Six standards of parent-child relationship
First, there is nothing wrong with gradually shaping the busyness of contemporary parents at work from an early age. It is wrong to ignore children on the grounds of "busy work". From birth to pregnancy, parents need to take time out to talk with their children and pick them up to play games. For example, let the children play in the corner of the restaurant kitchen when cooking, or give him a good hug after taking a shower-is it really difficult?
Second, master the child's development until the child 1 year old, he will find fighting very fun; First negative phase will not appear until he is 2 years old; If he is with children, he will find it interesting to compete for toys-have you mastered all these? When "problems" appear, don't understand and deal with them rudely. Only by mastering the overall situation of children and the laws of children's physical and mental development can many problems be solved and violent parent-child conflicts are not easy to cause. In order to be more stable on the urban road of child-rearing education, interested parents should study this course well. In fact, it is not too difficult to get high marks!
Third, communication skills between parents "Don't listen to dad, throw this mud ball away!" "Your mother likes talking nonsense!" Do you often hear or say similar things? Stop. When the couple disagree about the discipline of their children, they should discuss it in private. Don't quarrel in front of children, or even slander each other. You should understand that the other party's brand image has been maintained, and the other party's brand image has also been maintained. Naturally, if the other person looks at the child too much, such as being too violent or too vulgar, it will cause physical and mental harm to the child, or it should be emphasized immediately. Then, please discuss with your partner the manners that we both agree on.
Fourth, it is inevitable to sign the regulations to "manage" children, otherwise it will fall into the bottom of pampering, and it is difficult to guarantee the satisfaction of parents and children. Reasonable methods of discipline depend on the establishment of standards and restrictions. Parents can bravely say "no" and don't be indecisive because their children are crying, otherwise, the standard will lose its practical significance. Standards are set to better regulate children's personal behavior and prevent problems, such as being polite when meeting next-door neighbors and not playing with knives. Let the child know that this rule is all about loving him, in order to better let him learn to stand on his own feet, learn to take responsibility, and learn to cultivate, and never destroy the parent-child relationship because of this rule.
Children's eyes shine through words and deeds, and parents' words and deeds are under their noses. If parents are still doing what they say they don't have to do, then the child's psychology will cause "why can the elders do it and I can't", which will naturally undermine the child's trust and attention to parents and ultimately endanger the parent-child relationship.
6. Every child is unique. Don't blame your child or yourself just because you read a few books and find that the child is not completely consistent with what the book says. Don't blindly follow the trend and doubt your child because of some differences in personality or development between your child and the children in the neighborhood. "Extensible discipline" is the way of smart parents. You should find the characteristics of your baby and find the best way to communicate with him.