanding of the two sexes in daily life and study, and avoid unnecessary embarrassment.

Finally, don't scare children easily, and don't promise them easily.

In life, some parents often say to disobedient children, if you don't obey, your mother won't want you, or if you mess around again, don't call me mom. The child is still young and can only understand it literally. What you say will undoubtedly deepen children's fears, make them feel insecure and increase the difficulty of sleeping in separate beds.

There are also some parents who will make some promises casually when facing children who don't want to sleep in separate beds. For example, you will sleep by yourself today, I will buy you your favorite toys tomorrow, I will take you to KFC and so on. Some parents will forget their promises after speaking, but children will firmly remember that long-term commitments will not only make children lose trust in their parents, but also make them more insecure.

Parents with children should understand that it is only a matter of time before their children are alone. Just like sleeping in separate beds, they have to accept it sooner or later. As long as the guidance is good, children will understand that sleeping in separate beds is only a necessity for growth. It is not that parents do not love themselves, and children will understand.