Someone once said, "The fate of a country is in the hands of its mother, not those in power." It can be seen that parents' education for their children is particularly important, and it also affects children's outlook on life, values and world outlook.
Parents should not only have correct educational concepts, but also adopt scientific educational methods. Generally speaking, family education methods can be divided into four categories: democratic, laissez-faire, indulgent and authoritarian.
"School of Youth" shows how parents and children of different families get along with each other, and mainly tells all kinds of contradictions and stories of four good friends in the same class when the college entrance examination is coming. The four families in Pi have four different educational ideas. In the protagonist Lin's family, Lin's mother is a typical controlling type.
When Lin came home for dinner after a hard day's work, Lin's mother began to nag like a barrage: Did you wash your hands? The armrest is covered with bacteria. Isn't the bus dirty? Lin's father also shook his head helplessly.
Many netizens say that Lin's mother is her biological mother. Lin's mother is a typical nagging and reasonable Chinese mother. Such parents generally adopt strict, high-pressure and compulsory education methods.
This kind of education only starts from parents' subjective consciousness, regardless of children's psychological will, and often beats and scolds children, so that children can't get the warmth and respect they deserve, which easily leads to obedience and irritability.
Contrary to authoritarian education, American psychologist Boris? Cyberz advocates more liberal family education and prefers democratic education in this paper. Under authoritarian education, they are often "obedient" children, but these children have strong self-esteem, fragile feelings and low psychological endurance. According to the report on child suicide in China, the number of child suicides in China has actually reached the first place in the world, which shows that the resilience of children in China is too low.
The most common state of such children is that they can't get up. Young body is inversely proportional to poor state, and when you grow up, you can only become vulgar. Under such education, parents mercilessly cut off their children's wings of freedom, and often hear their parents say "be a good boy, don't make mistakes, be obedient", but life is not smooth sailing. After so many hardships, the most important thing is to let children dare to make mistakes and learn from them.
Democratic education is very important, Boris? Cyberz's son received this kind of education and became very good. He grasped the best period of children's development and inspired his son's great potential. My son was fluent in his mother tongue at the age of three. He was admitted to Harvard at the age of 13 and became an all-rounder. Sebo believes that education is to stimulate children's potential ability in a reasonable way, and those practices that impose children's wishes on children in order to make them a blockbuster will actually lead them astray.
This kind of education is more common in one-child families, which is very similar to Qian Sanyi's family in Pi. When school started, only Aunt Qian's bed was empty. It turned out that Qian Sanyi's mother wanted him to stay at school. Qian Sanyi's mother is the only accompanying mother in the class, so as a day student, Qian Sanyi is very withdrawn and difficult to integrate into the class group. As long as Aunt Qian returns home, she will be surrounded by the love of this "perfect mother".
This unprincipled indulgence education will often make children develop the psychological characteristics of willfulness, jealousy, selfishness, poor self-care ability but strong sense of superiority.
It is thought that educating children is like herding sheep, which gives them too much freedom, and staying away from them when they need company is easy to make them form a cold and withdrawn character.
This is the case with Deng's mother in Pi. She thinks that with money, children will have everything. But Deng has always lacked her mother's company, which makes her feel inferior. She wants to tell others that her mother cooked the lunch she bought outside.
Returning to an empty home, there was no one there, which made her very lonely. Others think she is cold. This kind of reckless laissez-faire education is more likely to make children make mistakes because they have no guidance, and it is also easy to produce withdrawn personality.
Educating children is like watering flowers. If you water less, the flowers will dry up; if you water too much, the roots will rot. The same is true of educating children. Too tight or too loose management is not conducive to the growth of children. It is very important to master it properly. This is how Jiang Tianhao's father raised his children. When other children took the college entrance examination, their parents were extremely nervous, and Jiang Tianhao's parents analyzed the situation and guided him to make the right choice.
Democracy is the most ideal way of education. Parents often have good psychological quality and cultural accomplishment. They are very patient and comfortable with their children's education, adopt heuristic education, put truth in the simplest dialogue and set an example for children.
Democratic education means that parents and children get along equally and guide their children with a peaceful attitude. This kind of education requires parents to be patient when making mistakes and have certain educational strategies.
Educating children with an equal attitude will often make them face the world with a positive and optimistic attitude, full of passion for life and full of high creativity and imagination. Faced with difficulties, such children often become more frustrated and brave and become the leaders of their own lives. ...
Therefore, among these educational methods, I support democratic education. The perfection of this kind of education means that parents and children can make progress together, and children's character will not be flawed because of doting and autocracy, and a good family atmosphere will be created, which is more conducive to cultivating children.
In the movie Genius Girl, Mary, a five-year-old girl who is still in kindergarten, has demonstrated her extraordinary mental arithmetic ability.
Her grandmother wanted to train her to be an extraordinary mathematician, so she gave her advanced math problems as gifts. Mary soon fell in love with mathematics, and only regarded mathematics as a pleasure in life.
Her uncle dragged her to the seaside and told her, "Your life is up to you. Try to find fun in life. "
In the upsurge of interest classes, many parents try to train their children into "gifted teenagers", but they never thought that many people are ordinary people, and real gifted teenagers should also have fun and experience a beautiful life, not to mention all of us!
Mary is a talented girl, and the way her uncle educated her shocked me.
After Mary learned that her father had abandoned her, her father never came to see her again. She felt very sad and thought that no one was happy for her when she was born. However, my uncle took her to the hospital and witnessed the atmosphere of welcoming new students. So there was this scene: the doctor came out of the delivery room with joy and told his relatives the good news of the birth of the child. The family shed tears and embraced excitedly. Mary joined them happily and felt deeply happy. In this way, it is much better to tell children that she is loved by her family than to teach them to hate someone!
I really like a sentence in the Japanese movie "tokyo godfathers", "Family ties are feelings that we can cherish each other even if we show our true selves to each other", that's right! Affection allows us to learn tolerance and how to love.
You Mei Ji, lacking the care of his family, became grumpy and difficult to understand. So family education is very important. As parents, we should always communicate with our children. As children, we should respect our parents and understand them as much as possible.
In a word, family education is to guide children to take the right path, be their first light, and correct their wrong outlook on life, values and world outlook. The premise of education is trust. Every parent should believe in their children's abilities, affirm their talents and develop their quality! In the process of family education, we should pay attention to encouragement and carry forward appreciation education; In the process of getting along with children, parents should strive to create a peaceful state, educate their children equally, give them the right to speak and make progress with them.
Minimize contradictions, and if there are contradictions, it is necessary to dredge them more; Finally, parents should set an example for their children, which will also make their children's behavior more convincing.