In fact, educating children is like flying kites. If they are too strict, children will be timid, but if parents are too loose, children will have no sense of rules.
Parents should give their children a standardized and relatively relaxed environment in order to maximize their potential.
Therefore, on the road of education, parents need to be "free", let go when it is time to let go, and grasp when it is time to grasp.
I believe that if parents do the following "three non-interference" and "grasping with both hands", children will certainly get better and better!
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Three hands off
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Let the children be independent
Parents should never do what children can do by themselves.
Because you have done something for your child that he should have done by himself, you are actually depriving your child of the ability to do it.
Doing so will not only dampen children's enthusiasm, make them lose the opportunity to practice, but also make them dependent on their parents.
In addition, parents are undoubtedly telling their children: "You can't do it, you can't do it, I don't believe you can do it well!"
If a child grows up in such an environment for a long time, can he really be independent in the future?
Practice has proved that if parents give up the cultivation of children's self-care ability at a certain stage, children's self-care ability may be seriously insufficient or low in the future.
Parents need to trust their children, let them do it, arrange their children to do what they can, and let them gradually become independent.
2 let the children try and make mistakes.
There is a good saying, "To err is human?"
In study, work and life, adults will inevitably make all kinds of mistakes, not to mention innocent children.
Therefore, it is normal for children to make mistakes, and parents don't have to worry too much about their children making mistakes.
There is no white road in the world. Only by letting children try and make mistakes can they cultivate a strong heart.
It is not necessarily a bad thing for children to try and make mistakes. It is an opportunity for children to exercise.
In the process of children making mistakes, it is actually a process of continuous learning and self-improvement. Parents need to cheer up their children.
Failure is the mother of success. Whenever a child makes a mistake, he will get a valuable lesson. Even if he made the same mistake, his gains were different.
If you love your child, give him a chance to try and make mistakes. Those children who have been forgiven and understood can seriously review their actions and correct their mistakes.
3 let the children choose.
A lot of practice has proved that children who have been helped by their parents to make decisions for a long time not only lack the ability to judge and choose when they grow up.
They even lack a sense of responsibility and don't know how to be responsible for their own lives.
If parents want their children to have a better future, they need to give them the opportunity to choose, let them learn how to decide and learn to be responsible for their own decisions.
Parents need to respect their children both in study and in life, and they need to listen to their opinions when it comes to children.
Even if you don't agree with your child's behavior, you need to communicate with your child in a negotiated tone, instead of blindly persuading your child to make a choice according to his own wishes.
Release the child's nature, give the child the opportunity to choose independently, let go appropriately, and let the child see the infinite possibilities.
A qualified parent should guide children, not make decisions for them.
Knowing how to let children choose for themselves is actually a kind of wisdom. Don't always take "I am good to you" as an excuse to deprive children of their right to choose.
Everyone is the master of his own life and has the right to choose independently. As parents, we can't make choices for our children.
What parents can do is to give their children correct guidance and let them have the right to choose their own life!
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Two, hold on tight
1 Pay close attention to cultivating habits
Some people say that good habits are formed from childhood, and good quality is as indestructible as nature.
Indeed, habits can shape a person, and it is very important for a person to develop good behavior norms from an early age.
Parents must cultivate their children's good habits from an early age, including study habits and living habits!
In learning, parents must let their children develop good habits such as preview in advance, review after class, plan ahead, concentrate in class, be good at asking questions and be diligent in thinking.
In life, parents also need to let their children develop good habits such as going to bed early and getting up early, doing their own thing well, being diligent and thrifty, being polite to others, not littering, and not making loud noises in public.
Mr. Ye Shengtao, a famous writer, said that education is to cultivate habits, which are consolidated through repeated and long-term practice and become necessary behaviors.
Therefore, before defining their children, parents must set rules for their children and set a good example for them.
In addition, it is necessary to properly cooperate with school education and check the cultivation of supervision habits. Only in this way can children's habit-forming education be implemented.
Good habits will accompany children all their lives. I hope parents must pay attention to cultivating their children's good habits!
2. Pay close attention to ability training
From the birth of children, parents began to cultivate their children's various abilities.
Life, social skills, and a particularly important thing-learning ability.
There is a saying that makes sense. In the future, truly capable children will turn themselves into iron rice bowls wherever they go.
This is true:
Cultivating life ability can help children learn to take care of their own lives and improve their quality of life.
Cultivate social skills, so that children can make better friends, feel at home in society and not be isolated.
Cultivate learning ability, so that children can learn by going up a flight of stairs and cultivate their interest in learning.
Farsighted parents are a bit cruel. When children are young, they will be given opportunities to exercise various abilities so that they can survive without their parents.
Of course, parents should also consider the development of children's nature while cultivating their children's abilities.
It is necessary to leave free space for children, so that children can feel the joy of growth while exerting their self-awareness, self-esteem and self-control ability.
A psychologist said: "Smart parents are always behind their children, and confused parents are always in front of them."
In fact, the bond between parents and children is like a rubber band, depending on how you use it. & lt/